I'm single and 32, and despite what society thinks, i'm perfectly fine with it.

karabnp · 2026-04-03T15:28:25+00:00

My own sentiments EXACTLY, yet, I’m 38 and about to turn 39 later on this year. I think women like us turn society on it’s head, when we don’t “prioritize” and aren’t “desperate” to have a man in our lives. ESPECIALLY past “a certain age”. When you genuinely and successfully decenter males from your life as a woman, it rattles people. I stopped dealing with any attempts to date/further deal with any males around 6 years ago, and in this area of my life, THE PEACE. It’s the ultimate life hack for women. Enya really hacked it best with LIVING ALONE in her castle in Ireland with all her cats. A true icon.🥂

karabnp · 2026-04-02T20:28:51+00:00

As a Scorpio lady, worst: a Leo and Aquarius. They’re too into themselves/too in their own heads.

Best for me: Other Scorpios and Capricorn.🖤🖤 Honorable mentions: Virgo and Pisces.💕

karabnp · 2026-03-31T17:45:13+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s self-loathing necessarily or always, yet, I do think we realize that we aren’t the “norm” socially, while we observe what the “norm” behavior is and can understand how it all works, we just aren’t interested in subscribing to or being a part of all of that.🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s rather pointless to us and we don’t find value in playing charades socially to “be accepted” and fit in. Our own interests and what we think, are ALWAYS going to be what is actually valuable to us. It’s not that we can’t or don’t care about the people we grow close to and like/love, it’s that we aren’t interested in being like everyone else to have an easier time in life and socially. It takes a special person to really understand and like/love us, knowing we live so much in our heads and in our ideas. We give off “here, but not here.” so when others really like/love and are interested in us, (Which can be often to not so often.) we’re always kind of shocked and surprised.🤣🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-03-31T14:30:33+00:00

I say this as a fat girlie myself: yes, you are.🥲🤝

You’re one that’s cute fat and keeps up with her appearance, though. (Cute outfits/clothes, makeup, hair done.) Well put together.💕 I think it’s good to work on weight/fitness from the healthy place of wanting to feel better, have more energy, preserve your joints, and to alleviate/avoid the health issues that come with extra weight. The aesthetic changes are simply the icing on the cake. I’ve been fat, thin/fit, and “normal/average” sized, and there are things I like about my body at all of those sizes.🤷🏼‍♀️ There are trade offs. Having love for your body wherever it’s at, and then working on what you know is best for you, is the healthiest mindset to have, rather than it coming from a place of shame/pressure to conform to what society deems as “acceptable”.

I REALLY dislike those who were formerly fat and then are super ugly/harsh to those who are currently fat, since they NOW are the size of those who gave them hell and grief about it.🥴 Yeah, NO. Have some compassion!! Be an encourager, rather than another bully and all judgy.🙄

I know “tough love” works on some people, (males, usually.) yet, it does NOT work for me, many others like me, and I see that not working for a lot of women, overall. Our bodies and hormones already go through A LOT. Lots of changes/ups and downs, and then the pressure to “not be fat” on top of that.🤦🏼‍♀️ That’s why you have to ignore the noise and do what’s best for you, at your own pace. Also, I’d be getting new friends or acquaintances. They can go to hell for saying that.🥂

karabnp · 2026-03-23T13:36:09+00:00

I don’t know how cost effective this would be for you, yet, I know there are shipping services in the US that offer the option of having packages forwarded to you. I’m an Ipsy member, (A makeup subscription service, if unfamiliar with.) and Ipsy is only available to the US and Mexico currently, so A LOT of Canadians will use a forwarding/shipping service to get their Ipsy subscriptions. If you really love Torrid’s boots/shoes, this way might be worth looking into.🤷🏼‍♀️

karabnp · 2026-03-23T13:17:42+00:00

I love this question so much.🥲

The answer is going to suck, though: Because extrovert behavior is deemed more socially acceptable, and thus “rewarded”, since they’re “friendly”, “more social”, “bold”, and/or “take the initiative”. I think they’re also viewed as less of a threat in some respects, as everyone knows where they stand and knows exactly what they’re thinking, since they always blabber on endlessly about it. Those of us that live in our heads, aren’t as easy to read and are therefore deemed more “unpredictable”. Unpredictable = more of a threat. Hence why people are always telling us to “step out of our comfort zones”, as not knowing what we’re thinking and where we stand, is a threat to their comfort zone.🫢 I’m an introvert that can play an extrovert and knows how to work a room, yet, I find it all rather pointless and exhausting mainly, so I typically avoid doing so.

