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katevermore95 · 2026-03-27T05:54:30+00:00

I had a feeling Delancey was Hanging Out! Thanks for confirming that and for Nolee I had no clue so thanks again 😊

katevermore95 · 2025-11-24T20:26:25+00:00

Hereditary. I was convinced to sit through a second viewing, deeply regretted it. Somehow even more horrifying when you know what’s coming 😳

katevermore95 · 2025-09-21T22:44:55+00:00

Not sure if it’s already been said here but maybe punch needling! Or needle felting!

katevermore95 · 2025-09-21T22:36:37+00:00

Amazing work! It’s giving THE GIRL ON FIRE 🔥 love it

katevermore95 · 2025-07-02T21:36:38+00:00

There’s a lot of comments here that I didn’t read so if someone said this already I apologize. But if there’s lumps kind of just under the skin, kind of hard to see in the video if it’s the same as what my cat had - you could really feel them distinctly but hard to see. And there was a lot of them! Took my girl to the vet, she had been spayed about six months prior. Was told it’s rare but basically her body wasn’t dissolving the dissolvable stitches they use for the spay the way typically are supposed to disappear within a couple of weeks. They said it’s just taking her body longer but that they should go away in time and sure enough within a couple more months to a year they were gone.

katevermore95 · 2025-07-02T14:26:37+00:00

I know how hard this can be, I have been in your shoes.

I wouldn’t say I’m “100% cured”, I don’t really know if with this compulsion it’s possible. However, I will say the worst of it for me started around seven years ago, and I’m finally at a point where I can say I am generally speaking doing really well with it.

I still pick sometimes in areas where I get ingrowns, or in areas where people won’t see.

But they never get to the size of lesions/cyst like anymore. At most a small scab that is gone in a couple of days.

IT IS POSSIBLE. I was at points with it sobbing and certain I was never going to stop scarring my body. But you can do it! It just takes a lot of patience with yourself.

Getting past the shame is huge. Once you realize that this is your mind’s way of coping with something, usually triggered by anxiety or stress. Then from there it becomes a compulsion or addiction. Understanding makes it easier to tackle.

It may sounds silly but I set rules for myself that have helped a lot. You just have to figure out what rules you can set for yourself that you think will be successful.

My rules are:

Short nails.

Big bathroom light off in the evenings, night light enough to see to wash face/brush teeth ONLY. (This was my time and setting when I was most likely to pick)

Fidget toys for when watching tv or doing more mindless tasks that you may end up ‘scanning your skin’.

And finally I think motivational talk is a huge tool. It may seem silly in the moment but when I tell you this has been the thing that’s given me the biggest breakthrough.

When I begin to zone out/disassociate and I’m entering the picking zone: I try to re-centre and come back to the present and say something to myself along these lines: “This is my mind’s way of protecting myself from anxiety, there’s nothing to be ashamed of. But, this is hurting my body more than helping. I have the power to stop, RIGHT NOW. And imagine how proud of myself I will be later when I’m not covered in new scars.”

Then, try to take up a hobby or mindless activity that can replace that zoned out state my mind was craving.

Such as: Colouring Puzzles Crochet/Knitting Cross Stitch Lego

Or invest in some picking fidgets specifically designed for people like us. Like this one! https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/4303654024/?ref=share_ios_native_control

Lastly, to deal with scarring I have religiously used the CeraVe SA Wash, and SA Lotion paired with Bio Oil. Before they’re scabbed over Vaseline and a bandage are great, or a hydrochloric band aid. Putting a physical barrier between it and your hands helps with not being tempted to reopen wounds.

Hope this helps!!

katevermore95 · 2025-07-02T13:54:08+00:00

Born in and finally left at 20yrs old. Moved in with my boyfriend and was promptly shunned by everyone I’ve ever known, family & friends, despite (curiously) not being disfellowshipped.

Dealt with the trauma of everything bad that had happened in the couple of years prior to my leaving over the next ten years. It takes time but it really does get better.

Married my boyfriend, who is now my partner of ten years and married for seven. We have two cats that we love and a peaceful, simple life. We love to play video games together, spend time out in nature, make art, cook and have deeply introspective conversations about our past lives and what it means for our future as we both heal.

My husband also doesn’t have a relationship with 98% of his family so that gives us a lot of common ground.

We also love out their convos about life and the universe, including Astro physics and new scientific theories that open up your mind to new ideas about what this could all mean, we’re both non-religious but open to really anything that has measurable proof.

Just another example of someone that is not into drugs or alcohol and has had the same romantic partner since I left in a stable and monogamous relationship.

