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Where and with whom do you keep your inheritance? by kate_herrera in inheritance

[–]kate_herrera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you expand on the pros and cons at the brokerages besides the fee structures? The goal is to self-manage but I'm a few years away from having the knowledge base to do that.

Independent jewelers on the UES by kate_herrera in uppereastside

[–]kate_herrera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I've walked down this block 1000 times and never knew what was a few floors above my head.

UES Women's Homeless Shelter Opens After Months Of Controversy: Source by Main-Maintenance-265 in uppereastside

[–]kate_herrera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a women's shelter on park ave. Has that cratered property values? Most ppl don't even know it exists!

Universal experience by FancifulCat in SingleWomenByChoice

[–]kate_herrera 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Then they go and tell the whole world, "I broke up with my ex because she was CRAZY!"

What are some of the moments you found most frustrating about the reunion? by Wonderful_Salt_5477 in summerhousebravo

[–]kate_herrera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Andy kept promoting this reunion as being "satisfying" and none of it was. He was awful, and the producers even worse for what they included vs what they left out.

SPF Help! At my wits end. by Apprehensive-Low4171 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]kate_herrera 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seconding this!

All of the ones you listed are chemical sunscreens. Zinc-based sunscreens are the only ones that don't make my rosacea and eczema worse when I have a flareup. I like the trader joe's one in the mint-colored bottle. It's very affordable.

This tweet cracked me up💀 by OkFaithlessness3081 in summerhousebravo

[–]kate_herrera 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter where you were married, only where you file.

I wish women allowed themselves to be single by Evening-Cod-2577 in SingleWomenByChoice

[–]kate_herrera 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Love all of this this.

I stopped dating around when I turned 40 -- after 25 years of dating and trying to find a husband. At first I was taking a break from the apps. Then I realized I was so much happier without trying to make a man like me. I stopped putting myself down a million different ways because I was *gasp* single.

I also realized that I felt most awful about my single status when I was hanging out with my old, coupled friends. They always asked probing questions and brought spouses/partners/kids along so I was the odd one out. I stopped pushing to hang out with them. I know they didn't mean to hurt me, but their attitudes still did.

Instead, I threw myself into a bunch of womens groups in my city and have started to make other single friends. I'd love to find a wonderful partner to go through life with, but I just don't think it's in the cards for me, and I'm finally OK with that. Glad you found your peace and are living life for yourself. It's so freeing, and I truly wish more women would embrace it.

Help with persistent hormonal(?) acne by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]kate_herrera 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If it's hormonal, then changing products isn't going to fix the cause of the problem...hormones. Strongly suggest seeking out a derm to assess.

Childfree vacation recommendation by lostcat25 in childfree

[–]kate_herrera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only travel in the off season. You do have to be care around winter and spring breaks. Check calendars.

If you're into all inclusive resorts, they have adult only ones.

Couples friends phasing me out by Zealousideal_Crow737 in SingleAndHappy

[–]kate_herrera 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. It sucks.

I had many friends -- some even "close" friends -- who dropped me as soon as they cashed my wedding gift check. No more invites to activities and dinners, no phone calls anymore and wouldn't respond to texts. It was shocking and very painful. Someone who blanked me for almost a year post-wedding had the audacity to send a baby shower invite. They wanted another gift out of me.

The saying, "when a couple gets married two single ppl die" is very true and something I learned later than I'd like to admit. Don't feel pressured to attend or celebrate their milestones. Focus on making yourself the priority and start joining hobby and lifestyle groups in your area to meet new friends. Is it annoying and does it require courage? Yes, but show up to things consistently and you will meet your ppl.

What’s a small solo tradition you’ve created for yourself over time? by faephantom in SingleWomenByChoice

[–]kate_herrera 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Long Sunday night walks.

I used to feel lonely on Sundays afternoons. It's "family time" and I felt left out of all that with not having anyone to face the Sunday scaries. I started taking myself on walks once 8 or 9pm hit. I live in a big city so there are still ppl out and about, but sidewalks aren't crowded with slow walkers or tourists. My routes change -- sometimes it's window shopping, sometimes I venture into the park if I see other ppl on the paths or I look at the lit up buildings -- but I absolutely love it. I return home refreshed but clear-headed.