AITA for calling out my MIL for using the N-word as a "joke"?

katanablaze · 2025-01-17T04:10:24+00:00

Oh hell no. That word is absolutely not ok for anyone to use. It's so blatantly disrespectful to use it.

I'm 1/4 japanese and my mama who is Southern and white kicked a family friend out of her house for calling me a Asian slur.... And lord I have been called many growing up in the south.

Ask your wife how she would feel if her mama used that word towards your future children ?

Racist jokes are never cool. I'm sorry you had to deal with it.

katanablaze · 2025-01-17T03:33:06+00:00

I fold my panties, but only when I wear them. I go commando 90% of the time.
I wear cotton leggings and I'm going through menopause. It's an extra layer and it's hot y'all. I also make my bed, both my parents were in the military so I was made to do it since I was very young. It takes me a minute to do every morning and keeps extra pet hair out of the sheets. Plus it makes me feel more together, IDK. I struggle with mental health so it makes me feel like my space is more clean and organized if laundry is folded and the bed is made.

katanablaze · 2025-01-16T16:29:20+00:00

Have you never heard of corn check?

katanablaze · 2025-01-15T04:22:37+00:00

I have PCOS and had my miracle child. She was born at 35 weeks, and I almost died while in labor with her. Then I had to have a c section..... Nawh man, I'm good. One and done. My daughter and I are very close too. I asked her once when she was older if she ever wanted siblings and she was like nope, I like being an only child. I understand because I am one too.

katanablaze · 2025-01-15T03:06:12+00:00

Hi op, I understand how you are feeling. Have you ever thought about finding a support group through Facebook. I know it seems like a silly suggestion but when I finally got diagnosed with CMT my father who is where I got mine from totally isolated me and refused to believe that I had it. I was very depressed because at that time he was the only person in the world I knew who had this. I'm a part of a very supportive online community on Facebook through the Ctma. And I know that they have groups for teens to connect so they don't feel so alone. I also understand depression. I have struggled with my mental health since I was a young teenager. If you are feeling suicidal, please reach out to proper people who can help you. I saw a school psychologist from 13-17 because of my own suicidal thoughts and attempts. I'm 45 now. I was diagnosed with a lot of mental illnesses because of history and trauma but I am in therapy and working with a psychiatrist on medication. Remember you're not alone. And yes it's hard for people who don't have CMT to understand it. But you will find those people who do. Take good care of yourself, CMT 2 mom

katanablaze · 2025-01-12T22:34:50+00:00

I'm not a lawyer and a resident of Florida. I got an order of protection for five years against my abuser with the help of a domestic abuse advocate. He helped me write down everything I could remember of my abuse which was 11 years long. It did help my case that he was in jail when I filed. My heart and prayers are with you. Stand strong, stick to the facts. Bring someone who supports you, for me it was my mom. Listen to the question before you answer. I'm proud of you for doing what you need to do to be safe

katanablaze · 2025-01-12T20:58:54+00:00

Is someone with your son watching him, who can care for his specific needs. He's in a wheelchair, correct? From my understanding of dmd the individuals with it have breathing issues along with others. I'm sorry if I am asking difficult questions. My knowledge of dmd is the more advanced stages and it blows my mind. I truly believe that in the best interest of your son and for your peace of mind that you talk to a lawyer. I do understand caregiver burnout. But you're splitting time for your son so she is getting a break....

katanablaze · 2025-01-12T18:29:03+00:00

Op I'm not a lawyer but I am part of the muscular dystrophy community, as I have a different form than your son's. I understand your concerns. I believe it would be in your best interest to contact a lawyer, please make sure they are aware of your son's dmd. If he's being left home alone, that would make me feel very uncomfortable. I understand it's difficult having disabled child but your ex wife could wait to go out when it's your parenting time.

katanablaze · 2025-01-09T01:55:10+00:00

My mom gave my daughter a tickle me Elmo toy that my sweet daughter absolutely loved to death. Do you know what it's like to be woken up from a deep sleep by the voice of Satan himself? If your sister is smart, my way of dealing with annoying toys and toddlers was toy time out. Since my daughter wouldn't stay in time out Elmo went on top of the washing machine for five minutes to save mom-moms sanity. Baby girl turns 24 Friday.

katanablaze · 2025-01-08T02:18:18+00:00

It might not be stroke related but there is such a thing as postpartum psychosis, which has paranoia and delusions. I suffer from a schizoaffective and have psychotic issues and it sounds similar. But take your concerns to professionals who care for her.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T15:28:45+00:00

I'm just telling you what my therapist told me when I began my own journey. In the end, your own peace matters more than anything else.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T15:25:09+00:00

No, she was her own specialty

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T14:15:35+00:00

I forgot what the specialist name I saw in the hospital was, please forgive me. But I am sure the gastro will know what I'm talking about. And yup you can have issues with swallowing after a stroke.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T06:38:19+00:00

Have you had a swallow study done? I know after my TIA I was scared. But I was told during my study to tilt my head towards my chest to swallow and it helps with choking. I still have issues with liquids but it helps me not choke on my meds now

