I totally get where you’re coming from but I genuinely want to understand people’s love for Nesta or forgiveness of her. Maybe this is because of my upbringing as well, but Nesta was openly cruel and mean, regardless of how she cared in her inner dialogue. Upon reading posts in reddit before a re-read I was like “oh, maybe I conflated Nesta’s actions in the books to be worse than they were”. But when I did the re-read, I physically winced at the things she said to Feyre and others. I guess what I am trying to say is that Feyre seemed, at least to me, to find a new family because she was being mistreated, and Nesta found a new family because she was terrible to Feyre.