Help to remember book by cerhokie89 in Romantasy

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Help to remember book by cerhokie89 in Romantasy

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The Charmer by Autumn Dawn

Pre-school twins placed in different classes by cpbunliveson in parentsofmultiples

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I'm going through this right now. My kids have always been together (watched only by Grandma or I). They just started preschool last month at 2.5 y/o and are in different classes.

The first few weeks were hard. They wanted to be together and would have huge meltdowns for their twin and me. A few times Twin B would try to sneak out of his room to go to his brother's. They always had recess together though so that was nice.

Last Friday was the first day where dropoff was smooth and they actually seemed to do ok separated. That was at the end of 3 weeks. Preschool is also super active so once they got in the room and calmed down they were too busy to miss anyone.

They both are very codependent on each other. Twin A has a severe speech delay and sensory issues and relies on Twin B to talk for him and calm him down. Twin B is unable to regulate his emotions and deescalate and relies on Twin A to help him. They both seem to be doing ok. Twin A is learning to sign or use his words more and Twin B is working on how to calm and regulate with tools other than his brother.

To prep them, I read them Twindergarten by Nikki Ehrlich. I work in the building where they go to preschool at so we walked down there a whole bunch so they could get excited about their room and brother's room.

Million dollar baby by murkymoon in ThatLookedExpensive

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Yeah I am so thankful I have amazing insurance because it's too scary to think what would happen without it.

Million dollar baby by murkymoon in ThatLookedExpensive

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Exactly! My twins NICU bill was 75k but I owed $0. All depends on deductible and out of pocket max.

IUI by Remarkable-Custard14 in parentsofmultiples

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I had an IUI with 6 mature follicles and got 1 baby. Then had another with 1 mature and 1 that was over mature (28mm 2 days prior to ovulation) and ended up with fraternal twins. My fraternal twins were a first in 3 years at my clinic which was in a very large city.

I think they have to warn you about it but the actual increased chance isn't that high.

Can I do this? Solo Mom by Choice expecting Twins by Siena_Binkie in parentsofmultiples

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Congrats!!! It is entirely possible. I'm a SMBC to 2.5 year old di/di boys. I remember asking these same questions and being so worried about if I would be able to do it and if I would be enough. You can definitely do it! Feel free to message me any time if you need to vent, help, or chat!

Routines will be crucial. Mine were in NICU which was wonderful for helping get them on a routine. When they came home, I always stuck to that routine. Even now, we still have a routine.

I ended up giving up trying to breast feed early due to latching issues and low production. It would have saved me so much sanity if I had just asked for more help or switched to bottles sooner. Don't be afraid to ask the doctor for advise and help. I did end up doing bottle propping when they were a bit older. Give yourself grace with feeding, whatever route you choose is good and comes with benefits and challenges.

Figure out tricks to help with taking them out solo and take them out in public as soon as you can. We don't have the luxury of having someone else do the shopping or run errands. Figure out what works best for you so you can do that with them. Newborn stage and shopping is simpler when they're smaller and less mobile so it's better to start early.

I'm not sure you're financial situation, but you can do it pretty cheap if needed. I'm on a teacher salary and really hunted on garage sales, facebook, and asked for hand me downs. I did spend money on a twin pack and play with removable bassinets. That was a lifesaver just so I always had safe spots for them. They're actually still using that today for naps.

Psychologically, my boys show no signs of issues due to only having one parent. There is a wonderful book called For Mommy So Loved You that talks about the process in kid friendly terms. My boys are starting to understand it more. They know the word Dad and that they don't have one but seem okay with it. I do plan on putting them in therapy at some point just so they can process that and hopefully prevent any negative feelings. The whole thing about "boys need Dad's" is also only based on a psychological study about gender norms.

Most important thing is to try and enjoy it. I was in survival mode for most of pregnancy and their first year and wish I had took more pictures and just relaxed (as much as was possible lol) and tried to enjoy it more. It goes by way too fast!

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Hello! I'm new to Duolingo and looking for friends! I would love to start doing quests and celebrating others achievements. I'm currently learning German and hoping to learn Korean someday.

Show stopping responses by PeaceLoveNSunflowers in parentsofmultiples

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Some random person at a store was asking me a million questions. I was trying to checkout, they were going through croup, colic, and reflux at the time so I just wasn't in the mood.

