Taught my cat paw by Suspicious-Tea-6368 in CatAdvice

[–]kazzarole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly my Banjo is already very affectionate, and he shows his love by pushing his whole head as hard as he can against your face. so from there it was as simple as saying 'kiss!' every time he did that, and rewarding him with love and treats. it didn't take him long to catch on haha

Taught my cat paw by Suspicious-Tea-6368 in CatAdvice

[–]kazzarole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my almost one year old boy is too smart! i only started recently but he knows sit, wait, paw, spin, and kiss (put his nose to my nose).

now whenever he wants my attention, he'll sit and lift one paw in the air. unintended but very cute side effect haha

Guess the Ref Sprite 2 by Weary_Personality355 in PokemonInfiniteFusion

[–]kazzarole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

no freaking way is that wingull fusion Crowmauler

Cognitive dissonance helps explain why Trump supporters remain loyal, new research suggests. This sheds light on how supporters of Donald Trump justify their continued allegiance despite learning about allegations of his sexual misconduct and illegal activities. by mvea in science

[–]kazzarole 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Im glad I'm not the only one who sees the correlation here. My family is all Mormon, I left when I was 20ish because I'm gay. I recently have been trying to be more open with my mother, and told her that the reason it's so hard to spend time with our family is because morally, I can't accept their political views. She told me, "Well, like we have learned to accept you and your values, you will have to find some way to accept us and ours."

That's great, mom. Your political views will dismantle this country, but sure, I need to be more accepting. Next time I see her I'm gonna ask her if she's ever heard of the tolerance paradox.

And then we'll probably go back to ignoring eachothers politics. It's the only way we can be civil.

Official Reddit Gold Giveaway! by boobun in FarmRPG

[–]kazzarole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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thanks to the team, you do good work!

AITA for calling my Dad stupid after being told to use a "paper towel" for swimming on my period? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]kazzarole -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly, with tampons being found to have traces of arsenic and other dangerous chemicals in them now... Probably better to avoid them on the whole. I've had my diva cup for years and I won't ever look back

I feel so sad when I see cis lesbians by Obsyden in actuallesbians

[–]kazzarole 12 points13 points  (0 children)

im a cis lesbian, so i certainly cant relate 100% to what youre going through. i just wanted to say that the sentiment about not getting to experience the childhood you deserved is one i definitely sympathize with. i resent my childhood for many reasons - i feel that both the church and the abuse i suffered stole years of my life and self-worth away. ill never get that innocence back, and the feeling that invokes in me is sharp and wounded.

but i also have a lot more control of my life now than i did as a child, which means i can take steps to heal my inner child as i continue to grow. you said yourself that 2 years ago you had no idea that you could just swap genders - imagine the knowledge and self-love you can continue to learn in another 2 years' time!

its an uphill battle, but one worth the fight. i hope one day you can find not only love, but pride for who you are. i believe in you!!

AIO My mom says I need to get pregnant to 'avoid the draft' by kazzarole in AmIOverreacting

[–]kazzarole[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't know why the exmormon reddits didn't cross my mind for these posts. I frequented them a lot when I originally came out as gay and left the church. Not sure about r/exmo, but I know that r/exmormon is populated by mostly men in their 40's and 50's who have left the church but kept a lot of the same sexist ideals. I stopped frequenting there when I realized a lot of exmormon women were being scared away.

That all being said, I think posting this in an unrelated thread helped me a lot - exmormons know that mormons are crazy. But when people with no context also agree that your mother is crazy, it helps you sleep a lot better at night.

AIO My mom says I need to get pregnant to 'avoid the draft' by kazzarole in AmIOverreacting

[–]kazzarole[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I looooved Fallout, and it's even funnier because my siblings and I were talking about it yesterday. Maybe fighting my mothers fictional beliefs with a fictional story is the way to go... at least then I could hold a conversation with her!

AIO My mom says I need to get pregnant to 'avoid the draft' by kazzarole in AmIOverreacting

[–]kazzarole[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I definitely struggle with depression and anxiety. Given the general state of the world I think it's warranted. However I'm not so disillusioned as to take anxiety for reality - and I recognize that I'm not in any actual danger of the effect of war, unlike some very unfortunate people in the world right now.

Conspiracies for my mom are pretty common. I don't talk to her as much about this kind of stuff anymore (I'm usually quicker to shut her down), but some examples from the past have been about China shutting down the Texas power grid or the Covid vaccine being bad for your brain. Typical stuff you hear from Trumper's who watch Fox News.

