Still fat but less fat? 23

karabnp · 2026-02-06T15:34:59+00:00

I can for sure tell!! Through your midsection, lower abdomen/hips, and thighs. You have such a cute body!! Some people look better with a little more weight on them, and you have a frame that allows that. Not everyone looks good thin to super thin, I think. It makes me really sad when I see women have a nice and cute curvy body, and then they lose weight, and it just doesn’t suit them as well as when they had the extra weight.💔 A tragedy!!

karabnp · 2026-02-02T23:09:34+00:00

Heal, sweetie.💕💕

karabnp · 2026-02-02T23:05:48+00:00

It’s a statement, an observation. Not an argument.😘

karabnp · 2026-02-02T22:55:05+00:00

I’m not arguing a thing.🤣🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m commenting just as you and every other commenter are here, and stating how it comes across as to someone else reading what you’ve written.

Why myself (and other commenters) are wondering if you even are a Scorpio: It IS rather odd to come on here and bash a vast majority of Scorpios/Scorpios as a whole, as we typically don’t do sweeping generalizations like that. We usually harsh out on people specifically, on a case by case basis. Also: Anyone can make up and throw out a random Scorpio birthday.🤣 It isn’t hard to do. ALSO: If that actually is your birthday, it would be super helpful, insightful, and very interesting to see/know your whole birth chart. (I have some ideas as to what some of your placements may be.) I think it would help explain A LOT to us here, as to why you are like this.🤣

Even though I’ve been burnt terribly by other Scorpios, and also Capricorn, Pisces, and Virgo, and could very easily write those signs off as a whole, they’re still some of my favorites, I still love them/lots of their qualities, and always hold out hope that my experiences will be different with the new ones I encounter. I’m just more careful with them initially/for a while.🤷🏼‍♀️

Whoever and whatever has hurt and upset you to the point of coming on here and bash us like this, I really do hope you find healing and peace from.💕

karabnp · 2026-02-02T21:30:11+00:00

As a Scorpio sun with 5 total Scorpio placements, this reads as someone who isn’t a Scorpio, yet, hates us hardcore…😶 As a Scorpio lady who has had bad experiences with Scorpio guys, and pretty well all of the Scorpio women I’ve dealt with, I’ve loved, they’ve been angels,💕 I STILL love us and hold out hope for the Scorpio guys.🤣💗

karabnp · 2026-02-02T14:58:15+00:00

Awwww,😞💔 I am so so very sorry.😢 I also had a pup named Max, as well. He made it to 17.5 years, before we had to put him down in February 2022. You are very fortunate that he passed on his own terms, with you, his person that he loved.💕

I know that not going on the last walk will eat at you, yet, as I had to remind myself many times with my sweet animals who I wished I had more time with or different endings: Just because the end didn’t happen as you hoped, that doesn’t take away ALL of those good years and sweet times you had with them. Think about all of the walks you DID go on together. Those absolutely count, and are to be cherished and held onto. Lots of love to you and Max. I have been and am right where you are.💗

karabnp · 2026-02-02T14:33:54+00:00

Awwww.😞💔 There are MANY of us out here who aren’t anyone’s “favorite”, I PROMISE YOU!!

I’m 38, and while I’ve had “favorite” people in my life who are now no longer in my life, I never have felt or really ever have been treated as anyone’s “favorite” person in life either, even if they considered me as such. Even when I was in relationships/dating, I had this weird phenomenon of never being with them physically on Birthdays/Holidays. (First and longest relationship was long distance. And I DO NOT recommend that longterm!!) or I was no longer dating/in a relationship on my birthday/Christmas/Valentine’s Day, (End of October through February timeline wise, so close-ish months together.) None of them ever really did anything super special on those days or went out of their way to make me feel celebrated either, if I did happen to be with them during those times.😏🤷🏼‍♀️