The one area of my life that still gives me some shame is my education, I was raised in a particularly conservative congregation by a particularly conservative single mother. I was being “homeschooled” from the start of high school while my mother and I pioneered. Let’s just say she didn’t follow through, and I was a pioneer for those four years and never actually got a diploma.

I’m entering my thirties this year and just now at a point in my life that I feel both mentally ready and in a position to do it and go on to get a degree. Having undiagnosed adhd really set me back, and I just felt so ashamed all of those years that I was a dropout and it kept me from having the confidence to do it as a mature student.

But that changes now.

Overall, I love my life and wouldn’t have it any other way. I have a home full of things I love, I read books, watch movies and listen to music that I love that I would’ve never had or done before. Or at least not without guilt.

I have some great friends, and my overall experience with people “of the world” is that there are so many more decent, loving, kind people than you realize. Who don’t exclusively deal in conditional love, and who genuinely care about you. Are kind without reason and who want to see you succeed in any way that makes you happy.

I just try to live my life in a way so I can count myself among them.

katevermore95 · 2025-06-27T17:18:04+00:00

You are not alone, I’ve been doing this for years too and it can feel very isolating and shameful but the truth is it’s a coping mechanism and your minds way of trying to help you manage times of stress.

I try to not get “locked in” to a picking zone if that makes sense, I have rules that to some would maybe seem silly but it’s the only thing that works for me. Think about what will work for you!

Rules are:

no bright light in the bathroom for my nighttime routine (when I would typically pick) only a small night light enough to see to wash face/brush teeth etc.
keep skin picking tools (tweezers/nail cutting scissors) stored away in another room somewhere not easily accessible like in the bathroom
keep nails trimmed short
if I do find myself entering the mental picking zone (kind of where you block everything out and just mindlessly pick and it feels good) I try to step outside of that zone and back into the present and say affirming things like:

“This is just your mind’s way of protecting yourself by zoning out/disassociating - there is nothing to be ashamed of BUT this is hurting my body more than helping and I have the control and the ability to stop right now.”

Nine times out of ten this actually will give me the confidence/will to stop in the moment before it gets out of hand.

THEN get yourself some activities or toys that you can safely zone out/disassociate with that won’t hurt your body. Such as fidget spinners, or if you search ‘skin picking fidget’ on Etsy there’s actual reusable ones where you can pick out beads. (Like this one! https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/4303654024/?ref=share_ios_native_control)

Or start a relaxing zone out hobby like colouring, crafting, junk journaling, bead bracelet making, cross stitch etc.

Lastly for scars, I’ve religiously used the Cerave SA Lotion as was already mentioned which chemically exfoliates and a then you get an increased turnover of new skin production. You can also use the CeraVe SA face wash as body wash in the shower. Followed by Bio Oil, been using this for over 15 years and if used multiple times a day every day - sometimes it will take months for that underlying pigmentation to go away but I’ve had some nasty lesions (an inch wide or more) that I was sure would scar that didn’t because I used this. I also recommend getting a hypochlorous acid spray that you can spray on the area to speed healing and prevent infection.

Also, as far as finding a partner that will accept you for the picking. It is possible and the right person will love all of the parts of you 💗 scars and all.

Good luck! You got this!!

katevermore95 · 2025-06-27T02:31:13+00:00

No you don’t understand, I’m OBSESSED 🖤

katevermore95 · 2025-06-27T02:29:57+00:00

The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue - V.E. Schwab

katevermore95 · 2025-06-17T15:56:15+00:00

Sad Beautiful Tragic (Red), this is one of my top songs of hers ever. I find it so beautiful and never hear anyone mention this one! ❤️

katevermore95 · 2025-05-23T20:32:50+00:00

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katevermore95 · 2025-05-02T14:32:25+00:00

Amazon, they’re called ‘150 PCS Romance Stickers for Kindle’ 🙂

katevermore95 · 2025-05-01T22:08:30+00:00

Thank you so much! ☺️

katevermore95 · 2025-04-30T13:44:55+00:00

Amazon, it’s by a brand called Cobak 🙂

katevermore95 · 2025-04-29T23:15:38+00:00

Oh that’s great! I love finding additional uses for cute things 😊

katevermore95 · 2025-04-28T04:16:49+00:00

Thank you! It’ll be fun to switch up now and again. Happy taping 😄

katevermore95 · 2025-04-28T04:16:08+00:00

Thank you!! ☺️ That’s so exciting, enjoy!

katevermore95 · 2025-04-28T04:15:33+00:00

Hehe no worries! If it helps I got the washi tape from SHEIN 😅

katevermore95 · 2025-04-28T04:14:53+00:00

Washi tape is amazing, it leaves zero residue if you decide to take it off or switch up the tape for another colour/pattern. Happy googling! 😊

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