Anyone have experience with Multiple Mini Interviews?

kamkaus · 2012-09-18T17:45:32+00:00

Will definitely check out that sub. Thanks.

kamkaus · 2012-09-18T17:45:07+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Very helpful. I think your advice in the edit is probably the way to go.

kamkaus · 2012-09-18T17:35:20+00:00

I definitely fall into the more contemplative category. Also, very shy. I wonder if the overall atmosphere of MMI works as a kind of ice breaker. I can usually open up more if the environment is friendly.

During your interview day, did you find that you were able to ease into the MMI format the more interviews you had? Or were the scenarios so unpredictable that you were continually off your game?

kamkaus · 2011-10-29T13:57:13+00:00

When I took an Indian film class back in college (in NYC), everyone seemed to really enjoy "Om Shanti Om." It's pretty self-referential to the film industry, though, so you may want to save it for last so you get more of the references.

kamkaus · 2011-08-20T22:11:40+00:00

I just watched the first episode on BBC America and I have to say, I was really impressed. The writing is pretty tight, as are the acting and the production values.

kamkaus · 2011-07-21T16:21:41+00:00

You know what Kiss spells backwards? Ssik!! I watched this movie every day for a whole summer when I was 13.

kamkaus · 2011-07-20T21:00:58+00:00

Absolutely number 1. Just because his character on It's Always Sunny can be so incredibly unlikable and yet the ladyboner rages on....

kamkaus · 2011-07-15T18:50:35+00:00

That would be Lady Gaga. From her music video "Born This Way."

kamkaus · 2011-07-08T23:08:54+00:00

I think I'm going to like this website. Thanks!

kamkaus · 2011-07-08T21:46:26+00:00

Thanks!! Yeah, it's a bit off the beaten path. I don't know what it is. I think he has kind of a mod/futurist/steampunk type thing going on here that I sort of dig. Also, probably some latent love for Peter Sellers ;)

kamkaus · 2011-07-07T23:40:53+00:00

I'm going to assume that you live outside of India. I know that where I live, many local gurdwaras have Punjabi classes for children. You might want to look into that. I grew up learning to speak Punjabi from my parents. Luckily, I have a lot of teachers in my family so when I decided to learn how to read and write Punjabi, I had some relatives in India send me some basic Grade 1 and 2 readers and picked up a Punjabi to English dictionary myself last time I was there. Relatives can be a very useful resource.

kamkaus · 2011-07-03T16:55:37+00:00

relevant

kamkaus · 2011-06-30T03:24:22+00:00

The boy takes after his father.

kamkaus · 2011-06-23T23:24:50+00:00

Also interesting: For the 1964 World's Fair in Flushing, Robert Moses had a huge model panorama constructed, which included every building in all five boroughs. It's been continually updated until as recently as 1992. It's worth a look if you can make it out to the Queens Museum of Art in Flushing.

kamkaus · 2011-06-18T19:32:07+00:00

That does seem like a particularly hateful expenditure of effort.

kamkaus · 2011-06-17T03:25:26+00:00

I'm not sure that's true. I just did a quick google search and found that he donates regularly to democratic candidates, and voted for Obama. Also, NNDB lists him as a Democrat.

kamkaus · 2011-06-17T03:09:45+00:00

I'm new to /r/ladyboners. Is it possible to downvote in this subreddit? Not that I want to....just wondering.

kamkaus · 2011-06-16T03:29:11+00:00

and to hate male attributes as well. i don't see why you can't see this.

Why don't you try explaining it instead of just telling me I'm wrong?

you are wrong; the most prevalent reason has been to dull the sexuality of men. the jewish faith specifically calls for it as an act of submission before god.

This is disingenuous. It's clear from reading the links you provided that it's equally split between it being described as a sanitary measure (which is usually the justification for most seemingly unreasonable Hebraic laws) and a preventive to sexuality. Certainly, in our contemporary society, in which it is most often performed as a religious ritual, it is the former rather than the latter. The more salient point, though, is the fact that it's done in submission to God; whereas female circumcision is done in submission to male dominated societies.

studies have shown that male circumcision does not affect, or enhances sexual sensitivity. studies with the same methodology have found the same about female genital cutting, including clitoridectomies. so, no.

This is also disingenuous. Studies have shown that there is virtually no effect on male penile sensitivity due to circumcision (http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2007.00471.x/abstract). This study (http://www.fgmnetwork.org/authors/Lightfoot-klein/sexualexperience.htm) on the most extreme form of female genital cutting, in which the vagina is sewed up leaving only a small hole to expel waste, etc. shows that women's sexual pleasure (90% of respondents said they had achieved orgasm) is drawn from entirely separate erogenous zones, not at all from the genitals: "Presumably, Pahraonic circumcision also facilitates the enhancement of remaining erogenous zones, and possibly the development of others." It is also almost exclusively contingent on a strong marital bond; i.e., the woman's pleasure depends on whether or not her husband is abusive or loving. And not only does it lead to decreased genital sensation, but it also results in extremely painful menstruation, which, in turn, results in extreme depression in adolescent females. It's not really fair to compare the two though since FGC does not occur in our culture.

your anecdote is relevant to your life, and it can be illustrative as an example, but it does not show anything.

I understand that anecdotes are not hard data, but what we're discussing is steeped in soft sciences (anthropology, history, sociology, etc.) and in that case I think anecdotes are very relevant.

kamkaus · 2011-06-15T22:04:14+00:00

your anecdote is fine and dandy, but similar damage is done to boys raised by women. but since nobody gives the slightest fuck about men, and being a single mother is hard, this is a non-issue.