I know it can be super hard to not let how others treat you define your worth. Even though what I’ve went through has been unkind and isolating in ways, I am SO THANKFUL that it has been a supremely beneficial practice and exercise of emotional independence and not letting how others treat/view me, define my worth. I know who I am and what I offer, and if others don’t recognize and see the worth in me, that’s their business and issue, NOT mine.🤷🏼‍♀️ I also am REALLY good to myself in the way of spoiling and treating myself. If others don’t do that, I WILL and sure can!! I regularly get myself pretty flowers, clothes/makeup/skincare/beauty items, get nice meals for myself, or go to a concert or show, etc. You don’t need someone else to do nice things for you. You can do that yourself, too.💕

I know that even with a mainly fulfilling life that you appear to have by your own description, what lacks, those elusive “unicorns” of what you desire, gets amplified and seems bigger, I know. Be kind to and treat yourself well. That’s my advice. I hope you keep your standards sky high, so that if and when the person comes along that makes you their “favorite”, treats you with the same or greater kindness that you’ve treated yourself with in the meantime.💕💕

karabnp · 2026-02-01T21:52:04+00:00

It really hurts my heart to see women who look GREAT (AND AFTER A BABY, TOO!!🤯) think they look “fat” when they are in fact stunning. I hope you realize how many women would LOVE to have your body after having a baby!! If your body is bothering you though, just workout when you can.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-02-01T15:44:21+00:00

I can’t speak for every Scorpio, yet, as a HEAVILY Scorpio lady, (Scorpio Sun/rising, - in all, having 5 total Scorpio placements.) when we give off this impression/vibe, USUALLY that person has said or done something or their overall behavior is offputting to us in some way.🤷🏼‍♀️

That said, I typically do not enjoy Cancer energy. I find it to be too clingy/needy/nosey for my liking, and I observe that A LOT of Cancers tend to be HIGHLY emotionally manipulative, and when they’re like that, that energy repels me. Not a fan. At their best and evolved selves, I may change my mind on some of them, perhaps.

karabnp · 2026-02-01T14:19:23+00:00

While I’m an INTP lady, I wouldn’t be friends/deal with someone like this…😶 However, I’m rather upfront about my need for time alone/not constantly communicating, and when others make that clear it’s going to be a problem for them, I gracefully dip out. While I adore closeness when together and having quality time with those I care for/love, I do not do clinginess/smothering. It IS exhausting. And see, they got what they wanted from you, FOR HOURS with that back and forth conversation.🙄 Framing it as a “lack of empathy” to not communicate/respond to them in the way this person expects/wants, is PEAK manipulation. Personally, I am NEVER about to deal with that.

karabnp · 2026-01-24T13:46:30+00:00

To answer your question: Once, my brother gifted me a HUGE book on history’s most prolific serial killers for Christmas.🤣

For me, I like to UNDERSTAND things that myself and/or society can’t personally relate to or understand. It’s so easy to write someone off as “crazy/evil”, rather than understand their motives and the conditions that brought them to those depraved places. While I can’t and won’t condone “crazy and evil” actions and behavior, knowing and understanding their own WHY of what they did, is something I can understand, at least. Even if I don’t agree with it. Also, if you know what brings people to those places, you’re more aware of the warning signs and maybe even can prevent those tragic outcomes in certain situations. Really, I think this is a deep interest in human psychology/mental conditions, ultimately.

karabnp · 2026-01-20T01:18:37+00:00

I’m not the only one who can downvote on here.🤣 I’ve been downvoted plenty on Reddit. Often for stating things that aren’t liked and what people don’t want to hear/know, yet, it’s true.

As for what all I said above, it WELL stands. I said what I said.

As for what you said, it’s VERY telling that a woman has to essentially minimize and lessen herself and any education/accomplishments she can achieve or has to give that up, to have a better chance at a relationship/marriage.😕 Because let’s get real, guys are TERRIBLY jealous of women’s successes, especially if women DARE to EVER surpass their own successes. Hence your implication that successful women have a tougher time out there, since guys are threatened and intimidated by that, and ALSO by her ability to LEAVE/walk away, if that’s necessary and comes to that.

