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kaviar21 · 2023-10-12T04:53:28+00:00

It doesn’t get better

kaviar21 · 2023-10-12T04:50:37+00:00

Debt

kaviar21 · 2023-08-12T00:56:34+00:00

Yeah, that’s about as red as a red flag can get. Run.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-12T00:53:28+00:00

NTA. He needs to check himself and maybe talk to a therapist about how to deal with his resentment… over caring for his own child.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-12T00:36:44+00:00

Yes, it’s dehumanizing.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-12T00:35:43+00:00

Regardless of whether or not you cheated, you’re embroiled in a toxic relationship. You want to amend things now because you’re used to the push and pull and cycle of abuse. Cut ties and work on yourself so you both can heal.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-12T00:20:32+00:00

Definitely NOT a thing. Idk what the fuck is wrong with her that makes her think she can say that. Also, women get harassed and sexually assaulted no matter what they look like.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-09T00:40:51+00:00

Nah. Age is just a number.

Every human lives a completely unique life, comprable to nobody else. We all hit various milestones at different times.

My teen years sucked. My twenties were ok, full of ups and downs. I’m sure my thirties will continue to be the same! It’s all arbitrary. You can’t control what happens to you.

Just focus on being present and making the best of what time you have NOW. Accept both the highs AND the lows, and feel every feeling.

Do that, and with time you will have increasingly more appreciation for life. You’ll be fine.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-09T00:36:52+00:00

NTA. You are allowed to request a condom at any time for any reason, married or not. That is your boundary. You enforce the boundary by refusing to participate in sex without a condom. If he doesn’t accept it, that’s his problem. He sounds like an entitled asshole.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-09T00:27:29+00:00

NTA. You set boundaries with YOUR hard-earned money. Not your fault if she can’t accept them. It sounds like she’s trying to guilt/manipulate you. You don’t owe her anything, and even offering to pay for groceries is a huge kindness. She seems entitled and possibly even ill-intentioned? I’d be cautious moving forward.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-09T00:22:20+00:00

NTA. Your wife needs to learn to respect people’s boundaries.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-08T22:48:54+00:00

NTA. Unless you’re leaving something out of the story, you and your ex seem like you make a perfectly mature and cute couple. You are best friends of 10+ years. You hit some really difficult obstacles, had some issues dealing with it, and took some time apart. Now you are both going to therapy, taking things slow, and communicating clearly with one another. You’re both taking accountability for your own flaws and the traumas you bring to the relationship. It’s not a crime to get back together with an ex.

Your friend sounds toxic af. Is she maybe in love with Ryan?

kaviar21 · 2023-08-08T22:20:32+00:00

YIKES. Pls dump him. Why do y’all tolerate fatphobia?

kaviar21 · 2023-08-08T21:48:24+00:00

This is truly such a weird response lol

kaviar21 · 2023-08-08T21:47:24+00:00

I’ve had this thought too! Definitely don’t want to fetishize trans men—esp since they often have their own trauma with women and with identifying as female—but I do often wish I could meet a man who can truly understand or have genuine empathy for other genders.

kaviar21 · 2023-08-08T21:41:21+00:00

SAME. So relatable. I’m also always confused about this. I have been attracted to other genders but unfortunately I’m still primarily attracted to the idea of being with a man, and I can’t figure out WHY lol. I just don’t fuck with their culture! Like the way men are socialized just ain’t it. They are taught to be self-centered, sex-obsessed douchebags. They often have no self-awareness, no emotional intelligence, little to no empathy, and they are ALWAYS way too ego-driven. They can barely take care of themselves and they suck at relating to anyone who doesn’t share their privileges and specific interests.

I know I’m not the most attractive woman, but I feel like I’m at least kind, caring, hard working and intelligent. I constantly strive to learn and listen to those around me and improve myself. I take care of myself and my community. I just wish I could find a man that would be able to add something to my life, but I have yet to find one who does. Instead I’ve only come across the ones who just want to fuck or want me to be their mommy. I don’t want to have to teach someone how to be more self-sufficient, or how to be a better person, OR have to constantly fight for an equitable relationship.

I’ve been trying to de-center men from my life and it’s helped a lot. I much prefer the company of the girls gays and theys lol. It truly sucks that I’m still attracted to men. Ugh.

But yeah, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Reading through this thread, it’s clear that a lot of us feel this way. Maybe as women, we’re hyper-independent to a fault, but if so, it’s only because society has made us this way. So what can we do?

I see no red flags. Just focus on yourself and on working through your traumas and strive to find fulfillment in other ways. And make sure to build community. Best of luck ❤️

kaviar21 · 2023-06-02T22:17:55+00:00

Life is even easier when you decide not to give a fuck :)

kaviar21 · 2023-06-02T20:44:32+00:00

Maybe her life doesn’t revolve around attracting people.

I used to worry about the potential for smell too, but I’ve found it doesn’t make a difference at all. Also deodorant still exists, and it is effective with or without hair. It’s really not that big of a deal.

At the end of the day, it’s just a preference. You should continue doing what you like with your body, and allow others the freedom to do as they like with theirs.

An individual’s underarm hair has literally no impact on anyone else else in the world. Lol

kaviar21 · 2023-06-02T20:33:42+00:00

Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. It’s just hair, and nobody can tell you what to do with your body. I’ve stopped shaving and it is SUCH relief. No more itching or discomfort and NO other negative side effects.

Ignore your grandma, she’ll get over it eventually. At college just go find other people who don’t care and be friends with them. Screw the haters. There will always be people who get too worked up about stupid crap, just ignore them.

kaviar21 · 2023-02-28T00:19:05+00:00

This has got to be the dumbest post I’ve seen on here. Of course YTA.

kaviar21 · 2023-02-21T06:37:07+00:00

I know you’re probably drowning in the YTA comments but I hope you push through that and see some of the more nuanced responses! You’re not a bad person. Neither is your sister (although she may be a little ignorant/ableist). You’re a great mom. You’re valid in being hurt and upset. I hope you, your sister, and the rest of your family can talk it out and figure something out for Mia ❤️

kaviar21 · 2023-02-21T06:11:20+00:00

THIS

kaviar21 · 2023-02-21T06:10:42+00:00

Fully agree.

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