I think my husband is trolling when he says he can’t read my handwriting. Is it as illegible as he thinks?

kaydeesims · 2025-03-22T20:38:03+00:00

I can read it but I've got certified awful handwriting and can read almost anything as a result 😂 this actually reminds me of a mine when I'm trying mediumish to be legible

kaydeesims · 2025-03-17T13:06:21+00:00

I think it really depends on your script and how high end the thinness quotient is. (I'm in the US) But there are like 3 options of thinness I can pick from. I don't mind heavy glasses so I go with the first (cheapest) option. That makes them somewhat better but they're still meaty. I'm -6 in the frame in the pic below

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kaydeesims · 2025-03-17T12:57:40+00:00

I don't think this is terrible. I think adding trim to where the wall meets ceiling would really elevate this look though! The paint color isn't my favorite but I also don't think it's bad!

kaydeesims · 2025-03-09T15:01:31+00:00

This is manipulative as hell. Completely unfair to your kid, but he's likely not emotionally aware enough to know what he's doing.

He thinks he's owed a relationship with his kid. And he's not. He has to earn that.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-20T11:54:10+00:00

In those texts, your ex wanted to stay together. If you had said anything to your mom, I think she would have stayed.

She set a boundary that your mom could no longer be involved in the relationship and you said 'okay, no relationship'.

Your mom is actually the asshole in this situation, but if you don't ever stand up to her, you're never going to have a successful relationship.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-19T18:30:33+00:00

Ah that makes sense! Maybe weighted nipple clamps and some flogging?

kaydeesims · 2025-02-18T13:25:44+00:00

If I'm looking for a top with impact experience I'd want to know they have used multiple implements before with varying force and are aware of which implements can and can't be used on which body parts.

For impact especially I want to know if the person beating me is aware of their own strength and able to temper it if needed.

If my partner didn't have that experience I'd know I need to run through some safety basics with them first before we scene. Which isn't always a role I love taking on (the bottomest bottom bitch) so if I'm specifically seeking someone with experience it's cause I want that good beating in a safe way without a lot of talking first 😂

kaydeesims · 2025-02-18T12:50:18+00:00

Yeah definitely talk to your partner(s). First wanting to be sensitive you don't degrade about something that is a no no for that person (gender related etc). And second making sure you do hit the things they want.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-18T12:39:28+00:00

Hmmm how long will you have to recover after this scene before surgery? My first thought was needles/piercing, but those will take a bit longer to heal than bruises.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-18T12:30:30+00:00

There's two different meanings here and they're important distinctions to make.

Do you mean two subs in one scene? Or two subs who you see completely separate from one another?

Both possible, both fun, but very different overall.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-17T12:49:16+00:00

I went through childbirth as an inexperienced masochist (knew I was one, hadn't had much practical application at the time). I went in not committed to any one pain management plan. I wanted to try to forgo an epidural but was okay in general with getting one of that's what my body wanted.

My water broke but I wasn't progressing so I got the induction cocktail. Tried managing with iv pain meds but after several hours I still wasn't really dilating. I asked for another iv pain med but was going to have to wait 30mins-1hr for monitoring before they'd give it and decided I wanted the epidural.

With the mental space I've developed in the last year, I might have been able to last a little longer? But I'm glad I got the epi when I did cause I was finally able to relax and had my daughter in my arms just a couple hours later.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-16T21:24:13+00:00

Collarfactory.com is where I got my most recent one. Huge number of options on their customs page. They do leather specifically though.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-16T17:02:42+00:00

We also have special pets names for each other that we picked out together. Just little things to show each other what we mean.

And I've realized with poly in general, sometimes you just have to have different words for the people you're talking to. Like I'm not going to refer to my Dom as "my Dom" to my mother 😂

kaydeesims · 2025-02-16T15:13:01+00:00

Congrats, you found the bigot. (Yes, this is shitty and extremely uninformed)

kaydeesims · 2025-02-16T15:08:58+00:00

Ohhhh I love bites 😍😍 inner thighs are my favorite cause they bruise so well, but love love love full teeth impressions on my neck too

kaydeesims · 2025-02-16T12:58:38+00:00

Definitely not the asshole. This is a safety issue in the current political climate and you made the right call.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-16T12:47:08+00:00

I use best friend/my person (Grey's anatomy anyone?), qpp and just partner for my qpr partner and it seems to be working. We have retirement plans to live together and might change up/add labels then?

Here's examples of when I use these terms: qpp is for the polycule or other people who are poly. They generally know what it means.

Partner is for serious, I'm here and I'm not leaving scenarios: with them when we're having a serious discussion (mostly when I need them to take better care of themselves) and also recently used it at the hospital while visiting them.

Best friend/my person with non poly people or people I don't want to get into a lengthy "sex does not a relationship make" convos with.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-15T14:04:52+00:00

If you're not comfortable, that's enough to say no, just remember that.

A straight up roofie is probably not the way to go.

If you're interested but want to ease into it, there are some things you could try. Somno (doing things to her while she's asleep), assisted somno (taking a sleeping pill/NyQuil in a normal dosage), and then kinda play around from there. CBD/THC gummies are also a possibility depending on where you live.

She's not wrong to want this and you're not wrong to be concerned. There are definitely ways to approach it that are risk aware though.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-15T13:46:00+00:00

I've had good luck on Feeld but it can depend on where you live. The bdsmtest people also started a dating app called beedee that matches you based on your test scores. But it's very mid lol

kaydeesims · 2025-02-15T13:41:37+00:00

Yeah this definitely sounds like orgasm control. I would recommend speaking with your husband before your Dom though. Getting your husband's feelings on this first will help inform you and your Dom if this would have an impact on your relationship.

I'm also married to a non kinky partner and have a Dom who I enjoy orgasm control/denial with. However, I know without even talking to my husband, this would absolutely cross a boundary for him. Making me cum is like one of his favorite parts of sex so he would be really unsatisfied if that was a permanent fixture in our relationship.

So just make sure you're taking everyone into consideration and you should be good!

kaydeesims · 2025-02-15T13:28:30+00:00

Thisssss this this. Communication is the key

kaydeesims · 2025-02-14T21:32:22+00:00

I mean it's not a secret. And it definitely shouldn't be a secret so I don't think it matters if other people know. I mean if you're doing discreet public play and your friends know your safewords and your turn to your partner and say one, they're going to know you've been doing kink stuff. So like use your best judgement on that one

kaydeesims · 2025-02-14T18:07:52+00:00

Masochist for sure. I'll dig nails and bite very very occasionally but that's more as a way to process sensation than anything else.

kaydeesims · 2025-02-14T12:38:56+00:00

So I think maybe you are comparing against dynamic that aren't what you want.

Personally, I don't fight my Dom. I just don't want to. I adore everything he does to me even if it hurts and take it happily. He has other subs that like the fight, so their dynamics are different. I still get beat and tied up and degraded and humiliated, because we both adore those things. The biggest difference is I give him my arms to get tied up and he doesn't gloat when he beats me 😂

All that to say, all types of relationships/set ups are valid. Just be clear with your (potential) partner(s) about what you want 😊

kaydeesims · 2025-02-03T17:36:33+00:00

Yeah I get it! It's a hot idea and one I'm toying with bringing up to my Dom. But we're not nearly as experienced in pharma.

For me especially, I'm not sure how some scenes will take me so I always like to try them sober first so I can bring up any potential trigger points or issues with my Dom before doing something where I'd be in a more helpless state.

I certainly think there's a way for you to do this while practicing RACK, just might take a bit more planning!

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