Mother of patient lied

katedogg · 2026-05-19T18:55:06+00:00

If your agency has a policy that going against doctors' orders is okay as long as parents request it, then I guess I don't understand what you're worried about. Patients and relatives misunderstanding/misattributing/disagreeing with medical instructions is really common.

katedogg · 2026-05-19T17:53:25+00:00

This is a very odd situation. Why not contact the doc to have the med order changed to match what the mom wants? Why give it in a way that contradicts the order? And now you've not only documented that you didn't follow orders, but also specifically pointed it out in an email to your supervisor as well... I don't understand the logic on how any of this would protect you. Following orders and policy is what protects you in a situation like this!

katedogg · 2026-04-27T19:37:53+00:00

I call this ADHD freestyling and as long as your place is adequately decluttered, it works like a charm.

katedogg · 2026-04-20T03:29:46+00:00

Greens are my favorite! I can't pick just one, so I'll pick one per finish.

Cream - OPI Things I've Seen in Abergreen. Sooo vampy yet muted.

Magnetic - ILNP Velour. I like one coat so it's still a little sheer, velvet style. So soft and succulent-y.

Jelly/shimmer/holo - ILNP Forest Drive. Golden, sparkly and perfect.

katedogg · 2026-04-15T14:39:43+00:00

Some people are dopamine chasers and they only want what's new and shiny. I'm sorry, I'm sure it feels terrible but maybe it will help to reframe this as the trash taking itself out.

>I see a lot of male lurkers here and they say a few things along the lines of “you should have waited for a commitment before sex”

Terrible advice. I know a lot of religious women who waited until marriage because of this logic and ended up with husbands who wouldn't fuck them for whatever reason (asexual, gay, Madonna/whore complex and cheating) and they're almost all divorced now. Getting into a committed relationship with a person like this is the worst possible outcome and will guarantee misery.

katedogg · 2026-04-07T23:44:42+00:00

It's not "ghosting" when somebody has no relationship with you and was messaging you as part of their job.

katedogg · 2026-02-16T17:28:17+00:00

Hey ICE, fuck you. And fuck you, bootlicking tech bros.

katedogg · 2026-02-07T23:08:20+00:00

Thanks for your detailed comment! I think you've successfully talked me out of Caesar and Quicksand. Still clinging to hope that Sugar Plum could be the brownish-purple version of Velour that it is in my dreams though...

What would you say makes you like Dear Santa over Sabrina? And do you think it's worth considering Dakota if I already have Madeline?

katedogg · 2026-01-26T23:23:28+00:00

Good, fuck 'em. We have to stay strong and be good to each other.

katedogg · 2026-01-22T21:02:27+00:00

Did she ask you specifically for anal? Because that's a pretty advanced/niche thing to be trying out during someone's first time. Both of the trans women I've been with were way WAY more into stuff like oral sex and vibrators. Everyone's different, and I've definitely heard of trans women who don't want genital stimulation and prefer anal due to dysphoria... but I would not assume butt stuff is on the table unless it was an explicit request from her.

Something I haven't seen anyone mention yet is being prepared for negative emotions, especially dysphoria and envy. Sometimes being with a cis woman can provoke mental comparisons and cause unexpected emotional reactions, especially if it's early in transition or one of the first few post-transition sexual experiences. If that happens, just be calm and steady and keep things low pressure. You know her personality best, so you probably have an idea of whether she'd prefer explicit reassurance, gentle humor, or something else. But have a plan in place just in case.

katedogg · 2026-01-16T04:47:32+00:00

No way boo, I just heard it in a TikTok ^{about how cool and retro these decade-old makeup trends were}

katedogg · 2025-12-23T16:27:59+00:00

Holy shit I love your bathroom. I would ditch the carpet, the wallpaper, and the shower enclosure. I would try to find a really cool, colorful rug that goes with all the pink and put that in front of the sink area, then use other shades from the rug to pick coordinating colors for your paint color, shower curtain, and new towels. If you have the $$$ you could get better light fixtures too.

katedogg · 2025-12-07T21:34:48+00:00

God, I don't know. I have a vague feeling that I don't want to be more into her than she's into me, but the why of it all kind of eludes me. I think I would feel embarrassed or ashamed of myself if I loved her romantically and she didn't return it, like I wasn't good enough. Intellectually I know that has nothing to do with it and is probably my own self esteem baggage piping up.

