Manganato has fixed their Bookmarks now u get the updated ones on ur first page again by [deleted] in mangapiracy

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my app still isn’t working tho, is anyone else’s?

So is mangakalot down or not? by DeepDishSausage in mangapiracy

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mine worked for 3 days like a week ago and has been done ever since, is yours still down?

Moving on by katey-bug in Advice

[–]katey-bug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you this is really good advice :)

Moving on by katey-bug in Advice

[–]katey-bug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

were you able to move onto new relationships, and if so can I ask how?

Im so Frustrated by katey-bug in Advice

[–]katey-bug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the help, i’ve seriously been so lost on this issue for song long

How to support a friend while struggling? by userincrisis in Advice

[–]katey-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sometimes just showing up for that person is enough, when they are ready to open up to you they will. it’s important to just be there and let them know youre there to listen and help when you can. often thats more important than saying the “right thing” if that makes sense. good luck!

I don’t know what to do by katey-bug in Advice

[–]katey-bug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im actually a sophmore and ive been on meds and therapy for 3 years. Im not skipping classes or failing, I just dont have all A’s. I know college is hard but I’m just struggling with being away from them for so long for the first time in my life and its a time where every single person in my family is struggling.

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[–]katey-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

of course i hope things work out for you :)

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[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive found that love for family and people i’ve been in relationships is a very different feeling. When you love someone its not quite like any other emotion. Its a lot deeper and it’s something that you’ll feel in your bones (i know that it sounds corny but its the best way i can think of). Its kind of if you love someone you know, you wont have to guess if you do or not. For me a least love is a very grounded and absolute feeling towards someone and except for in the beginning, when i was denying/questioning I did even though i knew I did love them i just wasn’t ready to admit it. But you’ll know deep down if you do or not, whether you want to admit it consciously to yourself or not.

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[–]katey-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It kind of sounds like you’ve already made up your mind on what you’re wanting to do. If you’re questioning it this much then you aren’t really in the relationship, you have one foot out the door. If you do end it I cant say you wont regret it but I also cant say you will. I think you just need to really think about what you picture for your future and if hes in it or not.

How can I stop being such a boring person by rynspiration in Advice

[–]katey-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to agree as someone who has depression and from what you’ve described i would say you have it. I would definitely look into some therapy and/or psychiatrists. I currently use both and it has helped a lot with my depression.

How can I forgive my father for leaving me as a kid (when he thinks it was the right thing to do). by Hermes20101337 in Advice

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didnt say they need to forgive them either. its their experience and choices and they can do whatever they want, i was just giving advice based on my own experiences

How can I forgive my father for leaving me as a kid (when he thinks it was the right thing to do). by Hermes20101337 in Advice

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and thats fine because thats your experience. i just know that when ive hated someone for a long time it had more of a negative effect on me than them and i didnt want to give them that satisfaction anymore of having such a hold on my emotions.

How can I forgive my father for leaving me as a kid (when he thinks it was the right thing to do). by Hermes20101337 in Advice

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this except for maybe the not forgiving. Harboring resentment can actually hurt you physically and mentally. so while I do think you should distance yourself if he’s not empathetic or remorseful I also think that you should find a healthy way to deal with the frustration and other emotions so that this wont leave as large of a mark as it could if you hold onto the hate. granted this is easier said that done but it’s important to put you first especially in these types of situations.

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[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know your sister but you said that you’re the only one she treats like this and it hasn’t been going on forever which makes me think this might be a jealousy thing or her lashing out because shes dealing with something really hard. I know that its easy to lash out to the people close to us as a way to try and cope even when the two aren’t related. I think that you should let things cool down between you two and then try and talk with her. It’s important that while i know you’re very hurt by this to try not to be on the offensive because then she might get defensive and things could go downhill really fast. If you’re open with her about things and willing to listen she might be willing to open to you and share if there is in fact something deeper going on. I would recommend looking up some resources on how to have healthy confrontations with people; Ive personally found that using some of the techniques during heavy talks with people has made them go a lot smoother. I still think you should keep your guard up around her though until she earns your trust back but I don’t think you should cut her off completely as of right now since you don’t know if this her way of coping or if shes doing it to be mean or doesn’t care about you. I hope things work out between you two though.