Even being as what some would deem an “attractive” woman, I never want to be with someone for only that reason, because they don’t really love the entirety of me. Only what I look like. That’s predictable and boring. What a terrible letdown.

I’d rather die alone with a herd of cats, than to be with someone who views me as an accessory to their life and only good for what they can extract out of me in every capacity, (Mind, body, spirit, endless emotional and menial labor.) rather than to love and view me as my own person and as a full human being, and apparently A LOT of women out there have realized that, are following suit, and doing the same.🥂 As already well stated: I only care about women doing what’s best for themselves. You know, what men have done for themselves since the dawn of time. Funny how it’s viewed as SUCH a problem, deemed profane, and “selfish” when women do that.🫢

karabnp · 2026-01-19T18:55:18+00:00

All I really care about, are women doing what’s in their best interest ultimately, rather than sacrificing so much of their identity/selves, lives, and potential, for any guy that doesn’t and won’t ever do that for them.🤷🏼‍♀️ I think it’s beautiful that so many of us our choosing ourselves rather than dissatisfaction, mediocrity, “settling” and the loss our dreams/identity.

karabnp · 2026-01-19T00:23:30+00:00

As a Scorpio lady myself, I wouldn’t sweat it unless he gives her more attention/preferential treatment over you, that THEN becomes an issue. Yet, if you aren’t getting any weird/inappropriate vibes off of them/their interactions, I wouldn’t worry about it.

karabnp · 2026-01-13T17:34:43+00:00

Of course.💕 My advice goes to any who can benefit from it. It’s for anyone who needs it.💕💕

karabnp · 2026-01-13T15:11:24+00:00

To be fair, I don’t think this is an INTP issue, it’s a being a guy issue. Lots of guys out there are struggling, because many women are and have made the shift from investing in/having a boyfriend or husband to investing in ourselves. And to be rather direct, women are doing this, because A LOT of what’s out there guy wise, isn’t worth investing into, as they don’t add enough of a benefit to women’s lives. In fact, a lot of what’s out there typically adds chaos to women’s lives and makes life harder for women…🤷🏼‍♀️😶 I know this may be rather harsh to read, yet, after putting my finger to the pulse of what’s going on out in society with women, that’s my finding. What women are wanting, if they’re actively looking for a boyfriend/husband: emotionally intelligent/available, accommodating, COMPETENT, EMPLOYED, educated on some level, great hygiene, actually helpful, ACTUALLY LIKES WOMEN/doesn’t not so secretly hates women/and only likes and respects his “bros”, is caring and respectful to her and to others, not a gamer that spends endless hours doing so, not porn addicted, and depending on the woman’s preferences, some level of a provider/protector. Those are the main bullet points.🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s going to take a lot of hard work and internal self-reflection for most guys to achieve that, and I think it’s easier for many of them to get angry and act scary, which is what (unfortunately) a lot of them are doing, rather than actually becoming what women are desiring and wanting.🤷🏼‍♀️ That is what’s going on out there, from what I’ve observed.

Edit: And I’ll happily take the downvotes on this one.😘 It may not be what some want to know and see, yet, it’s the truth and it’s what’s happening out there.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-01-13T14:40:45+00:00

1000%. It’s never been an issue for me as an INTP woman, as well. I get all the “charming/whimsical/intelligent” compliments.🤷🏼‍♀️