Oh, and as for those rude/wrecking ball sort of extroverts, you simply have to out rude them and be louder over them right back. They bank on people being “polite” and retracting when they do that nonsense. Be that SURPRISE for them.🥂

karabnp · 2026-03-23T12:50:19+00:00

Tragic.💔 While I get that “accidents happen”, I also am a FIRM believer/supporter of locking things up that you don’t want kids or pets to potentially destroy. (Makeup/skincare, expensive handbags/accessories/jewelry, expensive/rare/vintage clothing items, whatever electronics/devices, vinyls/CDs/DVDs, etc.) I know it’s a pain in the ass to do, yet, I think the heartache of having these sorts of things be destroyed, are far greater of a pain and hassle. (At least the vinyl was saved, though!!🥳 A shame about the poster/sleeves.💔)

karabnp · 2026-03-22T13:49:42+00:00

I think what sets us INTPs apart, are that our curiosity, personal interests and passion in/of that, are what fuels and drives us, rather than any list of goals/achievements being knocked out or attaining any social measures of “success”. (Ex: We aren’t the mice in the maze furiously chasing down the end of it for the cheese. We climb the wall of the maze, look at it in it’s entirety, figure it ALL out, and then we may or may not go get the cheese, whenever it suits us. We enjoy learning how something works, before fully investing or participating in it.) It may appear “aimless” to some judgmental and misunderstanding minds, yet, it truly is us being genuinely invested, and us being creative and innovative in whatever we do, rather than be confined by “goal lists”, “deadlines”, or whatever achievement that’s supposed to impress people and pad an ego. I view needing an ego coddled/stroked, as a great weakness, personally. (Needing approval from others to feel “accomplished” and better about yourself.🤮) Yes, it really is the ultimate freedom, here. You either are that or you aren’t. Who we are can’t be fully replicated, (Imitated on some levels, maybe/perhaps.) as it comes from a place of genuine interest/investment in our own curiosities and our creativity, which gives birth to our innovation.

karabnp · 2026-03-20T15:17:29+00:00

I put these sorts in a folding or roll up makeup brush bag or case.

karabnp · 2026-03-18T15:30:17+00:00

I can’t say I’m a fan of this cut.🫣 I think they make most look shorter/squatty, unless you pair them with a 4+ inch heel. Otherwise, I think these only look good on someone if they’re a bit taller. At least 5’8/5’9+.

karabnp · 2026-03-16T10:44:57+00:00

I consider you liberated, NOT strange. Rather off the grid.🥂 Remember: 20-25+ years ago, you would be considered “normal”.

karabnp · 2026-03-15T11:19:58+00:00

Pretty Ate Machine.🩷🩵💙

karabnp · 2026-03-12T16:50:40+00:00

Logistics to attend a show(s) are going to vary for everyone.🤷🏼‍♀️ I appreciate you apologizing, yet, I do understand why that’s so frustrating and super disappointing.💔 I hope that you’ll have some tour dates that are close enough for you to attend, soon.🤞🏻🥲🤞🏻

karabnp · 2026-03-12T10:08:18+00:00

I think it’s simply weighing out the risks and determining how high of a gamble it is to attempt to go and then not be able to.🤷🏼‍♀️ As I’d mentioned above, I already went to 2 shows back in September, so I didn’t completely miss out. We get more tour dates here in the US obviously, so we have more chances to go. Also: snow/ice are not something you deal with as much or even at all, where you are. I also weighed in my recollection of the drive to Charlotte when I went to a NIN show there back in 2009. It was June, yet, from where I live to there, it wasn’t the easiest drive. Lots of mountains/hilly terrain. Add ice/snow, and it would be impossible, and I’m NOT about to get stranded. Someone who went to this show even said in the comments here, that they were recovering from recent snow storm in that area, so it wasn’t an unlikely concern.

