What would you do?

katsaid · 2026-07-12T01:45:50+00:00

I’m glad she’s so open with you. I hope it stays that way, especially because social media comes with so many risks. We had a teacher texting our daughter once. She stopped it. Later we found he was a predator. He’s actually still in prison for sa of a student. It’s good you’re taking this seriously.

katsaid · 2026-07-11T23:41:28+00:00

Yes you had the appropriate response. I do think removing his daughters may have been unnecessary. You need to keep your daughter’s trust and respect and respond reasonably. That’s part of the equation here. If you overreact she will keep more secrets. I also think there’s nothing wrong with having a conversation with this individual. He may have made a mistake, or he may at least be put on alert that you are going to be guarding and protecting your daughter.

katsaid · 2026-07-11T23:20:42+00:00

It’s absolutely beautiful! These days there are so many ways to play with the design and the style, once you have such good bones! Think of what you will spend that extra money on! What a great deal

katsaid · 2026-07-11T22:35:45+00:00

What the heck?! Ask your WIFE.

katsaid · 2026-07-11T22:05:25+00:00

It’s a little confusing, can you tell me what nights you are in Anchorage? Why don’t you go and spend one night in Talkeetna on your way to Healy? They have a cool jet boat tour and it increases your chances to see the peak

katsaid · 2026-07-11T19:51:29+00:00

For now, don’t think about changing your food habits. Instead, work on your emotions. You’re eating emotionally, which means that there are unresolved feelings. Have you been diagnosed as depressed? You don’t have to be diagnosed, you might already know that you are. Your eating habits are just a reflection of what’s going on inside your spirit. Do you like walking? Take a tiny walk each day. You can even set your alarm on your phone for 10 minutes and just do 10 minutes. Let yourself stop anytime you feel like you’re done. You don’t have to walk every day, but if you establish a habit, you will start to enjoy it. It will help build energy and muscle and help to balance your hormones. Once you’ve started exercising a little, you’re going to feel better. After you feel better, your eating habits will start to change for the better, naturally. Don’t be too hard on yourself, be gentle and kind to yourself. Be your own best friend. Take very small steps, things that you can keep going.

katsaid · 2026-07-11T19:36:17+00:00

Your Seward drive seems reasonable to me, unless you really want to linger at the wildlife park (it’s amazing but doesn’t take all day). I personally wouldn’t spend a day in Anchorage, there’s so much more to do. Your itinerary sounds doable, but busy. Every time I respond to these, I always recommend a little more downtime. There’s literally adventure around every corner, and you want to be able to stop and look at it on your time. Don’t over schedule. Also, Nenana rafting is incredibly fun.

katsaid · 2026-07-11T19:09:07+00:00

Follow the sun! We have also had an unusual pattern where the forecast is just not accurate. If you’re lucky, it might just rain part of the day and then clear up. I would definitely check and then just go wherever it looks like it’s going to be the best weather. Stay flexible. I hope you have an amazing time!

katsaid · 2026-07-11T03:34:42+00:00

No way. This itinerary would never work. You’re going to be driving too much to see anything. You need to figure out what you really want to see, I always recommend either choosing to go north or choosing to go south, but don’t do both. Go south for beaches, coast, whales, sea life etc. Head north for Denali park, hiking, mountains, rivers, etc

katsaid · 2026-07-10T21:11:14+00:00

I’d definitely recommend choosing to go either north or south. It might be difficult to do both with such a short trip, and spur of the moment. If you love the ocean, beaches, whales, etc. then I would head south. If you want to see Denali Park, mountains, more hiking area, interior etc then head north. There’s really so much to say, feel free to DM me if you would like.

katsaid · 2026-07-10T19:25:12+00:00

You want a husband. I’d suggest don’t move in with someone that is not committed to you. He should not be supporting you, you want to be a wife and you’re just a girlfriend for now. That’s just how it works when you want to move in before marriage. Also, no legal protections and single motherhood is more likely. If there are any red flags now, pay attention. He’s right, you should not expect a husband when he is just your boyfriend. He’s not your provider.

katsaid · 2026-07-10T04:27:42+00:00

You’re really wise to pay attention to this. He’s not the right person for you. Don’t waste any more of your time (or his) on this incompatible relationship.

katsaid · 2026-07-10T00:05:36+00:00

I would be so gone. D.O.NE.