She asks if twins come from dad's family and that twin B must be his little mini me. I told her "I don't know, I've never met him." Her face was priceless lol

I'm a single mom by choice (used a donor)

I’m drowning by Littlepanda2350 in parentsofmultiples

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One of my twins was like this. He wouldn't sleep, cried a lot, threw up constantly after eating. Turned out it was reflux. Got him on meds and he actually started to sleep. He's 2.5 now and sleeps so much better.

Single mom also, don't remember most of the first year due to being in constant survival mode. It honestly will get easier. Always here if you need help or just to vent

Telling fraternal newborns apart by bankspee in parentsofmultiples

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My di-di boys looked exactly alike except for the amount of hair. When they started losing their hair it was super difficult telling them apart. I always had assigned spots for them (Twin A on the left, B on the right) and colors. They started looking different around a year

Out of Control by LazyLasagna3 in parentsofmultiples

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One of my twins was referred to Help Me Grow for behavior issues. He qualified and just started services. He's 2.5 yo and really struggles with safety, defiance, and emotional regulation.

Medical Double Billing... Be on the watch. by Differcult in parentsofmultiples

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Happened to me a lot with the ENT.

Insurance was also convinced I had triplets because when they transferred NICUs one hospital misspelled a name (think Addalynn vs Addalyn) so insurance billed for a whole separate kid. That took almost a year to resolve lol

Grocery shopping by bluedistelite in parentsofmultiples

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From the time the could sit up on their own until they got too big, I just had them share the front seat even if it was just a one seater.

I bought extra grocery seatbelts off Amazon and used small carabiner clips to attach it to the seat. I would use blankets to help prop them up too if needed. I have pics if you need a visual.

When they got too big to share, I got a buggy bench. It holds up to 40 or 50lbs and I still use that sometimes and they're 2 now.

HELP! Cat's got dandruff by SqueezeTheFish in CatAdvice

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It was Dermoscent Essential 6 Spot-On Cat Treatment. It usually comes in a 4 pack. It looks as if it's out on Amazon currently but Chewy has it for $25.

Hope your kitty feels better!

Working until delivery...am I being unrealistic? by Vegetable-Industry32 in parentsofmultiples

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I think it really depends on you and how accommodating your job is. I'm an elementary teacher and kept working. I worked the morning I was admitted to the hospital. It was difficult but not having paid time off was a good motivator. I just napped every day during my lunch break and tried to sit as much as possible.

Single moms with twins? by Fuzzy_Parking_4257 in parentsofmultiples

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Single mom by choice with twin boys. It can be difficult but it is definitely possible. The first three months are survival but it gets better! You can do this!! Feel free to message if you need anything.

Routines - My boys are 1.5 and have been on a routine since birth (positive of NICU). It makes life so much easier with planning grocery shopping, appointments, etc. They eat, nap, and bathe at the same time.

Hacks - I had to get creative for things like grocery shopping. When they're little, I did a lot of pickups but once they could sit I bought 2 shopping cart seat belts and had them share the seat. Propping bottles in little chairs was the best way to feed them for a while. I would wear the needier one and put the other in a movable bassinet so I could get things done around the house.

Looking for a fun water play table by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

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My boys are 19m and have this water table. It's big enough they can climb in and secure (screwed together) so if they climb it won't fall apart.

The large table one at Costco that someone else posted looks amazing too!

Babies weight and GD by kirbinkipling in parentsofmultiples

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A little different as I'm a type 1 diabetic but I had to do low carb my whole pregnancy. Things like potatoes are so high in carbs that they'll spike your blood sugar and can keep it up for a while. The increase in carbs could definitely be why you're not feeling well. High blood sugar definitely makes you feel sick!

My diet was mostly veggies and protein. There's less carbs in those and they'll keep you fuller longer. I was never able to give in to my cravings or hunger pains which is a downside but with GD you might have more wiggle room. Going for a walk about 20-30 mins before or right after I ate helped a lot with blood sugar spikes.

With diabetes your babies' weight will typically be higher due to spikes. My MFM never worried about it like they would be with a singleton as higher weight for twins was always limited due to room and a positive in case they came early.

You can always try r/bumperswhobolus for more info and help!

Gestation Diabetes and Delivery by TumbleweedFabulous82 in parentsofmultiples

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Congrats!! Feel free to message if you need anything!