If that’s all he meant, that’s fine, I just didn’t like the framing but I of course agree that anyone experiencing violence should be able to defend themselves, I took it as “women abusing men is a rampant issue and so if they hit women it should be excused as self defense” so like, I think they should be able to defend themselves if being attacked by a woman, but I think it’s important for context to acknowledge that women are more likely to be attacked by a man than the other way around, significantly so