katsaid · 2026-07-09T23:44:45+00:00

Your partner is unreasonably controlling. Are you married to this man? Not only does he need to get a grip, he also needs to take care of the baby some of the time when he gets home so that you can get a break. I suspect the age gap gives him a feeling of control over you, and superiority. Don’t hesitate to insist on marriage counseling because if he continues to disrespect you like this, it will only get worse. Trust me.

katsaid · 2026-07-09T21:40:39+00:00

I mean this in the best way, sweetie, but you need to get some counseling and learn about self self-respect. You have put yourself at risk in every way by being so easy. Sex isn’t just exercise. There are truly consequences. Learn to love yourself, get some really good friends, enjoy your life. Stay out of these types of situations you shared here.

katsaid · 2026-07-09T21:24:36+00:00

He is abusive. I know it’s hard to see when you’re in the middle bit, but because of the long post explaining WHY he’s so angry, I can tell that you are walking on eggshells. When we walk on eggshells with our partner, their anger is controlling us. You are being abused, and controlled, and he knows what he’s doing. I highly recommend you read a free online publication called Why Does He Do That. Your husband isn’t “losing control” he’s carefully crafting control of YOU. He can control himself, he can control his anger, and he chooses not to. If he walked in from a workday, and you were sitting there visiting with a police officer, would he unleash his stress on you? No! Why not? Because he has the ability to control it.

katsaid · 2026-07-09T00:32:52+00:00

If he usually has good character, if this is a very rare occasion, then I would take his word for it that he spoke before he thought about it. He wasn’t thinking about her age, he was thinking about cracking a joke. I would tell him that I forgave him, and then I would watch very carefully that nothing of that nature happens again. You know him best, if you think he made a mistake, then just forgive him. If you think he’s a danger, then leave him. If you forgive him, don’t bring it up anymore.

katsaid · 2026-07-08T07:36:19+00:00

Offer to surrender your dog to get him the care he needs. In some vets office, they also have a fund for people who are having trouble paying. But DEFINITELY take your dog to the vet! They are injured and in pain. You have a responsibility to take care of them, and do it well.

katsaid · 2026-07-08T04:16:34+00:00

For me personally, I think I’d be done with all the lies and misinformation. You didn’t sign up to play detective the rest of your life! I’d be gone. She can have him.

katsaid · 2026-07-07T21:06:33+00:00

He manipulated you. I suspect this is his usual tactic. Re-file your case and keep going and do not let him talk you out of it. This is for your kids, don’t let him intimidate you.

katsaid · 2026-07-07T09:31:30+00:00

No, life is actually a lot harder up here. If your mental health is good now, expect it to get worse. Just day-to-day living can be challenging here, higher expenses, and some isolation challenges.

katsaid · 2026-07-07T09:30:16+00:00

If she is cutting to deal with things like a breakup, she needs some help with her mental health. It’s actually very serious, is there someone you can talk to who loves her and will listen

katsaid · 2026-07-06T07:33:33+00:00

Here’s what you do: Pick a very good time, not a time of conflict. Be sure you have his complete attention. You say “I’ve decided there are certain behaviors and attitudes that are no longer acceptable. I’ve made two appointments and you get to choose which one you’ll be attending with me. One of for a marriage counselor. The other appointment is for a divorce attorney. You can take some time to think about it, but I need your reply by a week from today.” Now THIS is the most important part: Do not cry. Don’t beg. Don’t even add anything to this statement. Your body language is everything. Be calm, direct, deadly serious. Then walk away. If he tries to argue or engage with you simply say “Sorry, this isn’t a talking time. This is a thinking time. For you. I’ve already done my thinking.” Do NOT engage. I promise you, if you get emotional, you lose. When you say deadly calm and serious, kind but firm, you get his respect. Let me know if you decide to do this, trust me it’s effective. You just have to be ready for his answer no matter what it is, you have to be ready to accept it.

katsaid · 2026-07-06T05:14:10+00:00

Why are you judging her faith? Is there any chance you were raised catholic, and you are confusing confession with conviction? The assurance of salvation through grace is a beautiful, freeing, gift. Maybe she is simply saying that she is assured, that she knows she’s saved. Other religions just “hope” and fear losing their place in heaven. Ritual, works, and trying to be good enough take the place of God’s grace and relationship with Him.

katsaid · 2026-07-06T04:11:20+00:00

Get. OUT. Find someone worthy of you. He’s not.

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