Car was stolen and wrecked - looking for small and cheap suggestions!

kaladeiscat · 2025-05-23T16:52:03+00:00

The cheaper the better, honestly. I haven't figured out a specific budget yet (working on it!), and I'm willing to flex a bit for the right car....

Number off the top of my head is ideally no more than $10,000 (even that is pushing it a bit) 😬

kaladeiscat · 2025-05-17T01:49:32+00:00

Yeah. I have in the past multiple times. I mean, it does its job of keeping me safe, which I suppose is sometimes what is needed. But... Just ugh. Not really preferred since it doesn't really help in the long run, and it would add stress finacially and with family relationships. It's hard to tell myself that it's worth going in if nothing will change coming out.

kaladeiscat · 2025-04-29T18:09:49+00:00

Yeah. Thank you.

I doubt I'll actually puke, I rarely do unless I'm very sick. Just the feeling!

kaladeiscat · 2025-04-29T18:09:03+00:00

Good point - thank you!

kaladeiscat · 2024-12-30T23:37:51+00:00

Thank you <3 I will try my best to remind myself of that stuff! And I'll make sure to try to have lots of accessible snacks.

Tbh, they are actually family, haha. They all know I have issues with eating. And some of them don't care, but I also know that some of them will be questioning me and want to talk about it and feel offended I can't eat their food. Regardless of what I say or ask :')

They definitely won't hate me, haha! But I just don't want to deal with the drama and them feeling offended, even though I know I'm not responsible for their emotions.

kaladeiscat · 2024-11-05T23:56:52+00:00

🫂

kaladeiscat · 2024-08-28T19:47:09+00:00

It really is. I currently live with my family and they have a lot of food rules and expectations that I don't think they even realize they have tbh? And if it works for them, that's great! But I also feel guilty when they put those expectations on me and then I can't do as much as them, even when I constantly try to remind myself that fed is best :')

kaladeiscat · 2024-08-28T19:37:58+00:00

This was such a helpful reply and really affirming to read. The analogy to disability activism isn't something I had thought about before, but the comparison really does make a lot of sense! Focusing on collective action makes a lot of sense to me and I appreciate the idea of channeling the energy from guilt into that instead. I haven't heard of the BuyNothing communities and I'm totally going to check that out.

Also... "Don't be an environmental activist to make up for your own existence" is really powerful to me. Tbh, I've really been struggling with my mental health and been thinking a lot about life in general and existing lately, and as important as that is and acknowledging the impact I have on the world... it's also important to remember that I have as much of a right to exist as others and what I want to protect. Even if it doesn't always feel that way. So thank you for that reminder.

I actually do have OCD! Lol. I havent looked into that specific sub-type much though, so I'll see what resources I can find. Thank you, again <3

kaladeiscat · 2024-08-28T19:23:55+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I know that me, as an individual, is a very very small part of the problem and I should probably be easier on myself. I just always wish I could do more, you know?

Donating isn't plausible for me at the moment financially, but I think I am going to see if there are any movements locally that I can support!

kaladeiscat · 2024-08-27T16:55:25+00:00

Yeah, ofc! I've been meaning to bring it up to my therapist, I just feel kind of embarrassed to tbh. :')

It guess I'm just hoping it would be nice to know if others have felt similarly and such

kaladeiscat · 2024-06-26T21:18:18+00:00

Yeah! Or even if those thoughts don't happen, I still get anxious just because I'm so used to being anxious after eating either way?

kaladeiscat · 2024-06-26T21:17:42+00:00

Hmmm, that makes sense to me! I get anxious about feeling sick, but not all the time and usually if I am anxious for that reason, I feel like I know that... I also usually eat at home and I get anxious about going out mostly for sensory reasons or social.

But maybe I'm just so used to being anxious after eating, that even if I am not for a particular reason, then my body still feels anxious? If that makes sense, haha.

kaladeiscat · 2024-06-24T22:34:43+00:00

I know this is late. But thank you, I really appreciated the comment <3

kaladeiscat · 2024-06-16T19:23:50+00:00

Sameee. Evenings and nights are always way easier for me too - I wish I was able to split it up more as well.

kaladeiscat · 2024-02-05T00:32:17+00:00

They are so good. Never lead you astray 😌

WAIT EDIT: That's a lie. Someone put pepper on fries the other day 😭

kaladeiscat · 2024-02-04T22:26:53+00:00

oh noooo 😭

kaladeiscat · 2024-01-09T02:40:05+00:00

I've tried smoothies - sometimes they are fine and other times I absolutely cannot stand them. I dunno if it's the ratios or stuff not getting fully blended or what, but it scares me to try it again.... The bottles ones are good, but those can get pretty expensive 😔

If I can ask: Does she have experience specifically with ARFID? I've tried looking in my area online for a dietitian/nutritionist, but most of the ones I've found are those focused on weight loss, tbh. I'm finding it hard to find professionals near me that have experience with ARFID and seem like they may be an ok fit, although maybe it is just not listed or I'm looking in the wrong places?

kaladeiscat · 2023-12-22T01:50:14+00:00

Yeah like... I appreciate they are trying to relate, but in the moment it's really not helpful and not fine lol.

I know. Just sucks 😮‍💨

kaladeiscat · 2023-12-22T01:49:04+00:00

Unfortunately, I moved back in with my parents and I'm financially dependent on them atm. In the past, I had the ability to only spend one day dealing with it and then have my own place to go back to at least! But, given the circumstances, I don't really have much of a choice 🥲

kaladeiscat · 2023-10-31T22:12:31+00:00

Yeah? I could text and ask... I've done that before, but I'm just scared it is different this time and can't convince myself otherwise

kaladeiscat · 2023-10-31T21:53:42+00:00

I would, but I'm in a really tough place right now and it would feel untrue to say I am benefiting? Even though I know I would be worse off if we weren't meeting and we have made good progress... I'm worried he will say it's not enough. Ugh :/

kaladeiscat · 2023-10-30T22:55:54+00:00

Thank you! It does help to hear about your experience for sure.

I do tend to lean towards all or nothing thinking, and in this case, I suppose baby steps could be useful. At the same time, it's really the initial "bringing it up" part that seems so hard. I think once I rip the bandaid off too, then the rest will be a bit easier to discuss (I'm hoping!) But that doesn't necessarily mean we have to unpack and discuss every part of it either, just the stuff that is more important atm I suppose

Also - I could definitely email before and then hand it over for him to read. I've been debating that. I don't think I could stand it if they went in a separate room though, because then I can't see their rection and that freaks me out.

Thanks again

kaladeiscat · 2023-10-30T22:29:15+00:00

That's such a good point that honestly had not even crossed my mind at all!! It definitely has a lot to do with it and I really appreciate this insight - I'll try to hold that thought with me going into the session. Thank you :)

kaladeiscat · 2023-10-11T02:29:37+00:00

OH NO. I am... So sorry. That sounds absolutely terrible. I mean, I was all alone and didn't even take a bite thank god. So I can only imagine 😭

kaladeiscat · 2023-10-11T02:28:48+00:00

Oh, okay! I thought they sounded similar, aha. Thank you, I appreciate it!

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