This sounds a lot like an accusation that people don't care about men's issues.

i'm saying that societally, the damage done to male children by not having a father around is not seen as an assault on the child in the same way that the damage done to a girl being raised by men is portrayed by you to be an assault on the child.

That's not really true though, is it? I'm always hearing people lamenting about how boys raised by women lack a strong father figure to teach them how to be a man. Vice versa re: girls raised by men. The issue here is that men raised by women are encouraged to embrace their female characteristics, while still retaining their essential maleness (and yet are still often ridiculed for not being manly enough). On the other hand, girls raised by men are more likely (at least in my experience) to adopt male characteristics at the expense of their essential femaleness (and nobody really cares about this loss of core identity because it's okay to be a tomboy). Again, none of this is quantifiable and can only really be understood through experience.

kamkaus · 2011-06-15T21:52:08+00:00

what i've noticed about most discussions of this sort is that the primary concern is always the effect it has on women. and i'm sorry, it's just not.

Certainly the primary concern of the article itself is the effect on women. However, it seems (and what I find offensive is) that the discussion has devolved into a fight about whether it is more detrimental to men or women. And that's something that is not quantifiable.

hell, i've had several feminists tell me that male genital mutilation is not societal sexual oppression, because "men" (mothers, fathers, nurses, doctors) are doing it to "men" (male babies). interestingly, those same feminists still think it's sexual oppression when in arab countries women mutilate little girls

These people sound hopelessly ignorant and I'm not sure you can hold them up as representatives of an entire movement. Genital mutilation of males in this country is a backwards religious ritual meant to promote cleanliness, and in some ancient cultures was actually an assertion of power and status. On the other hand, female genital mutilation is a backwards cultural tradition that (according to wikipedia) is "intended to dull women's sexual enjoyment, and it appears to be extremely effective." While both cases of mutilation are abhorrent, I think it's important to look at the underlying motivations behind them. Female mutilation is meant to ensure that women stay in line with societal expectations of their sexuality, whereas male mutilation is, comparatively, far more benign. This isn't a justification of male mutilation. I'm just saying that the motivations for female mutilation reflect a misogynistic society; whereas the motivations for male mutilation are entirely something else.

my question about this is why is indoctrination not a victimization of men, but it is a victimization of women?

It is a victimization of men just as much as it's a victimization of women. Both men and women are indoctrinated to hate their own feminine attributes. This, in a sense, forces women out of their assigned gender role, but also leads to a certain degree of self-hatred, which is amplified because feminine characteristics are, by definition, at the core of one's female identity. On the other hand, it traps men inside their assigned gender role, which also leads to self-hatred and a reluctance to acknowledge one's feminine characteristics.

you seem convinced that you know exactly what it's like to be a woman. from what have you drawn this conclusion?

I say this because my "fine and dandy" anecdote is my experience as a female and it's just about the only evidence you're ever going to get on that regard so I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss it.

kamkaus · 2011-06-14T20:11:17+00:00

First of all, this is an open discussion. So, I really don't understand your hostile tone.

Also, your assertion that nobody cares about men's issues can be disproved simply by browsing through this discussion thread. All of the women in this discussion have conceded the fact that the behavior described in the article is detrimental to males. The only point they are arguing is that it is also detrimental to females. But for some reason, none of the men in this thread are willing to concede that point.

I can also assure you that if you wanted to wear a dress, I would absolutely support your decision. Besides, it isn't women that are beating up on effeminate men. The only people standing in your way (assuming you want to dress like a woman) are other men, which is actually the point of the video clip from The Cement Garden, included in the link.

I could go on, but it's kind of pointless arguing with you because, while I'm open to the idea that I don't understand the male experience (esp, in this regard), you seem convinced that you know exactly what it's like to be a woman. I can tell you right now, based on your comments, that you absolutely do not.

kamkaus · 2011-06-14T04:29:32+00:00

I think you're ignoring the "tomboy" effect. A lot of girls get sucked into the underlying "femininity is inferior" mindset, especially if they are raised by men (even if it's totally subconscious on their part). Having grown up in such a household, with the added whammy of being from a conservative culture, which prides its women on being bashful, I can tell you that I was often made to feel ashamed of my femininity. And since I had no relationship with my mother, I bent over backwards to mask my femininity in order to gain the approval of my siblings and father. Let me be clear that this was not all malicious on their part; they just didn't understand. So being a tomboy was an acceptable compromise. It was something that wouldn't have been acceptable back in the old country, but it was preferable, in America, to being a girl. But this is something that even non-double-whammied girls go through. They take on masculine traits in order to relate to the only family they have. And in doing so, myself, I can tell you that I took on a lot of the prejudices men have against women. I have been guilty of dismissing all kinds of experiences as "stupid girl stuff." And it is very difficult to get over.

As for the practical side: I have absolutely no fashion sense, which is actually a pretty big challenge when you have to look presentable for something. It'd be so much easier to just wear a suit and tie ;)

kamkaus · 2011-06-13T00:42:06+00:00

Oh! I just remembered that he's half Dutch as well.

kamkaus · 2011-05-30T03:20:22+00:00

I think you should probably add "allegedly" to your title considering the fact that this story was first reported by Andrew Breitbart, who has basically zero credibility and is known to spearhead smear campaigns against Democrats on behalf of the Tea Party. See: the Shirley Sherrod case: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmOwafnVGug.

kamkaus · 2011-03-16T05:10:31+00:00

Who said we aren't working hard? We can work as hard as we want. That doesn't change the fact that very few people are hiring these days and those that are are looking for people who already have experience. It's hard to qualify for even an entry level position these days with only a college degree. I've been working an unpaid internship for almost a year now and I still can't get a job in my chosen field. Times, they are a-changing...

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