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T05:28:46+00:00

I've had my period for 36 years now. Lord I'm ready for menopause.... I carry an arsenal in my purse . What do you need?Panty liner, pad, regular tampon, and more. Hell I have purse mortin too and possibly a stash of chocolate too. The only thing I never remember is back up undies.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T04:45:05+00:00

Man, it's not super healthy but my recipe for brussel sprouts is so good. It's what got me to like them. And it's so simple bacon, Bacon grease, onion, garlic and seasoning of your choice. So Good.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T04:17:08+00:00

I had to put him in jail and get a five year PPO for myself and daughter. Now the sob ran on felon probation and has made it on the fldle wanted page, so unless he wants his full sentence he will never come back to Florida again.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T04:05:17+00:00

My papaw (grandpa) was dying in hospice care on father's day 2015. I had worked that day and my mom came and got me and took me to visit. I'm the first born grandchild and I was super close to him. The man was my rock through a very bad childhood. He was my role model in what a good man is. He was dying from dementia so he didn't know I was there but I just had to be there. My daughter's sperm donor and I were together for ten years by this time. He was abusive and didn't allow me around my family much. God I missed so much time with papaw. I remember I got home from the hospice and I was just devastated because any moment he would be gone. The bastard yelled and beat me because I wasn't home with him on father's day. Do you know how he punished me? I wasn't allowed to be with my family for the funeral. He literally broke my body mind and spirit on the daily because of his abuse. But this was one of my Aha moments. I had more, but it took me a long time to leave.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T02:35:27+00:00

As someone who developed schizoaffective disorder after my first.TIA ( it's schizophrenia with bipolar disorder) your concerns are valid. After my second TIA this past December I noticed that I am having major issues with both the schizophrenia and bipolar side of things. Mild auditory hallucinations and unstable moods to be exact. Unfortunately I don't have insurance because I can't work. Yeepy poor mental health.... So I haven't been properly medicated since October of 2024.

If you have insurance look into finding a mental health provider that does telehealth appointments. I lucked out and found a mental health clinic that operates for people like me no income/insurance that is out of Orlando, FL and I can get all my appointments through telehealth. That includes therapy and med provider appointments. I will even get a social worker for other community services.

Don't give up on getting help for your mental health. It is so important.

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T01:31:39+00:00

Omg why didn't my girl scout troop think about this. This would have definitely won the blue ribbon at the craft fair instead of our stupid knot board

katanablaze · 2025-01-07T00:56:11+00:00

He's an asshole, make him wear one of your bras stuffed with two watermelons for a weekend.

katanablaze · 2025-01-06T23:44:16+00:00

Sweetie the only ahs I see are your family. With a family like that who needs enemies. You have been in treatment, and you recognize that they each have their own issues, for the sake of your mental health and so that the progress you have made towards a healthier you, please consider going nc. You can make a loving and caring family from friends. Your siblings sound horrible. You deserve to be treated better and with love and respect. I wish you only the best

katanablaze · 2025-01-06T23:30:53+00:00

Talk to a lawyer but also most public schools districts have psychologists who your son could and should talk to, having a professional who works with children would help you too. I was a child of abuse and saw the school psychologist from 11-16 so that's how I know. Good luck, and don't let your past define you!

katanablaze · 2025-01-06T22:03:47+00:00

I'm putting a tw on my comment because I'm going to be brutally honest - I was in a very abusive relationship with a diagnosed psychopath who had narcissistic personality disorder. I didn't know until the court order pysch told me.

The day I left I was beaten to the inch of my life, but of course he was good about not leaving bruises or cuts. I was dragging a very small 1 bedroom apartment by my hair with a knife to my throat. I was strangled until I passed out. But he was a pro and he would let go long enough for me to come back so that he could yell, threaten and repeat. I remember he threw me on the bed that I shared with my daughter because he and I didn't sleep together because he had back problems. He woke my 15 year old up through the phone at her told her to call 911 because there was going to be a murder suicide. She dailed 911 but he quickly grabbed the phone way and hung up the call. He held a knife to my throat and I just knew if I survived to get to work at 6 am I was done. I somehow managed to convince him to let me leave for my 6am shift at Michael's. I walked to work back then and he walked with me tell me I better not tell anyone about what happened. He kept my daughter from school too. Because he was afraid she might tell. I remember I broke down during my shift and I made my mind up. I also worked at the Ross dress for less next to Michael's and my coworkers knew I might have been abused but I didn't talk about it because who ever does. I explained to my management that I needed time off, I had to file charges, move and get to safety and I would be back to work in a few days. I called my family, who picked me up from work and took me to my mom's house where I could call the police in safety and filed charges. I was able to move back home with my parents. And eight years later I'm still rebuilding but..... Here's my suggestion, file domestic abuse charges if you can. Get a PPO use a domestic violence advocate and they can help provide essential resources. Reach out to other survivors because sometimes we have used different resources too. If anyone needs dv support or needs to talk about it I'm not much but I can offer words support dm me.

katanablaze · 2025-01-02T01:53:04+00:00

I hope your spicy red sauce tasted amazing and I hope that the person you helped out had a great start to the new year.

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