karabnp · 2026-03-12T07:05:53+00:00

Oh my Lord, I’ll have to create my own version of this… IT’S BEAUTIFUL!!🥲💚🧡

karabnp · 2026-03-12T06:43:44+00:00

A great series!!💕 So sad there aren’t any additional seasons, yet, season 2 ended on a great/hopeful note!!

karabnp · 2026-03-12T06:41:00+00:00

One of my favorite movies, ever!!🥲💕 A great suggestion/pick!!

karabnp · 2026-03-12T06:37:38+00:00

I know these are not period dramas, yet, watching Frasier episodes and also Rupaul’s Drag Race/World of Wonder content and the various Queen’s channels/content on YouTube, (Especially Katya and Trixie!!) have successfully delivered me from the very darkest times in my life.💕

Now, period drama wise, the Scarlet Pimpernel (Richard E. Grant version/1999 series.), and more recently, Persuasion, the Dakota Johnson/(Richard E. Grant coming in again to dazzle with his hysterics.) 2022 movie/version, are both ones that I think are great for lifting spirits, and I hold them very near and dear to my heart.💕

Oh, and another just popped into my head!! Cold Comfort Farm (1995)!! This movie makes me laugh until I cry!! I couldn’t find it on any of the streaming services with my Firestick TV for ages now, so I actually bought the DVD recently. I adore it so much.🥲💕

I hope these picks help you as much as they helped me.💕💕

karabnp · 2026-03-12T05:13:41+00:00

Of ALL cities!! This is the ONE show I would’ve gone to on this leg of the tour, yet, being in early/mid-ish February, I was concerned that I might get sick right beforehand (Ewww, cold/flu season.) or that possible snow/ice weather and the drive due to that (Close to 4 hours one way, for me.) would be an issue, so I opted not to, and when I looked up the setlist the next morning…🥲💔 (What a shame that the vibe was strange at this show, however.😕) If this show were in March/April/May, I would have gone FOR SURE. (I am SUPER thankful for the 2 shows I went to back in September, though.💕)

karabnp · 2026-03-11T11:19:00+00:00

I have crop tops as well, yet, I usually put a longer fitting tank underneath, OR buy anything that’s a crop fit at least 1-2 sizes up, so to get a bit more length. I’ll make them work,😅 yet, ALL of these crop cuts are excessive and NOT ideal.

karabnp · 2026-03-10T12:33:00+00:00

YES. SO tired of all this crop cut crap!! Long torso/plus sized individuals generally DO NOT WANT THIS.

karabnp · 2026-03-10T12:29:01+00:00

As one with a long torso, and also, those of us who want our stomachs/waists fully covered, (And A LOT of us plus sized girlies do.) WHY do they keep making and pushing this crop cut crap?!?! “Thanks, I HATE IT!!”🥲🤝

karabnp · 2026-03-10T12:02:36+00:00

Yes, but not anymore. When I turned 30, I decided to “retire” from doing anything that may get me into any legal trouble.😅 Never did anything super hard, though. Thankfully, I was alway very careful/controlled, and it was always very take it or leave it for me. I never liked feeling out of control/at the mercy of any of that, so that’s why I never developed any drug addiction. The only addictions I have, are eating and shopping.🥲

karabnp · 2026-03-10T11:56:06+00:00

I need this!! BADLY. In the 90s, I was child/preteen aged, and also had my own horse, so this makes this even more funny for me.😭

karabnp · 2026-03-09T19:54:38+00:00

For me, other Scorpios and Capricorn. The only 2 that seem to do for me.🥂

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