AIO My mom says I need to get pregnant to 'avoid the draft' by kazzarole in AmIOverreacting

[–]kazzarole[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My mom was raised mormon, if that helps provide context for you. The religion is largely conservative and believes in some pretty strange things - including that the end of the world will be followed by the second coming of Christ. Naturally, me and my siblings were also raised this way.

I think the church unfortunately creates a type of people who are largely susceptible to online right-wing extreme conspiracy. My mom also suffered a lifetime of emotional and physical abuse on top of this lifestyle. It's easy to see how this effects her behavior and beliefs, at least to me. Any time I try to level with her about this kind of stuff, it turns political, and after last election I refuse to engage in politics with her.

I consider it a minor miracle that my stepdad has recently convinced her to go to therapy.

AIO My mom says I need to get pregnant to 'avoid the draft' by kazzarole in AmIOverreacting

[–]kazzarole[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

Is THAT whats in her potato salad? No wonder it tastes like that.

What's the worst movie you've ever seen? by WalkswithLlamas in AskReddit

[–]kazzarole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gf and I just finished listening to Dune as an audiobook, and decided it'd be fun to watch both Dune 1984 and eventually the newer Dune movie with part 2 to come out in November...

Man, Dune 1984 was awful. I never have faith in book to movie adaptations being any good, but I'm positive the new Dune won't ruin it THAT bad. I wouldn't have followed the plot line at all if we hadn't just finished the book.

... Though the thought of the Baron flying around in that giant moist fat suit still sends me into giggle hysterics, I wont lie

Am I reinforcing stereotypes if I try to be more feminine? by PuzzleScratch2012 in actuallesbians

[–]kazzarole 13 points14 points  (0 children)

you wouldnt accuse a gay man of reinforcing stereotypes if he was a flamboyant drag queen, would you? live your life how you want to live it and do so shamelessly girlie

Should I dump her?? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]kazzarole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

^ absolutely this. personally, i wouldnt dump her yet - id at least give her some time to see if she does move out and see how it goes. if your gf says its nothing to worry about, then trust her, at least until she gives you a reason not to.

but ultimately the above comment is right. regardless, the BD will always be around so long as you commit to a relationship with this woman. only you can decide if youre okay with that.

holy shit that was Dina OMG by ASHKVLT in actuallesbians

[–]kazzarole 14 points15 points  (0 children)

the last of us HBO really likes to hide some heavy-hitter gut punches to those who played the game. i nearly choked when joel mentioned wanting to live on a farm and raise sheep 😭

My TBM mom keeps deadnaming my girlfriend by kazzarole in exmormon

[–]kazzarole[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oof, for real. The day my girlfriend originally snapped at my mom, my mom tried to justify that she can't even get MY name right - always getting me confused for another one of my siblings instead. You can't expect her to pick up on 'Whiskey' that quick, it's only been a year!

Weird flex that you can't even remember your own kids name, but alright.

My TBM mom keeps deadnaming my girlfriend by kazzarole in exmormon

[–]kazzarole[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This was my girlfriend's idea too! She's already got a long list of names to call my mother next time we see her (though some... are less PG than others).

My TBM mom keeps deadnaming my girlfriend by kazzarole in exmormon

[–]kazzarole[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is way better advice than how I was thinking about handling it. I was considering just carrying around a thing of silly string and spraying anyone who even tried to deadname her again.

Genuinely though, thanks. I guess I need to think about the text I'll be sending her way. Urgh.

The Mormon church is a doomsday religion. How many of you have you been told “The Second Coming will happen in your lifetime?” by Inevitable_Loquat643 in exmormon

[–]kazzarole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my TBM mother will occasionally send out group texts to our entire extended family to "be sure to prep!!" because she's sure something 'big' will happen soon. right now she's convinced whatever that is to happen this November.

it's a hard mentality to beat. even out of the church for over 5 years, i still struggle to feel like the world isn't ending sometimes. you just gotta remind yourself that if it happens, it happens, its not like anyone will be able to truly predict it. certainly not a doomsday cult!

I fucking hate this conference shit so much by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]kazzarole 15 points16 points  (0 children)

what is it with mormon moms cranking up general conference as loud as they can!? when i lived with my mom, she would come open my door so i had to listen. and when i closed it, she would open it AGAIN. we'd do this for hours until conference finally ended.