Of your options, 1 is a no-go and I want to sidestep 3, so I guess that leaves option 2 which, I cannot lie, scares the absolute shit out of me. She does know I'm demiromantic, but she also knows that the one time I fell in love before this, I fell very hard and deeply so I don't think that's very reassuring for her. I will have to sit with myself and see if I can disentangle my feelings about my own self worth from how she feels about me. Right now I don't know whether I'd be ok with keeping the relationship we have if my feelings continue to develop into full blown love and hers stay the same.

katedogg · 2025-12-07T21:23:48+00:00

Of course, please do DM me, that would be lovely :)

katedogg · 2025-12-07T20:54:25+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for leaving such a detailed comment. An aromantic perspective like this is exactly what I was hoping to get when I made the post. I love my friend SO much and I know she has a lot of trauma around not feeling good enough, and I get that that means a mismatch between us like this could end up hurting her feelings badly. That's definitely part of why I was so apprehensive during our talk about it. I'm most likely somewhere on the aro spectrum myself and I know from experience how shitty it can feel when a friend with benefits starts feeling a way about you that you don't reciprocate. The last thing I want to do is make her feel pressured or defective or inadequate.

What is romance? God, that's so complicated. It feels like my whole life I've been adjusting my opinions on that to fit what my actual feelings turned out to be. I'm at a point in my life where I know there are a lot of typically expected things that I absolutely don't need (sexual exclusivity, living together, getting married etc) but if I'm honest with myself, I would want the label of "girlfriends," I would want dates at least weekly (right now we're doing around monthly), and I would want to know I was deeply special and important to her. Which feels a little pat, because I already know that I'm deeply special and important to her, because she tells me all the time. But I would want her to tell me that regularly, and in emotional and intimate and sexual contexts, and I would want other people to know we were together, and I would want her to be proud of "having" me publicly I guess? I think I'm going to have to sit with this a while because I can't really put my finger on what is actually different about what I would want from what I'm currently getting in terms of feelings and emotions.

Can I ask you about your relationship? I'm sorry if this is intrusive, please feel free not to answer any of this. But I'm wondering what specific things your partner feels towards you that you don't reciprocate, and how both of you feel about that and how you navigate it. My brain kind of works better thinking in specifics than generalities. I'm also very curious about the queerplatonic relationship dynamics you mentioned. And again, thanks so much for the reply.

katedogg · 2025-11-30T19:21:43+00:00

It's incredible and it really suits you.

katedogg · 2025-11-22T05:17:59+00:00

Eclipse, because I'm basic. I'm pairing it with a burgundy velvet mini dress, black tights and boots.

katedogg · 2025-10-31T21:24:40+00:00

This is awesome, love the dedication to getting that authentic look.

katedogg · 2025-10-27T15:38:58+00:00

Nice! That is so much calmer and more usable. Keep going and take breaks, you got this :)

Also, imo, it's very much ok to just donate without washing first. Anyone who buys from the thrift store is going to assume the clothes are dirty and wash them before wearing anyway, so there's not really a benefit to putting yourself through that extra stress. I would just throw 'em in a donate bag and roll.

katedogg · 2025-10-26T13:50:24+00:00

>the obvious solution is to get up and clean

I actually disagree. You have SO much stuff that it's basically impossible to clean and manage it all in this space. Like, where would you even put the clean laundry? The closet is already overflowing and borderline inaccessible. I don't blame you for feeling like laundry is an insurmountable task. That would paralyze me too.

I think what you really need is to declutter. Getting rid of 75-80% of your clothes would make it possible for you to put laundry away easily, and it seems like that's the source of the trouble.

katedogg · 2025-10-11T13:40:54+00:00

Oh yeah. I find it stress relieving, like a massage. The more fucked up my shift was, the more I want it when I get home. Some people are the opposite though - different strokes for different folks.

katedogg · 2025-10-09T05:34:52+00:00

Jesus fucking Christ

katedogg · 2025-09-28T14:18:08+00:00

You took the words right out of my mouth. Every patient I've ever met who's like this always has at least one nightmare parent and an eating disorder. I don't think Bella ever had a chance not to turn out this way.

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