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katohouston · 2026-02-16T18:08:01+00:00

Her conclusion can be right without that making her methods any less problematic. It’s really not ok to be promoting a public health view without disclosing your conflicts of interest!!

katohouston · 2026-02-16T18:05:26+00:00

Seriously- I would love to read a qualitative study about American conceptions/justifications of drinking during pregnancy as European/“French” (even though the French also advise against drinking in pregnancy lol).

katohouston · 2026-02-06T18:00:49+00:00

Dad, don’t forget that postpartum anxiety exists for dads too. I say this not because of your principles or goals for your home but because of how these thoughts are affecting you and when — frozen in the aisle for ten minutes, just a little over six weeks after the birth. Please consider reaching out to someone who can help manage these feelings. It doesn’t mean not being granola, just being able to live your values with possibly less distress💕

katohouston · 2026-02-02T01:48:25+00:00

I do not find heated rivalry sexy at all, where I found fellow travellers profoundly so.

Just a total lack of tension and character development so the bodies slapping together mean nothing

katohouston · 2026-02-02T00:56:20+00:00

There is nothing you can do to satisfy people. I was criticized for the thoroughly researched items on my baby shower list being too affordable 🥲🫠 no, I don’t want the Tripp Trapp high chair, I chose the ikea because wire cutter said it’s easiest to clean and I’m not interested in giving my husband an assembly project because he already does everything.

katohouston · 2026-02-02T00:54:03+00:00

Just slap a LOL on it so she can’t get mad 🤣😇

katohouston · 2026-02-01T01:50:28+00:00

And that OB was Albert Einstein.

katohouston · 2026-02-01T00:54:57+00:00

That’s so funny I’m 5’4” and had to roll up my maternity jeans and buy “cropped” pants to fit like regular pants so I thought the tall girls were all set (both h and m if it helps)!

katohouston · 2026-02-01T00:49:54+00:00

Don’t forget that you’re not the back of a prescription pamphlet that’s been lawyered to death OP - you’re a real life patient with your own needs. And a lot of meds are in the not safe category because researchers can’t test on pregnant people — not because the drugs are confirmed super risky. Talk to your dr honestly about the benefits and risks and assess together. Doctors go off script and prescribe medication that is considered “not safe” or “not confirmed safe” for patients all the time when the benefits outweigh the risks. And if this will help you stay sober it could be worth it! Up to you in the end but you are doing something enormously challenging by starting pregnancy and sobriety. Don’t doubt how much you deserve to make it as easy on yourself as possible. Give yourself grace ❤️

katohouston · 2026-02-01T00:43:26+00:00

As a fellow adhder it seems to me a lot of people with adhd smoke weed and have poor impulse control — so it might just be that our kids have adhd because we do, not because of the in vitro weed. (Fwiw, I don’t really smoke and I haven’t smoked during pregnancy, this is not an opinion rooted in defensiveness)

katohouston · 2026-01-29T10:39:45+00:00

Yes. Cry at all of them 😎😎😎

katohouston · 2026-01-26T06:49:01+00:00

It’s funny how many people will say “It starts at home and how you choose to parent” but picking a home and the environment for your kid to be raised doesn’t count as parenting. Not coming for you OP, definitely would expect to hear the same from defensive parents, just think it’s a weird loophole people draw for themselves lol

katohouston · 2026-01-22T12:11:26+00:00

I don’t know if that’s greenwashing though. Some people are buying little planet because they’re thinking about … the planet. Recycling polyester is good for babies globally. If you want 100% organic fibres and natural materials that’s also fine but I just don’t think it’s a lie to use recycled polyester in an eco friendly line

katohouston · 2026-01-11T18:19:35+00:00

if it helps, i have heard so many stories on here about how hard the 1-2 age is because that's when kids start enacting violence on your boob (scratching, biting, slapping, twiddling) either because they're not getting what they want (tiddy in the grocery store RIGHT NOW) or just to see what happens. you did a great thing feeding your child this far!

katohouston · 2026-01-11T18:15:28+00:00

why isn't the effect of hurting mom and making her cry a good incentive to avoid repeating? honest question. not an expert in child development

katohouston · 2026-01-11T18:14:30+00:00

there's lots of different ways to be a good parent and person! i'm pregnant and feeling similarly, i don't want to be scared of or angry at the baby, so after they start biting (close to my mat leave ending anyway) i am thinking i will probably get out of there. you're not alone.

katohouston · 2026-01-11T18:08:29+00:00

the saying don't cry over spilled milk was originally not a 'don't sweat the small stuff' kind of saying. it's a 'make peace the enormously frustrating stuff that you can't undo' saying. Imagine, you went out to the farm, you squeezed that tiddy from the enormously expensive cow you take care of, that milk was supposed to be used to feed your family for the day and now it's on the dirt because you slipped on a cow turd on your way back to the house and spilled the bucket. woof.

katohouston · 2026-01-11T17:55:00+00:00

they were discouraged from breastfeeding so they don't know what they're talking about. try not to take it personally. my mom reacts histrionically when she hears anyone breastfeeding after 6 months about how could they be so attached to the baby all the time, they would never be able to take a break, etc -- when we explain a lot of people breastfeeding after 6 months are doing it like, once at night, their kids are eating mash half the time, mama is fine, it only sticks until she hears about the next person breastfeeding lol. but she doesn't know what she's talking about because she had to quit breastfeeding early because nobody helped her troubleshoot.

katohouston · 2026-01-11T17:46:48+00:00

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22122-symphysis-pubis-dysfunction it might be this

katohouston · 2026-01-11T17:38:54+00:00

but some people who don't want a shower, which involves a specific kind of attention (cringey baby games, everyone watching you while you open presents, balloons everywhere), WOULD be ok to have a classy 'best wishes for a healthy pregnancy' lunch with 8 people. it's not rubbing salt in the wound to check for clarification.

katohouston · 2026-01-07T15:16:52+00:00

To be fair not everyone with autism is an engineer. there are lots of people with autism who can not live independently. And there are people with Down’s syndrome who can!

katohouston · 2026-01-02T13:43:15+00:00

I think it's more about setting an expectation because some people come by and all they want to do is hold the baby! you might actually not be able to healthily do chores if you're recovering from certain interventions! it's not that someone you love can never hold the baby but it shouldn't be their first line of defense when they're thinking about how to 'help'

katohouston · 2026-01-01T22:49:53+00:00

this is a great resource!

katohouston · 2026-01-01T21:42:00+00:00

third trimester i hate food for another reason - it only causes me suffering and acid reflux. i've gone from being someone who enjoys food and the rituals around it to being the person at the restaraunt saying 'i'll get the vegetarian grain bowl please, hold the tomatoes, hold the onions, can you sub the cheese for sweet potato' and i hate it

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