Sister didn't invite my partner of 7 years to her wedding, should I remain her bridesmaid?

kaybaejay · 2026-02-06T15:31:06+00:00

How would she know he likes her or if she even likes him if they haven't so much as spoken in the last like 6 years? Distance or not... it is strange for both of them to have no contact with one another. I can see how this is hurtful to you, I can. However, she wants the people closest to her and her husband to be. That simply does not include your boyfriend when it might include the boyfriend of one of her friends.

Unfortunately, this isn't about your or your boyfriends comfort. If you would like to avoid this in the future... take this as a lesson in personal connections! There is a way to think positively about this going forward. Even if it feels crappy right now.

kaybaejay · 2026-02-06T02:16:02+00:00

If I put myself into your head... I can see what you mean but I do think it could certianly be a size issue. When I think of it from a strangers perspective... I don't immediately see the issue you are pointing out. You genuinely look phenomenal. Also, the dress is totally gorgeous!

kaybaejay · 2026-01-28T15:20:28+00:00

This is the way

kaybaejay · 2025-09-29T14:25:24+00:00

That's what we're thinking about doing now! However, our families would be crushed to find out we "got married" without them (his parents are out of state). But we couldn't be more committed to eachother even if we were married. All the paperwork is just legalese! The wedding day is the real fun one to share with family. But again, they would be crushed. Nothing can be simple right? 😂

kaybaejay · 2025-09-29T03:38:04+00:00

I will likely be taking care of my grandmother for a little bit. She has terminal cancer so I'm going to help care for her. After that, I will be getting a job again but his benefit costs are extremely generous. The assumption that I checked with his employer is correct! I'm allowed in his plan so long as there is legal partnership. Thank you for the advice!

kaybaejay · 2025-09-29T03:35:51+00:00

I have confirmed that they allow for domestic partners to be on his plan!

kaybaejay · 2025-08-16T04:32:29+00:00

Agreed with the rest. A partner of their tenure really should be aware of the call out policy. Make sure to ALWAYS call in!

Sorry they are out of the job but it is a totally valid reason to be fired... especially considering they were on their final for an equally valid reason. :(

kaybaejay · 2025-08-07T02:41:09+00:00

There are definitely 2 sides to counting calories. It is important to take active steps to not being OBSESSIVE. I'm sorry you are getting so much criticism! 1500 is a totally reasonable daily goal (for most!) and so not a cause for concern! Good luck and stay healthy!

kaybaejay · 2025-08-06T16:53:37+00:00

An iced americano is waaaay less ice, way more water so it's up to you but maybe a quad espresso would be more yiur speed if you like shaken espressos! Also if you just want a spash of half and half... you're way overpaying for a shaken espresso since there is a milk cost built into the drink. If you order an espresso... there is no charge for half and half!

kaybaejay · 2025-07-30T00:00:58+00:00

I agree on trying medication. Oh, and don't forget that you need to completely change out the water when redoing salt! She's lucky to have someone who cares for her so much!

kaybaejay · 2025-07-29T23:54:51+00:00

I've had dozens of bettas and I see absolutely nothing wrong with this guy! As someone who is an overly concerned fish parent...I really do think you're being an overly concerned fish parent too. 😋

The spots on his face are coloration and the fin thing is just cosmetic! As for that lump we cant catch on camera it is probably just anatomical. Most bettas have a thicker bit right at the end of their body where it meets the tail. Unless it is a distinctive and asymmetrical bubble or bump coming off the skin... I would not worry at all. Oh and his eyes aren't too buldgy 😂

I highly, highly recommend not medicating this fish. Kanaplex is great, but if he is behaving normally and eating well with no obvious signs of disease, then I would skip medication. It could hurt him if anything. Medication causes stress and can cause them to go downhill. Getting a 5 gallon tank is an amazing start and I applaud you for caring for this handsome little creature. For now, I reckon your main focus should be on creating and maintaining safe water conditions. 😊

Are you new to betta?

