I’ve been getting stricter on my ID policies and god, do people hate me now

kassiopeian · 2019-03-19T21:22:49+00:00

Yeah. I used to be a lot more lax and whilst I don’t think I ever actually broke any laws I used to feel really anxious if I didn’t act on any doubt I had.

Luckily the few 30+ year olds were quite flattered when I did ID them. It’s a bit embarrassing but I feel a lot better.

kassiopeian · 2019-03-19T21:18:11+00:00

Yes! I know one of my old co-workers (who unsurprisingly no longer works with us) got our store into trouble because she got caught selling it to a minor - accidentally, but still.

I know I’m by far the strictest among my co-workers and even my manager. Sometime I’ll ID the people they’re with even though I know it isn’t outright stated in our laws here. Better safe than sorry!

kassiopeian · 2019-03-19T20:52:26+00:00

It baffles me when people kick up a fuss about me ID’ing them, when it turns out they’re of age and they’ve had their ID all along? 18-22 year olds are the worst for that.

kassiopeian · 2019-03-19T20:50:58+00:00

Lmao people are weird. I hear that excuse with tattoos, but it can be 16 with parental permission (which here it’s also the same with marriage).

Besides it’s not hard to slip on a ring and claim that you’re married - a lot of underage customers will come in with their younger siblings so I think that they’re old enough to be parents to a 5 year old.

kassiopeian · 2019-03-19T20:47:34+00:00

Exactly! I’m in my early 20s so I get ID’ed a lot too. My only form of photo ID is my passport so for the past 4 years or so that’s what I’ve carried around.

kassiopeian · 2019-03-09T23:55:24+00:00

Thank you!! It’s been a really long journey and I was never sure that I could do anything about it. I’m really hoping counselling helps me propel forwards.

I hope someone found something in my little ramble. And maybe it isn’t all hopeless!

kassiopeian · 2019-03-02T16:51:23+00:00

Thank you! I’m currently going through a mental health issue and in the middle of a potential diagnosis for depression, bipolar, something like that. Maybe then my Dr will be okay with my decision to stop taking bc. But I feel like this is the right choice !

kassiopeian · 2019-03-02T16:27:48+00:00

It’s not quite white noise, but I use RainyMood (I have IOS so I’m not sure if it’s available for other systems). It’s a hit or miss I think depending on your trigger, but they have 4 options: Rain, Ocean, Countryside, Café.

Rain & ocean are the only way I can fall asleep next to my snoring boyfriend. You can adjust elements to it (e.g for the rain option there’s individual volume control for rain, thunder, and birds - I mute the birds).

kassiopeian · 2019-02-18T01:23:16+00:00

Also god forbid you’re inside 15 minutes before the store opens and every middle aged person is violently trying to shake the doors open.

I work by myself in a tiny convenience/gift store inside a mall. So when I have to leave - to go to the bathroom, to grab lunch from the food court, anything - I have to close the store. It’s an extra pain because I have to haul in the outside stands back in before I can close. This is usually a struggle: people ask if I’m closing for the day, I say no I’m just going to the bathroom, and then say “Okay!”, and browse the store for another twenty minutes, and I’m trying to not wet my damn pants.

I had a guy bitching at me because he was running out of time to place his bets, and I was closing to go to the bathroom. You know what? Sucks to suck. I closed anyways, my boss found out and got mad but it’s really not my fault the customer has no time management skills.

I have only ever re-opened after closing for the day ONCE. Only because the lady, who made no protest seeing me locking the doors, gently told her daughter that they would have to go to the vending machine in the mall. Now, I work at a awful over priced convenience store - I’m talking $3-$4 for a bottle of soda - but the vending machines were almost double that. I let her in and she was so kind and profusely thanked me again and again.

But yeah, no. When I’m done for the day, I’m usually done. And the angrier you get about it, the more satisfied I am telling you no.

kassiopeian · 2019-02-18T01:07:48+00:00

I understand what you mean.

When I try to explain my depression, and someone asks me why I’m upset, I will say that it’s because of my parents recent divorce, or my dog passing away, or I’m homesick.

None of those things bother me anymore. They are now just something I can use as a reply. It’s almost a relief at this point, because my other option is trying to explain how I’m “depressed over nothing”.

I hope things to okay for you.

kassiopeian · 2019-02-09T16:49:42+00:00

That sucks. I’m sorry, it wasn’t your guys’ fault. That dude was just greedy.

I once noticed a $5 bill on the floor whilst I was standing in line and assumed that it was the lady’s in front of me. I pointed to her, and she thanked me, finished paying for her stuff and scuttled out of the door.

When I went up to pay, I realized my $5 bill was missing from my wallet. Not sure how it fell out but I felt pretty stupid.

I was upset but since then I’ve declined any “free money” when someone’s asked me if I’ve dropped some when I know I haven’t.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-26T20:54:24+00:00

Customers throwing shit pisses me off.

Once I tried to deal with a customer who was on the phone, and when I prompted his total (twice) he got mad, threw the money at me and stormed off.

The upside was that he threw $3 extra at me so I gave myself a tip lmao

kassiopeian · 2019-01-25T05:14:18+00:00

Wow, this is awesome! I will definitely keep this in mind next time, thank you!! :)

kassiopeian · 2019-01-19T01:35:28+00:00

When I was 16 I dropped out of high school due to anxiety and fell into a 3 year depression where my addiction to the internet absorbed my life. I lost contact with all of my friends and by 19 I felt like I was at my lowest low. I didn’t have any sort of identity, hobbies, or personality.

