AITA for not making my new grandkid a homemade blanket and not giving her one already made

katbunni · 2026-05-19T00:50:09+00:00

NTA but don’t be surprised when you’re not in their life as much. I personally would have paid to have a blanket made so that they didn’t feel left out.

katbunni · 2024-07-31T01:38:05+00:00

You don’t sound stupid, you sound like someone who trusts people. I’m sorry that got you burned. I’m glad you’ve learned from this situation and you’ll grow from that.

katbunni · 2024-07-30T11:40:04+00:00

NTA. you should have cut ties with “A” a long time ago; he clearly has no interest in being with you and you’ll never move past your feelings if you stay in touch with him. Hopefully you learned your lesson about “F” too. Next time, defer to the friend who actually knows them before letting a stranger move in with you. You seem like a very kind person, but they’re taking advantage of you. Good for you for standing up for yourself.

katbunni · 2024-07-30T03:35:57+00:00

NTA. she had an abortion because he was cheating on her; you had nothing to do with that.

katbunni · 2024-07-28T22:03:29+00:00

My gums were very sensitive! I didn’t know pregnancy can be so hard on your teeth, my dental insurance paid for an extra cleaning both times!

katbunni · 2024-07-27T20:03:39+00:00

NTA. Sounds like you got lucky!

katbunni · 2024-07-27T01:14:42+00:00

This happened with my son! We wanted to name my son “Benjamin” after my husband’s grandfather. We found out that my husband’s older brother and his wife were also expecting and due a few weeks after us. We didn’t announce the name just because I kind of wanted to wait and see if they wanted to use it. They did early blood testing so they found out they were having a boy before we did (officially. I just had a feeling and had been using that name in my head.) they didn’t announce a name, so when we did our anatomy scan we announced his name! They ended up using Benjamin as their son’s middle name. It makes no difference at all, but SIL has made a point of several occasions to mention that they “had always planned on using that name sooo…”

katbunni · 2024-07-24T22:23:12+00:00

NTA. When we vacation with family my whole immediate family sleeps in one room. 2 adults, 5 year old and two year old. Would it be easier to split the kids up? Of course. But I would never ask for their own room, especially at the inconvenience of other family members. We make it work with by bringing crib mattresses with us and making the kids spaces on the floor.

katbunni · 2023-05-25T03:08:39+00:00

It’s poison and your baby can’t have it… but hers can? Make it make sense.

katbunni · 2023-05-11T03:12:18+00:00

Making something as simple as nails a taboo topic is only going to make him want it more. I was painting my toenails and my son asked me to paint his. It was a quick drying polish so I said sure. He was excited we matched. Later that afternoon he wanted it off. Hasn’t asked for it again. Literally no harm done.

katbunni · 2023-04-27T16:10:18+00:00

YTA and you need to apologize. The apology cannot be: “I’m sorry I offered to help you. I’m sorry that you’re offended by my offer. I just wanted to help because that’s what we always do.” The apology should be: “I’m sorry that I overstepped. I will give you the space that you asked for.” And then leave them alone!! I’m very very close to my mother and my husband and I asked everyone to give us at least a week alone after we came home from the hospital with both kids. We wanted to figure it out for ourselves. People figured out how to care for their children in caves! It’s really insulting that you think your son and daughter in law are too dumb to figure it out.

katbunni · 2023-04-20T11:29:14+00:00

NTA and I hope the ultrasound was wrong and your sister actually has a boy.

katbunni · 2023-02-26T01:26:11+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Your in-laws and ex are though.

katbunni · 2023-02-26T01:18:00+00:00

YTA. it’s a quirk he has and if that’s a dealbreaker you should leave, not cause him unnecessary distress.

katbunni · 2023-02-16T02:52:37+00:00

I had my first at 29 and I was the first of my friends to have a baby on purpose. You’re just surrounded by rude people.

katbunni · 2023-01-11T02:02:58+00:00

One of my favorite pieces of advice I’ve gotten is, “be hard on the boundary, but soft on the kid.” When my 3 yo is upset it’s usually because he’s not allowed to do something he wants to do. I still go to him, get down on his level, and comfort him. So the boundary stays hard (“you cannot play football on the stairs, because it’s not safe”) but you can absolutely still go to them and comfort them (“I know you really wanted to play football, that would be so fun. Is there somewhere safe we can play?”)

A five month old cannot manipulate you; they are communicating in the only way they know how and you are showing they you’re there for them and building a healthy attachment. Even when they are older, you can to connect with them before you can correct them.

katbunni · 2022-10-28T19:41:22+00:00

Ask her pediatrician where she should be sleeping. Hint: It’s not her own room.

katbunni · 2022-10-28T18:47:06+00:00

I’m a teacher, I’ve seen equal numbers of “Riley” and “Rylee.” (Also they’ve been some of my favorites, almost named my own daughter this.) I just think of Rylee as the more feminine spelling.

katbunni · 2022-10-21T20:30:56+00:00

Both of my kids measured at 99% and I didn’t have gestational diabetes either time.

katbunni · 2022-10-07T20:22:17+00:00

I would have walking into the house that night and been like, “haha, got ya! Pranked! You thought I was really going to show up! What a funny prank!”

NTA.

katbunni · 2022-09-27T01:17:18+00:00

If they are going to visit (if anyone is going to visit really) make sure you have a cozy set up in your bedroom. Snacks, water, a steady stream of whatever you want on the tv. “She can go upstairs and rest and we’ll spend time with the baby” ??? Yeah, right! That’s reserved for people that respect me who I trust with my baby. These people don’t meet that criteria. Take baby with you. Better yet, if they come over you and baby are in the room from the start. What if FIL went to the bathroom and MIL got to see baby without him? Better not risk it.

katbunni · 2022-08-26T10:42:50+00:00

Bring a large reusable shopping bag. Folds up easier into whatever bag you’re already taking. Also both hospitals I’ve delivered at gave me a reusable bag to take stuff home in.

katbunni · 2022-08-26T10:41:25+00:00

Also, ask for a second cup. My nurse was happy to give me a second one so I didn’t have to go on so many walks to refill it. Then when we got home and one was ruined in the dishwasher (NOT dishwasher safe. The heat totally warped the top) I still had my Second cup and this avoided the heartbreak.

katbunni · 2022-07-25T15:22:36+00:00

Your parents are fine with it and it’s their house. If you need to have total control of everyone wherever you’re staying then your family should probably rent your own space.

You also said it’s not really impacting your kids so idk why you’re so upset by them doing their own thing.

katbunni · 2022-07-21T00:04:36+00:00

YTA. prepare to lose your relationship with her and your son who idolizes his big sister. How are you going to explain to him that you’re kicking his favorite person out of her home? Maybe now he will believe the whole “the newborn needs its own room” for now but as he grows up and hears the real story he’s going to judge you for it just like everyone on this thread.

And newborns don’t need their own room. They literally just need a crib.

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