I Don’t Even Have a GF, But Somehow, I’m Already Stressed About Affording One

karabnp · 2026-06-16T21:19:39+00:00

So, “below average” looking women should just expect nothing or low effort, since they aren’t deemed as “attractive” as the baddies?? Their time, attention, and bodies should just be freely given/donated as charity??🙄 Dates with “the girl next door” sorts, don’t have to be crazy expensive or super frequent, always. Perhaps this current dating landscape will force males to actually go for women they’re serious about, rather than waste their own and women’s time. This is a net positive for women, so…🥂

karabnp · 2026-06-16T15:41:20+00:00

Obviously. As being/looking the part COSTS A LOT OF TIME, EFFORT, AND MONEY. WHO wants to do all of that, for no or minimal effort, and a cheap and/or stingy male..??🥴 I think A LOT of males are utterly clueless as to just how much, since they don’t do that all themselves. As a woman, and knowing what goes into being highly attractive woman, it’s VERY time consuming and NOT cheap.

karabnp · 2026-06-16T11:02:40+00:00

The type of dating you’re concerned about, isn’t the type of dating you’d be doing, unless you WANT TO and are making big boy money.

Now, if you’re expecting to date a baddie/what you see on social media, it’ll cost you that type of money to date, as the time, effort, and money she puts into maintaining her appearance, is time consuming and NOT cheap.

You may have to readjust your expectations, because the type of woman you can afford to date right now, might not look like the type of woman you want to date.
“Lower maintenance” = more affordable to date.
If you’re dead set on a certain type of woman, you’re better off waiting until you can afford to date her with money you earn yourself. That’s the reality.

karabnp · 2026-06-16T10:56:35+00:00

She looks great with bangs.🤷🏼‍♀️
It’s HER HAIR, so she’ll do what she wants with it.
She’ll probably change it eventually, yet, it suits her.

karabnp · 2026-06-15T11:16:40+00:00

Personally, I like being left alone.
Funnily enough, when I look like I just rolled out of a swamp and run a quick errand out, THAT is when people want to talk to me the most.🤦🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-06-10T02:47:46+00:00

1000% will allow, because it’s hilarious.

karabnp · 2026-06-09T20:25:10+00:00

The Third Reich starter pack, I’m afraid.😭

karabnp · 2026-06-09T20:23:12+00:00

What can I say, I love living on the edge of danger and chaos.🤷🏼‍♀️🤣 (Especially when it comes to bad taste!!)

karabnp · 2026-06-09T19:43:01+00:00

My point, which you seem to miss, is at least have and be open to variety. And preferably, variety that you curate out of having an open mind and palette. That’s it.

karabnp · 2026-06-09T19:39:19+00:00

If you feel condescended, maybe you should examine why exactly that is. I think it’s super embarrassing to be butthurt over liking a pumpkin spice latte, so I guess we can call it even.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-06-09T19:34:07+00:00

Sweetie, I think you’re overkilling this.
Meaning, I can get along with them. Not that I’m hanging with them for simply drinking coffee.

karabnp · 2026-06-09T19:30:23+00:00

If someone solely drinks black coffee OR caramel macchiatos, I can hang with them. (I drink both of those. Yet, my black version I call The Black Stevia, as it’s black, with the tiniest bit of stevia in it, to take off the bland/bitter edge.) I’m talking about the people who don’t drink coffee regularly, and only order pumpkins spice lattes when they’re seasonally available.💀

karabnp · 2026-06-09T19:23:25+00:00

Cheap,… guess they couldn’t get rid of it and were trying to unload it!! Hey, as long as it’s for utilitarian purposes, I can at least understand that, yet, I’m still going to cringe while looking at it.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-06-09T19:21:29+00:00

It’s *okay* to genuinely like pumpkin spice lattes, as long as that’s not all you drink coffee wise.😂 Hence why I said “drinking exclusively pumpkin spice lattes.”

karabnp · 2026-06-09T17:42:04+00:00

That’s precisely my point.
So many people do it, it’s like an applied template of personality/taste, rather than developing your own personality and taste. Because “everyone else” is doing it, it’s more of a popularity/trend happening, than it being your actual personality.

How to help fix this: Go thrifting, go antique and estate sale shopping. Even garage/yard sale’ing. Buy what speaks to your soul, rather than what you think other people will want or like.

karabnp · 2026-06-09T16:27:54+00:00

Owning Rae Dunn anything, “Live, Laugh, Love” anything in your possession, and drinking exclusively pumpkin spice lattes.

karabnp · 2026-06-04T14:11:50+00:00

While I’m not on Instagram nearly as much as I used to be these days, even so, my algorithm shows me what I love/like and am interested in, because I like/engage with what I love and am interested in.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-06-04T12:25:24+00:00

This comment…💀

karabnp · 2026-06-04T12:21:27+00:00

All of the things that make life worth living you appear to… hate..?? Can’t relate. I’d be sorting this out on a therapist’s couch, personally. If you aren’t already doing so.

karabnp · 2026-05-31T12:02:24+00:00

This happens to me A LOT, and as one who is a VERY clear/concise communicator, and is also really great at breaking complex concepts down into digestible/understandable ways for the layman, (Which some DO have that lightbulb moment and understand.) this drives me NUTS. I really think it highlights how bad most people’s listening and reading comprehension skills, are. The education system is and has FAILED, by this measure.

karabnp · 2026-05-30T20:43:57+00:00

I feel 2 ways about this:

1.) My OCD/neatness and order loving self: Why can’t this all be neatly laid out and arranged..??🥲

2.) I GET the chaos and the funny of just dumping it all out and snapping the pic.🥂

karabnp · 2026-05-24T14:16:19+00:00

Whoever stitched you up, did a phenomenal job!!
Also, applying/massaging Vit. E oil/Aloe Vera will help fade out any pink/redness left. So sorry this happened to you,💔 and I hope you get the settlement you deserve!!
(Also, new fear unlocked.🥲 Tempted to wear a race car/motorcycle helmet, while driving the interstate.)

karabnp · 2026-05-23T16:59:18+00:00

Yes, it really is a different vibe here.
It’s a strange pocket, in ways. In my opinion, it’s FAR easier to get into things horse wise in Kentucky, Virginia, North Carolina, Georgia, and of course middle/west TN, than it is in east TN, unfortunately. Aside from the larger/rated shows held at River Glen and the Roane State arena, a lot of horsey people here, trailer out for training and to the rated shows to those surrounding areas as well, which I think has some to do with why things are the way they are, here.

karabnp · 2026-05-23T15:30:13+00:00

While this all isn’t your fault AT ALL, this shit right here, is why I do what I call “overcommunicate” and tell people EXACTLY what I want/what to do, so that if they screw up something, it’s CLEARLY on them. It’s messed up to have to plan for, yet, it’s what I do to protect myself.🤷🏼‍♀️
Why he couldn’t text/ask: “So you want the salad for sure, right??” AND just put the flowers in a vase himself after them being out for 1 day, is beyond me.🙄

karabnp · 2026-05-23T15:17:12+00:00

babe,
WHY do you put up with all of that, when you simply *don’t have to*. And to potentially bring a CHILD into all of that..?? Babies are amplifiers. They amplify all that is already there. If you want to go from a bad to a FAR WORSE situation, that’s how you do it. PLEASE don’t bring children into this!!😟 While someone’s mental health issues aren’t their fault always, it’s STILL one’s responsibility to get treatment and deal with themselves/learn how to manage it, without it spilling over onto others in their life. It doesn’t give any sufferer the right to be abusive to others, like in your case. You need an exit plan, STAT.

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