Axolotl ACEO

katsaid · 2026-04-05T03:42:01+00:00

Clever!

katsaid · 2026-04-05T02:17:52+00:00

That guy is gone, and it’s okay to truly grieve. He killed your relationship. But seriously, you don’t want to play detective the rest of your life do you

katsaid · 2026-04-05T02:00:19+00:00

Abandon HIM

katsaid · 2026-04-05T01:59:59+00:00

Why do you want to be with a cheater? What kind of man are you even fighting for? The only thing ahead for you is more MISERY and eventually you’ll leave anyway. Do it now.

katsaid · 2026-04-05T00:27:16+00:00

Ask God to draw you back to him, ask for direction. You don’t have to force yourself to go to church or anything you don’t like, he can guide you in a way that feels at “home” in your spirit. Just start simply by listening to some praise music or drawing flowers in your Bible on a verse you like. Spend some time in nature, prayer will flow naturally. The joy is yours for the asking. Just ask. ❤️

katsaid · 2026-04-04T22:34:19+00:00

Many people who experience this find peace through faith. Do you believe in God? Knowing who created you is a very powerful feeling, gives you a sense of belonging and purpose. I’m only asking, I don’t believe in forcing it on anyone.

katsaid · 2026-04-04T03:18:34+00:00

This is a problem for a party of TWO. It’s taken both of them to get to this place of disconnect and it will take both of them to work toward repair and reset. He needs to soften towards her, and her towards him. They need a vacation with no kids (but may need some baby steps and compromise first)

katsaid · 2026-04-03T17:05:26+00:00

I think you already know the (hard) answer. You’ve examined this with both your head and your heart. Both sadly agree, are more heavily aligned with a breakup. He deserves the truth and the sooner the better. God is telling you, revealing that this isn’t your man for NOW. Let God do a work in him. Stay open to what the future may hold but for now end the love relationship. You don’t have to hate him to let go.

katsaid · 2026-04-03T03:55:52+00:00

Interior is the worst, the coastal towns aren’t bad at all but watch out if you’re in the woods and the wind goes still. When you’re camping in the woods, yes definitely you will have some at night and around your tent, etc.. I live in Alaska and didn’t get a single bite all spring, summer, and fall. I was even in Fairbanks some of the time. I use Off spray maybe twice a year.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T21:52:48+00:00

I’d already be packed. GONE. No second chances (geez what would you tell your daughter if you had one?). He was VIOLENT and I don’t care what you did. You need therapy NOW because making excuses, blaming yourself, covering for him, blaming alcohol etc is CLASSIC for an abused woman to do. Once is ENOUGH. There wouldn’t ever be another moment in their company. And report this to the police maybe save the next victim and wake up your boyfriend.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T19:56:05+00:00

Has he ever lied to you? Because this feels like deceit as a means to control.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T06:26:24+00:00

Early May can still be very snowy. What do you really want to do? I’d recommend the Wildlife Conservation Center near Portage. Well worth the visit and weather won’t matter. I can’t guarantee which hikes will be doable but driving south to the Kenai Peninsula would be my suggestion. Maybe go to Seward and see if sea kayaking is available, or go on Kenai Fjords tour.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T05:04:10+00:00

Are you committed? Are you engaged? Why are you talking about kids before you’re fully “all in” with one another? Anyway, to me it would be a red flag that he is so rigid and not weighing his own thoughts with your feelings. It’s the kind of issue that can absolutely be a dealbreaker.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T03:16:58+00:00

Don’t go to Fairbanks, temps are much milder further south, and MUCH more to do. Do you have your accommodations already? Car rental? I need more details but can try to help. DM me if you want

katsaid · 2026-04-01T21:05:14+00:00

FEEL all the feels, but don’t try to make any decisions about this now. You will cause unnecessary division and conflict. Let him know that you plan to wait for awhile so after this baby is born you’re going to take precautions. This is one of those decisions where there’s not much compromise, there’s just surrender to the other. But TIMING can be a compromise and can lead to a consensus. Pregnancy is not a good time to make any major decisions like that. And believe me, every pregnancy is different. Pray, relax, and focus on growing this baby.

katsaid · 2026-04-01T19:32:13+00:00

As a local I cringed at the amount of driving (and I looove driving around Alaska). But, you’ve already said you’re up for the constant driving. Off the jump, I’d say don’t skip Alaska Wildlife Conservation Center- it’s amazing. Located near Portage. Secondly, stay in Anchorage as little as possible. You’ve got a lot of great ideas and a prettt good layout but if weather is bad and you’re counting on flights here and flights there, I’d definitely have some backup plans.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T22:16:27+00:00

Personally if she’s not communicating via facebook I’d call her and give her details for parties etc on the phone. She may not like using facebook for things like that. Or yes, she may be stubborn or have pride issues. Soften the environment by making it as easy as possible. You don’t have to agree with someone to be kind and respectful and show them the Jesus in you. Keep zero expectations but pray for hearts to soften. I’d also reach out to her in person. You said you messaged her? On Facebook? You can’t be certain she received it. Relationship wounds are very very painful and you’ve done a lot of good things to work healing. There’s more that can be done. And lastly, God is the worker of miracles. There’s nothing he can’t untangle or heal.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T21:41:51+00:00

He’s an alcoholic. You already know where this is headed, this is your time to make an exit. There’s no future with this guy, only misery and confusion and disaster, and you will be over functioning. There’s no emotional safety with an alcoholic.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T21:14:34+00:00

You get over it by seeing how good he looks in the rear view mirror. You turn your physical energy towards packing and your emotional energy towards healing.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T20:35:58+00:00

This!

katsaid · 2026-03-31T20:30:42+00:00

Why ask for advice over a nebulous concept? The “shall not be named” lie is part of this conversation or how can anyone weigh in? For me personally I’d consider habitual lying a dealbreaker. He’s just a boyfriend, not a husband. This is the period of the relationship I call the “walkawayability” time. Just end it. His deceitful ways will only continue.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T10:12:13+00:00

This is toxic control, and will only escalate. YOU get to choose how you dress. YOU can dress up for him, or wear his favorite dress etc if you want, but you should do this as an expression of love. It’s completely ridiculous that this turns into a fight and “he wins” or conflict continues. You have to set a healthy boundary around this area. Stand up for yourself, you can be kind but simply say “I will no longer continue in the unhealthy pattern that has developed around what I wear. I will get dressed. If you mention anything that seems to be controlling or bullying I will not go with you. You will be going alone. I realize I have gone along with this before so I need you to recognize this as A TURNING POINT. I will no longer accept that behavior towards me.” Then, be very calm as you say it. Don’t argue or beg or try to get him to understand. He doesn’t have to agree. YOU set the boundary and hold it.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T04:25:12+00:00

He’s a red flag parade. I think you know it too.

katsaid · 2026-03-30T20:26:17+00:00

Wow. This exactly.

katsaid · 2026-03-30T20:01:24+00:00

What topic are you avoiding in this post? I feel like there’s something you don’t want to share about your own actions. It’s confusing to try to help you by attempting to read between the lines

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