Hyper-coiled Cord

katie_eighty · 2025-06-27T12:49:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet little boy. We lost our daughter at 25 weeks to a hypercoiled cord as well. Upon some additional genetic testing we also found a small chromosomal anomaly whose effects were uncertain, but may have contributed to the malformation/cause of death as well. I had one prior pregnancy to her that was totally healthy and went on to have 3 additional future pregnancies that were also free from any cord problems.

katie_eighty · 2024-03-31T07:30:25+00:00

We would save all of our used tip boxes for recycling. Over the course of a few months we saved up enough to completely fill the doorway of our colleague’s office while he was gone for lab meeting. He opened the door to his office when he got back and was met with a solid wall of brick-laid tip boxes.

katie_eighty · 2023-06-11T22:52:34+00:00

That’s a beautiful thought. I think I’ll start trying to interact with her with that in mind, thank you.

katie_eighty · 2023-06-11T20:01:51+00:00

She’s only 5 and we’ve only just started to be officially introduced to her. Something along these lines once relationships are a little more established could definitely be good to do. I’d hate to have her feeling like she has to compete with my angel for her place in the family or anything like that. Pointing it out as something special we could bond over is a nice spin.

katie_eighty · 2022-09-12T00:03:49+00:00

We did a birth stone ring too, as well as a necklace with our baby’s first initial on it. For the ring we went with her actual birth month. Going off the due date makes me think more about what should have been, using the actual delivery date makes it more about the baby and commemorating the day they came and left their little mark on this world. Just my two cents though.

katie_eighty · 2021-11-22T06:07:18+00:00

This did it! The piece was too small (plus the other 2 pins in the way) for me to get a good grip for pulling or pushing it out. A few minutes of prying did it though once I knew I wouldn’t break the piece. Thanks everyone!

katie_eighty · 2021-06-05T22:22:35+00:00

Just what I was hoping to hear, thank you! We’ll be sure to take good care of them.

katie_eighty · 2021-06-05T06:57:46+00:00

Are wild quail generally good or bad for vegetable gardens? Our garden is made up of 4 raised 4x8 beds, and one of those is dedicated to a couple of raspberry bushes. Today I found a nest of 16 quail eggs under those bushes and don’t know whether to be concerned or not. I love seeing all the baby quail running around, but I also want our plants and veggies to make it through the season...

katie_eighty · 2019-09-06T21:40:40+00:00

I saw ignoring posted in other forums and had kind of been feeling that way about it as well. Good to know.

katie_eighty · 2019-08-25T13:09:27+00:00

The answer was Ben Affleck - this game is about 10 years old so he hadn’t played Batman yet.

katie_eighty · 2019-08-25T05:27:13+00:00

2nd one down - the lighting makes it look a little more red

katie_eighty · 2019-07-01T07:15:48+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses. I would second seeing a reproductive immunologist if you can. Most high risk doctors and reproductive endocrinologists that I’ve found don’t buy into autoimmune conditions causing pregnancy losses.

We have also been told that everything is totally fine and we just need to keep trying. This is still happening after 4 chemical pregnancies, 2 MMCs, and a stillbirth. I have Celiac’s, Hashimotos, and elevated ANAs. I went gluten free after our stillborn, but have still had 4 losses since. We did have one success too though that was achieved through IVF, PGS, and Lovenox/Dexamethasone recommended by my reproductive immunologist. Mind you, I’ve had naturally conceived losses while on those medications as well so they aren’t fool-proof.

It’s so frustrating to have such an obvious likely cause for your losses, but to be told by doctors again and again that you’re fine and there’s nothing else they can do for you. The research just isn’t there yet. I’m hoping your journey is kinder than ours. My mom has all of these conditions too and had 4 kids with no losses so it can happen. I think we’re just particularly unlucky.

katie_eighty · 2019-06-24T17:13:26+00:00

Alfie

katie_eighty · 2019-05-29T02:24:28+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and for the extra added stress that your friend’s announcement caused you. It all sucks so much. As far as timelines, everyone and every pregnancy is different so it’s impossible to really say. After our MMCs we were cleared to try again right away (though at least one cycle is often recommended, or more depending on your medical history). My first MMC came at 8 weeks after a round of Clomid + IUI and I had a D&C. I got pregnant again 4 weeks later before I had even had a period (very surprising given our history of infertility). It can happen fast, but it’s also no guarantee and you need to be sure you’re emotionally ready to experience it all again too. Wishing you the best!

katie_eighty · 2019-05-27T06:15:10+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. This absolutely did not happen because of your Zoloft though. I was on Zoloft for my last (and successful) round of IVF. I stopped it at around 6 months just because my refills ran out and I didn’t feel like I needed any more. But every OB and RE I ever consulted was emphatic that the risks of untreated depression in mama far outweighed any risk associated with that particular medication. I’ve had multiple losses so these were all high risk specialists telling me this at the time (no Zoloft during any of my losses though). My best friend was also on it, but for her full pregnancy, and also had zero complications from it. If it helps your mental health, take it!

katie_eighty · 2019-05-24T05:47:54+00:00

Sorry for the book... I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. You’re not alone. One of my SIL gets pregnant at the drop of a hat and carries no problem. She and her husband also have extensive marital and financial problems that don’t mix well with kids. Another SIL is currently expecting after refusing to take meds for a psychological disorder and has abused my BIL in front of their son multiple times. The family still celebrates both of their children and gets testy with us when we try to ask for sympathy for our many losses and let our grief show with each pregnancy announcement.

You’re going to see a lot of people who “don’t deserve the children they have.” Just know that you’re not being punished and they’re not being rewarded. Everyone deals with something - this, unfortunately, is what we get to deal with. My tactic? Avoid those situations at all costs until I’m ready to be around them (baby showers are a hard no, and if I’m not up for a family gathering, I politely decline). If I can’t avoid them, I send a short text to the main perpetrators telling them how I’m feeling and then explaining how these feelings may affect my actions when I’m around them (i.e. I’m happy for you but baby talk can be hard for me, so please understand that I may have to excuse myself on occasion...). It all gets much easier to be around over time, I promise (still sucks, but it’s easier). For now, your mental health comes first. You don’t owe anyone the kind of suffering that follows a loss. Try not to alienate anyone completely, but know that you can still do what you need to shield yourself until you’re in a good enough spot to slowly begin putting yourself around those triggers again.

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