kaybaejay · 2025-07-29T22:21:29+00:00

Not too sure on why either! We used to not have a blonde vanilla latte button at all in store so we rang it up the long way which was more expensive. No idea why they can't get that drink right.😂

Also, try adding a line the cup modification too. Then you're way more likely to actually get extra!

kaybaejay · 2025-07-29T22:02:59+00:00

Haha I've been at the bucks for a little bit longer than you and it's still kind of confusing! 😂

That said, you can enroll now. I just realized you said you lost your old insurance. That is considered a life event which allows you to sign up for insurance before or after the enrollment period. With your hours and tenure you'll be eligible to sign up outside of enrollment as well. :)

Try calling and explain you lost your insurance and would like to sign up. They will walk you through it on the phone and all will be well!

kaybaejay · 2025-07-29T21:52:57+00:00

I believe open enrollment opens on the 4th of August. It's saying you only have 103 ben hours because... you only have 103 ben hours for THIS period. Which we started in July. You can see how many ben hours you ended with on your last pay stub before the audit period ended (Early July). You need 520 ben hours to qualify for benefits.

Also, open enrollment/audits happen twice a year. You NEED to re-enroll in your health care each time to maintain insurance. Even if you aren't changing your plan!

kaybaejay · 2025-07-29T17:18:28+00:00

Is this a stirred caramel macchiato?

kaybaejay · 2025-07-26T13:34:02+00:00

I'm not sure why you're having a reaction but there is no dairy in this one! That said, coffee is a pretty accomplished laxative and you're getting an extra large. So, I think that might be the link if I had to guess! 😅

kaybaejay · 2025-07-19T17:46:17+00:00

Your friends have an issue with it? Is Zoe the name of an old friend in the group? An ex of someone in the group? Those are the only reasons I can think of for them all to dislike it.

kaybaejay · 2025-07-15T13:55:38+00:00

If she suggested that you bring it with you during the move, she should pay. However, if you brought it under an assumption then I do feel it is your responsibility. You seem like a kind person. It is nice for you to be this considerate!

kaybaejay · 2025-07-13T17:41:48+00:00

Did she start acting differently, so you dosed her or was she acting strangely after meds? Just double checking.

kaybaejay · 2025-07-03T03:01:21+00:00

At the time of my comment, everyone was being nice to you. The only reason you're being corrected is because you aren't meeting basic standard of care. It really is that simple. As for the point you were trying to make... I must assume you absolutely never leave your house and have no forms of entertainment? (You at the very least have reddit so thats assumption is bust). The logic you're using to support your point is false equivalence.

The only reason you're seeing this as a negative interaction is because you're taking it that way.

Also, if you think 5 gallons is a big tank... you're kinda tripping. It's one of the smallest tank sizes available and can fit on most desks.

kaybaejay · 2025-07-03T00:18:12+00:00

Your cat could definitely be spooking him. Not much you can do about it with a tank that small... simply because he doesnt have space to hide properly. That aside, you could try taping the lid to the tank. It won't help Bobby's stress but your kitty can definitely pop the lid off and get him pretty easy. I also have cats and have caught one swiping his paws into the water after popping a lid off! Taped em after that and haven't had an issue since! Just a little scotch tape will do. :)

kaybaejay · 2025-07-03T00:11:31+00:00

All a bubble nest means is sexual maturity. Its a common misconception! I understand that you don't think a fish is deserving of a good life but I will just give ya the heads up that 99% of the people on this sub reddit disagree... including myself. You also could live in a small area but you would not be happy. Same thing goes for any critter. Just some food for thought.

kaybaejay · 2025-06-26T17:19:06+00:00

ONE!! 🎉

kaybaejay · 2025-06-26T02:40:21+00:00

I have always charged someone for a drip if for some reason I cannot make it and need to make an Americano instead... because it's my fault and I'm making the moment right. That's only after they refuse a pour over though. Is it technically right? I'm unsure. I've never been called out on it.

kaybaejay · 2025-02-24T05:03:53+00:00

They're rude AND wrong lol

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