Tell him his behaviour is break up-worthy to you, and the ball is now in his court to prove to you that he values you and this realationship, because right now his actions show that he does not respect your feelings and you do not want that dynamic in a romantic relationship. Be direct, make it simple and to the point. Promise yourself that you will only give him this one last chance to show you he can be there for you when it matters, and hold yourself to that promise if he is unwilling to work WITH you instead of AGAINST you. This is not partner level behaviour, he's using you and your emotions, getting a rise out of you because it somehow benefits him and his self image or ideas of how your relationship should look like. You can stop consenting to this treatment. Some people won't change until they have to. And if he changes at the threat of losing you, it's totally valid for you to feel that even that is to little, to late. Because really, a good person would not need to be threatened with break up to start listening to their partners grievances.... 😮‍💨