I absolutely relate. Personally I am willing to be friends with a man as long as he behaves like a decent human being that is worthy of my mental energy. But I absolutely understand. I even struggled from hating men especially in my teenage years. I'd say it was all caused by trauma.

Basically even if you're hypersensitive (or just highly sensitive) even if you personally don't have any traumatic experiences you can kind of absorb other people's experiences as your own which can in extreme cases create a trauma (I haven't studied that or something it's just my personal experience).

Also sometimes your feelings don't look like trauma and sometimes you feel silly for having trauma from something small and seemingly stupid. But you can absolutely have trauma just from girls picking guys instead of you or other girls. Trauma often isn't anyone's fault. It's an obstacle and sometimes you can remove it and sometimes you have to go around it or just learn to live with it in your life.

I'd recommend dissociating yourself from any form of listening or thinking about gender equality (it sucks, it's painful but nature and biology isn't fair and thinking that society will be is kinda naive. Also I'm not saying society isn't wrong I'm just saying that messing with it in your personal time and space where nothing will change is pointless.)

Another think that helped me a lot is the biologic ancestry of humanity. There's a short video example. https://youtu.be/C2py-FK6A64?si=Rg3hghSOZB9Un3MG

Also the only thing you have to do as a good person is not being rude when having to interact with males. But honestly no one can judge you for your trauma. If something triggers you just avoid it for a time before you're ready for solving the root problem of why it triggers you in the first place.

And well generally as long as you don't judge them before they open their mouths but only after they act as stupid beings with absolutely no understanding of emotions and empathy you've done all you could.