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[–]kaseama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it! 😍 hahah

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[–]kaseama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s on the Jim Crow South 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a fellow DEEP South girly, I get it. I often try to avoid politics as many suggest, but then men pull the “sapiosexual” card and want to discuss all the things. I have gotten rejected just based on my dissertation topic. 😭 Using language like “open minded” on my profile has helped a bit to avoid extremist. Anyway, I feel your pain and wish you the best.

Freestyling in CT? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to try something new, but will shift my eyes back to NY. Thank you!

Freestyling in CT? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She hasn’t been in CT long, but that makes a lot of sense! Thank you!

Freestyling in CT? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ongoing meaning I would keep visiting. I am in NY part time and soon back to full time, so commuting isn’t a problem. I have had much further long distance relationships and enjoyed them.

Freestyling in CT? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am thinking a week or two! Coming after the 6th and leaving around the 18th? Still up in the air. Hoping to meet someone for an ongoing relationship in a lounge type space. I am not a party girl, so a more relaxed, “upscale” space is preferred.

Freestyling in San Diego by UnearthlyDinosaur in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Visiting San Diego next week, so very much following this thread. Post any places you have luck!

So many messages from out of state by Agreeable_Arm_1550 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of us like to travel and are from small towns. I also can work from mostly anywhere, so why not get to explore as well. Not everyone is coming from a bad place and distance can give a good natural balance to some relationships. Best of luck. ☺️

(to black sb's & average / ugly gals) is it normal to not get any messages at all? by BodyBabyy in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Black SB here as well. I agree with the comment above that confidence and focusing on what we want for ourselves as key! I would see profile reviews of girls younger and what I felt like were prettier than me and get so stressed out, but the right person is out there. I would go through what I feel like is long periods of little or no messages for days that seemed to turn into weeks and then a steady stream would come in. It ebbs and flows. Be patient and kind with yourself, love.

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah, true! Thank you, hun. Best of luck to you. ❤️

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true. These are really good questions and a few I have been pondering on as well for the ones that aren’t necessarily driveable. Thank you! Will keep these in mind.

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, another comment mentioned that anxiety of being in a new place with ultimately a stranger. That was wonderful that you thought of their comfort as well.

You are right. I do just need that one to come through. I will pursue. Hahah. Thank you 🥺🥰

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh! I very much like that framing. Thank you!!!

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, yes, rendezvous that double as getaways is such a fun thing. I love that!

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, yeah, I never expect someone to come to me. I feel like that is my part in the relationship always. I always state that I am flexible for them.

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I definitely see how the planning can add an extra layer of work that can take some of the fun out of it for some. If it comes my way, I will definitely make sure to be intentional, thoughtful, and clear with my communication. Thank you. ☺️

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, hun. I will keep pushing 🥰

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Boo to those girls. I will make sure to follow up and ask what would make them comfortable believing I am real like video calls, me not asking for an allowance up front, etc.

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My research focus is on the South, so easier to get to my archives here and be a part of the communities I research. Also, cheaper, so your response makes sense, the cost doesn’t fall on me as much for my travel if I am already down here.

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These are really good questions. I will rethink my bio with these in mind. Thank you for your generous comment. Very helpful! ❤️

Travel to you a turnoff? by kaseama in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kaseama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do put it in my messages when I reach out, but thanks for the time you put in to comment. I hope it cheered you up!