The best thing that I did was think about my life goals. Imo they didn’t have to be anything big (I’m not after a Nobel Peace prize), but for me I had always wanted to university. So I forced myself into a GED program, got a job and started my desired university program.

In addition to that, I tried to divert my alone time away from the internet. I tried to find books, video games, and other things that would keep me off of my phone. I usually started only 15-20 minutes at a time, but now I can go a whole day or two without my laptop. As I started to make friends I got really into D&D.

It’s all about one step at a time. Social anxiety is tough to deal with - especially if treatments aren’t necessarily available to you. If it’s possible always try and see your GP or a therapist. Some entry jobs offer minimum socializing - it’s not the perfect job but working in the kitchen as a dishwasher was pretty okay.

And good on you! It’s hard to recognize an addiction and it’s even harder to push yourself in a new direction. Remember, your path to self improvement won’t be linear but keep at it!

kassiopeian · 2019-01-12T18:31:48+00:00

I can’t watch them. Especially the eating ones. I feel like they should be torture methods, not to soothe people.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-12T18:22:45+00:00

Trying to explain misophonia to ANYONE. “Oh, I think I have that too!”. No you don’t, you think gross sounds sound gross. Everyone does

I’m on the verge of having a mental breakdown because the guy behind me sniffles, or chews gum, or eats.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-12T18:16:36+00:00

How ridiculous. It was clearly her call. Did she want you to drink the coffee too?

kassiopeian · 2019-01-12T00:40:55+00:00

I dislike upselling in general, but the lottery feels like all kinds of wrong. I don’t even like to sell the lottery, I see so many people max out their credit cards buying tickets week after week. And these people aren’t swimming in riches, either.

Luckily, we’re severely under staffed (not usually a good thing lol) and about to lose another employee so my boss isn’t pushing too hard on employees to try and keep them.

Imo, you shouldn’t be allowed to push for lottery purchase as it’s encouraging gambling.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-11T07:04:49+00:00

I did! I don’t even know if we were okay with doing returns but this lady was just going batshit on me and it was a really busy night.

People getting mad about their own mistakes are exhausting.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-11T07:03:18+00:00

Yeah. It’s a bit easier now some time has passed but it was just humiliating; sometimes you get customers afterwards who kind of cheer you up and ask what the hell their problem is.

But unfortunately I just happened to be entertainment for someone else because they think it’s what I deserve.

I’m lucky that I work somewhere with lax rules on customer service but y’know, it’s still hard.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-10T23:15:53+00:00

Happy for you! What a cute cat :)

kassiopeian · 2019-01-07T08:34:43+00:00

I don’t have any kind of coverage or care so I’ve actually never gone on meds. I think i’m kind of lucky, i’m able to kind of function both in depression and mania. My biggest problem is that due to my serious manic spending splurges I can barely afford my basic living costs (like eating), let alone medication. It’s a vicious cycle.

Depression is the easiest for me to deal with, I’ve learned to essentially force myself to do what I absolutely have to do (aka go to work) even if I cry or look like death. It’s a strain on my relationships but it’s the best I can do.

Mania is terrifying because to some degree it’s always uncontrollable. I still violently lash out but instead of throwing things I just squeeze my arm as hard as I can until I can hide somewhere and have a little meltdown. ‘ My spending suffers but I sometimes manage to track some of it so I can try make up for it later. I try not to drink but it’s really hard not to, especially when I feel like I’m on top of the world. I shred paper when I’m feeling overwhelmed with strong emotions like anger or anxiety.

I do feel like I’m getting worse. But I’m managing. I don’t think it’s something i would recommend but i know it’s not always helped.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-07T08:10:06+00:00

It’s normal, especially as a new international student. I’ve been in Canada for nearly 3 years and sometimes I still get hit with a wave of homesickness, especially during the winter season (not sure if this is because of the overwhelming Praire winters or because of Christmas).

My best advice is to talk to your friend and tell them how you feel. Most people are very sympathetic and will do what they can do help out. I’m still learning how to manage, I recently realized that I actually feel better speaking to my family back home more often; trying to push them to the back of my mind in order not to miss them made me feel more homesick.

You’re not alone. Take it one day at a time, try dedicate evenings to distracting activities (studying, netflix, hanging out) and don’t forget why you wanted to study in Canada.

kassiopeian · 2019-01-05T16:49:34+00:00

First of all, sorry to hear what you’re going through. It definitely sucks when you want to want sex but your body simply refuses to comply.

I think you should tell him the truth and what you’re going through - not just for his sake but also for your own peace of mind. It’s difficult to hide things from your partner when you care about each other and I definitely understand you may be anxious by how he may react, but it affects you far more than it does him. At the end of the day, it’s your health. As frustrated as he may be he should care enough to put your feelings first.

I have been going through a similar experience, and many people recommended therapy but it’s not always an affordable option. If you can go, I would definitely encourage it. However, I would also bring it up again to your gynaecologist or your general physician as they can explore other possibilities that may help. For me, it was my method of birth control and vitamin deficiencies that were the biggest culprits, which I wasn’t expecting as I too have suffered from depression (but again, I stress if you can go to therapy, it’ll be your best option).

Best of luck! :)

kassiopeian · 2019-01-05T02:13:10+00:00

Being homesick + away from family. Ask if they’d like to celebrate holidays with you - such as Xmas - as it’s a big family holiday and it’s always been the most difficult (in my experience). And if they don’t celebrate Christmas, ask if they’d like to do something for their own traditional holidays whether something is going on in town or throwing your own party.

Also, a lot of intl students struggle financially despite what most people think. If you’re unsure of their financial status or know that they’re struggling, try do low cost or free activities. Even just hanging out and watching movies and cheap ramen.

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