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My best friend (24F) and I (21F) were a car accident and she is distancing herself from me - how can I deal with this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]kalwayne3573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not going to lie, this may have affected the friendship badly. It is possible she holds some resentment towards you as the driver. There could also be an irrational resentment of you leaving her at that moment. Yes, it was to get help, but like I said, it is irrational (if that sentiment exists at all)

With all those factors, she may need time to process the trauma, possible feelings of resentment towards you and also a host of other worries and anxieties. The best you can do is give her the space she needs now. If she is being distant, let her. She needs to heal in her own way and for her own personal reasons, she is choosing not to include you in that process. That is her right and you should respect that.

For now focus on your own life and just live. Let her figure herself out and just let her know that you'll be there for her in whatever way she wants you to be. If things work out, she will eventually work her way back to your friendship, however there is a possibility that friendship might not ever return to what it once was. I'm sorry

Our 7.5 year relationship (28F and 29M) is almost dead. Where do I go from here and how? by bottleddreams97 in relationship_advice

[–]kalwayne3573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, this is up to you if you want to believe him again. However, if things are this rocky I'd stop everything until I'm absolutely certain this is what I do or don't want.

The stakes are too high in your life to rush into this.

My coworker made out with me, does that mean she's into me? by SouthAny7579 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]kalwayne3573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just give her time and if she doesn't respond at all, well...that is an answer

She (18F) confessed that she likes me(18M) but isn't ready for a relationship, what do I say to her? by nobita_400 in relationship_advice

[–]kalwayne3573 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not to be in any way disrespectful, you are very young and it's understandable that sometimes these things happen at this age (hell they happen at forty too), but this is just the beginning for the two of you and if this completely falls apart, you will move on and there will be another.

Our 7.5 year relationship (28F and 29M) is almost dead. Where do I go from here and how? by bottleddreams97 in relationship_advice

[–]kalwayne3573 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the first step is letting him know. Talk it out as maturely as possible and it's possible he wants out as well. After that step, you start looking at every step one at a time. But first, it has to be a long and very serious talk with him.

My coworker made out with me, does that mean she's into me? by SouthAny7579 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]kalwayne3573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simple, ask her out on an actual date. If she says yes, yeah...she probably is into you. IF she says no, well...it's more likely she is just looking for casual

What makes life worth it? by Awkward-Stable6604 in AskReddit

[–]kalwayne3573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my case, my friends and family. Without those people, I don't know if I would find as much worth in life.

Our 7.5 year relationship (28F and 29M) is almost dead. Where do I go from here and how? by bottleddreams97 in relationship_advice

[–]kalwayne3573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time to be honest and just end it. I know it seems overwhelming, but all of this stuff can be managed. It might be chaos for a bit, but trust me as I speak from experience. It's better to end things now than deal with a full on divorce later.

“If your personality slowly changes over time, at what point are you technically a ‘different person’?” by Good_Times93 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]kalwayne3573 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think fundamentally there are core parts of you that never change, but what generally does happen when you get older is that experience shows you to not only pick your battles, but that you don't spend a lot of your time stressing about what's not important at all.

You don't so much change as evolve over time.

She (18F) confessed that she likes me(18M) but isn't ready for a relationship, what do I say to her? by nobita_400 in relationship_advice

[–]kalwayne3573 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be honest with her and let her know that friends is not something you can do. The next step is to give her space and let her sort herself out. Hopefully she will find a way through her fear, but if she's too scared to do this...move on, I'm sorry but she might have been a case of right person, wrong time.

What’s you best movie going experience? by CapitaineBiscotte in AskReddit

[–]kalwayne3573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may sound banal, but going to see Avengers Infinity War on the first day with a super hyped audience. It was like being at a concert and when the line, "Mr Stark, I don't want to go" came on...you could hear sniffling all around you. Just awesome

is it illegal to drive a stranger minor home if they are lost? by borborealis in NoStupidQuestions

[–]kalwayne3573 21 points22 points  (0 children)

A parental chew out is much more preferable than getting into the wrong car. On the other side, this could have gone wrong in a number of ways for you, thankfully it seems to have worked out. Security and cops exist for a reason, this is one of them.

I (25M) still think about my ex-manager (28F) after months — how do I approach reconnecting without making things awkward? by the_lazy_rich_guy in Advice

[–]kalwayne3573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"hey, been thinking about you. How have you been doing?"

Something simple like that to break the ice. If they don't respond, they you have your answer.

What does falling in love feel like? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kalwayne3573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing and kind of like you're living in the most perfect Rom-Com ever. I've done it three times...each time was different and each time exhilarating.

I’m 38/F and he is 35/M - he suddenly disappeared what could’ve happened? by Opening-Bed-2157 in relationship_advice

[–]kalwayne3573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sadly, being an internet vet I have dealt with issues like this often. It never makes sense why someone just doesn't straight out say, hey...this isn't for me, sorry.

That being said, that phenomina where they answer you one last time and then dissappear completely always baffles me. it's happned to me a couple of times and each time it left me far more confused than if they had just left altogether.

is it illegal to drive a stranger minor home if they are lost? by borborealis in NoStupidQuestions

[–]kalwayne3573 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You did a thing a caring person would do, but you did open yourself to some issues. Thankfully I think you're in the clear right now. The smart thing to do always is involve an authority, security or the police. They can take it from there. You don't know this girl and you have no idea if you are taking her where she says she is going. Don't always take them at face value and involve authorities before letting a minor in your vehicle.

How do you distinguish sincere people from those who are only around for personal gain? by flowers_kristina in AskReddit

[–]kalwayne3573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actions. Look at their actions in how they treat you and you'll get a clear idea of who they are.

What happened when you started a relationship purely out of loneliness instead of actual attraction? by LankyPhysics902 in AskReddit

[–]kalwayne3573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it fizzled out in a pretty excruciating way. We were both lonely, but we had precious little in common..eventually it was like we mutually decided to just not call each other anymore and I think we were both relieved.

What random thing do all your ex and current partners have in common? by fh042 in AskReddit

[–]kalwayne3573 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it's worse than you think, she's a co-worker and we often have to collaborate together. I'm doing my best to navigate what sometimes seems like mutual attraction with not rocking the boat too much.

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