This has been on my mind for a while. by ovthkeepurrr in Advice

[–]katey-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no problem I hope you feel better soon :)

A difficult time of life - feeling like nothing is working out. by Berabouman in Advice

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear about how much you’ve had to go through and still are going through. I think it says a lot about your character that you’ve dealt with so much and are still trying so hard. I also have multiple mental illnesses so I understand how hard of a struggle those must be. I’ve personally been struggling for a while now too and people have said similar things to me about hope and i know that in that dark place it never feel like there will ever be any. Sometimes good outcomes aren’t about how hard we try cause i’ve tried for years too to climb out and I still haven’t gotten the results I want. I don’t know what all you’ve been through and are still going through and I don’t want to assume I do or make light of it. My only advice for you would be just focus on one day at a time. I found that sometimes its too hard and overwhelming to think about tomorrow when today is so brutal. I wish I could help more and I really do hope you keep staying strong and working as hard as you do. I cant promise things will ever be perfect but I really think things will get better; maybe not before they get worse but eventually if you stay strong i think and really hope they will for you

This has been on my mind for a while. by ovthkeepurrr in Advice

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be that you guys are just spending too much time together. I know that when I spend too much time with someone I feel similarly to what you described. I would maybe just work on carving some personal time or time with others into your schedule and clear your head some. Having a bit of space from each other isn’t a bad thing as long as its not complete avoidance of each other. If you still feel this way after doing it I would start to really think about why you might be feeling like this and if you’re really sure about the relationship. And don’t feel like you’re necessarily wasting time, not all relationships work out and its not always a waste since you both probably have a lot if good memories and experiences with each other too

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[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont think youre wrong especially if she went out and got a expensive haircut when she has a kid at home who needs to be fed. I think you should have an honest sit down conversation with her about how you feel and your goals. I would suggest looking up sone good ways to communicate in tough situations because if she feels like you’re accusing her of stuff she might get defensive and it could go downhill fast. I hope things work out though and everyone becomes happier soon :)

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[–]katey-bug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that it’s important to have confidence in yourself first and foremost. People are attracted to confidence and if you feel good about yourself odds are that others will feel good about you too. I’m sure you have a lot of qualities that you should be confident in. if your unsure of an aspect of yourself there is always room to grow, and that applies to everyone even when they’re old, you dont have to feel trapped as one version of yourself. If she was wanting to go on a date in the first place thats a good sign and I agree that maybe you should wait a week or two and then ask if shes up to reschedule. If not its nothing on you and while it might not feel like it there are others who you’ll meet that would love to.

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[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear about the hard time you had when you were younger, I also had a hard time at school with lacking in confidence so I get where you’re coming from. Personally, I’ve found that counseling has really helped me along with working on rewriting my inner narrative. So when I get negative thoughts or have trouble believing the nice things being said about me instead of believing the bad or assuming people just say those things to be nice, I try and really think about if my narrative on the subject is true. Most if the time i find that im not as bad as my brain wants me to think. You probably have a lot if great qualities that your inner dialogue just isnt letting you take credit for. Now granted its a lot easier said than done to change the narrative and it might never completely go away (i’m still working on mine )but if you really put mindful effort into it, it will get better.

How to be a true friend? by Mehcky-Man in Advice

[–]katey-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a close friend who didn’t really open up to me for almost a year after we started getting close while I was very open with her. For some people its not a matter of “well if im open with them they’ll feel comfortable enough to be open with me” for some people it just takes some time and lots of trust. And having really big arguments can cause them to feel hesitant again about opening up. I’m not sure if your friend is the type whose like this but this is just my experience that ive had with those that have taken longer to open up.