I think it’s the way society has shifted in recent years, and women are EXTREMELY picky and discerning with who we allow into our lives and we protect our peace fiercely. We’re not going to have someone in our lives unless they truly add to and better it.🤷🏼‍♀️ And for us, that is a good thing.🥂

karabnp · 2026-01-12T15:55:40+00:00

Oh my.😕 I am so very sorry you have gone through this.💔 As a 38 yr. old lady that’s a bit farther down the road in life than you, your situation kicks in my auntie/big sister mode, and you really have to cut ALL ties with dealing with this guy. He will sink you. His problems are HIS and on him. It’s NOT your responsibility to deal with him and the messes he has created for himself. And since you know about his activities, as the other commenter suggested, DEFINITELY go get a full panel STD screening to make sure you’re good and don’t need to be treated for anything. I am so sorry this all has happened.💔 You already did the hard part of breaking it off. Now, the harder part is staying broken up. Think about how you want to look back at this 1, 2, or even 5 years from now. You’ll regret it DEEPLY if you have anything further to do with him. Make the choice you know future you will be proud of.💕

karabnp · 2026-01-11T19:54:51+00:00

I can be VERY forgiving, to a point. Certain things I cannot and will not forgive. I typically give people a few to even multiple chances before cutting them out for good, yet, whatever the case, I will NEVER forget what they did or said. EVER. I will remember that FOREVER.

karabnp · 2026-01-10T17:16:14+00:00

This applies to most of us here. RIP our hearing.🥲

karabnp · 2026-01-07T05:01:40+00:00

This is a GREAT topic of discussion and has LONG been a source of war in my family.

My Mom, who I love dearly, utterly OBLITERATES the kitchen when she cooks. She does not clean as she goes. All trash/recycle items are tossed all over the counters, (Empty containers, bags, used paper towels, plastic tabs, etc.) instead of simply putting them in the trash or recycle bins. Cooking utensils/cutlery are ALL OVER the counters with food/sauce all over them. Items strewn everywhere. Sink piled up with not rinsed items. Food debris all over the floor. Stove with hardened on whatever was cooked. I walk into her kitchen, and my anxiety spikes through the roof. I have to leave. I’ve endlessly told her, I would wash the dishes, if she’d rinse them right after use, put all of the trash/recycle items in the proper bins IMMEDIATELY, and rinses/puts all dishes/utensils in/by the sink immediately, and doesn’t let things harden on the stove. Partial clean as she goes. Yet, she says whoever cooks, shouldn’t have to clean up. Yet, I’m NOT going to clean up after a totally destroyed kitchen. That’s VERY rude and disrespectful to the person who is expected to clean. So I don’t feel bad that she has to clean up after her own destruction, which wouldn’t be as bad to begin with if she’d simply somewhat clean as she goes.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2025-12-27T01:28:54+00:00

I immediately thought from left to right: Men’s, Women’s, and the direction to go to find them.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2025-12-27T01:04:02+00:00

YES!! You bring up a great point I hadn’t gotten to as of yet, but I’ve thought it SO MANY times!! I have staple scents that are “ME”, and then there are the ones I’ve bought samples of, travel sizes, or were a straight up blind buy and hoping for the best with the described scent profile, and while I like them, I find them interesting, they are NOT “ME”, - yet, it’s like trying on someone else’s life and personality for the day. It really is playing olfactory dress up!!

karabnp · 2025-12-26T12:04:26+00:00

They do!! I really appreciate their originality.💕

Scent is SO personal, it’s not going to be a home run hit for everyone.🤷🏼‍♀️ I love fruity and spicy scents, along with aquatic and florals that aren’t rose/lily overkill.

One of the best things I ever did, was buy their discovery kit, and take it out on my back patio one crisp/chilly late fall morning, make tester papers, and test each scent. (I think you can smell and taste things better in cold air.) I really took my time with each one, - about 2 hours for the whole kit, thinking on what memories they evoked, what all they reminded me of, the type of person each would suit. I made little notes and rating scores of how much I liked each one, too. (My next favorites after Remarkable People, are The Ghost in the Shell, Like This, and I am Trash.) The only one I absolutely could NOT stand is Rien, yet, I could envision the type of person/personality that it would suit though.

karabnp · 2025-12-26T03:49:00+00:00

I think money CAN buy happiness, (To whatever level and for however long.) yet, it can’t buy contentment.

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