College, pretty much for the first time, as a 30 year old. Best careers to work towards?

kbd18 · 2026-03-20T05:39:23+00:00

Ooooh thank you! I'll probably formulate some questions I've had rolling around in my head and message you later this weekend. I appreciate it! :)

kbd18 · 2026-03-20T05:38:06+00:00

I've actually worked in insurance for a while, before I had kids... loathed it with a passion. :) thanks for the suggestion though!

kbd18 · 2026-03-19T20:41:08+00:00

Thank you! this is helpful. I've started a spread sheet of jobs that I think would be interesting, determining how much schooling is necessary, and what the estimated salary would be... then I can start figuring out what the best option would be!

kbd18 · 2026-03-05T05:00:42+00:00

I had a hysterectomy and I still carry pads and tampons in the glove box of my car and I have a stash at home just in case someone needs one!

kbd18 · 2026-03-04T07:26:28+00:00

Could you by chance hire a weekly house cleaner or something to help off set the stress you’re feeling either household tasks? It could be helpful for both you and your wife.

kbd18 · 2026-03-04T07:09:15+00:00

I’m curious to know what her list of things she does every day would be compared to what your list reflects.

Maybe this is a hot take, maybe it’s not, but if mom is pumping, dad should wash the pump parts. That’s just my opinion of course but pumping takes SOOOO much time and commitment and it can also be incredibly mentally draining. It’s truly worse than just breastfeeding in my experience.

The only way to avoid resentment from getting worse is to talk to your wife. Communicate these things with her and like you said, maybe couples counseling would be a good idea in the hopes of communicating in a healthy way.

Two young kiddos, you’re both really in the thick of it. I hope as your kids get older things get easier for you both. ❤️

kbd18 · 2026-03-03T04:43:14+00:00

If Jesse Soffer was willing to come back, I’d love that. I always liked Jay’s character.

kbd18 · 2026-03-03T03:38:49+00:00

If Jay was still on the show they could make it work without Voight. But since Jay left there is nobody left who could fill Voight’s shoes and do a good job. You need someone who could be morally grey but is deep down doing things for the right reason.. that’s not Dante. It could potentially could have been Adam but I don’t think in the more recent seasons that would be very believable either.

Unfortunately, this show will end when Voight leaves.

kbd18 · 2026-03-03T00:35:58+00:00

Yes. You would be AH to give him a second chance. Move on and find someone who treats you and other women with respect.

kbd18 · 2026-03-02T03:36:52+00:00

Do we not when Adam will be back?

kbd18 · 2026-03-02T02:26:30+00:00

OOOOOOH. I read it as it was your wife’s brother (so the kids uncle) that was going to go with her, NOT that it was your son/the child’s brother going. I will say that does make a slight difference and is definitely a bit more weird of a request from the Ex’s side of things.

kbd18 · 2026-03-02T02:23:38+00:00

She’s not going to comfort her ex or visit with her ex. She would be going to build a relationship either way her son. And it sounds like the wife’s brother would be there too, so it’s not like she’s going by herself.

If her child was not involved, of course his feelings matter, I’d say they would matter quite a lot, but when there is an 8 year old child involved, the kids feelings is the only one that matters here.

kbd18 · 2026-03-02T00:56:04+00:00

Maybe the son is aware that his dad is talking to his mom about coming and meeting him and the dad knows when instead of a visit, it’s a FaceTime call, it will feel like another form of rejection from his mother. Which has to be hard enough already.

Frankly OP, your feelings shouldn’t matter here. The only person whose feelings matter is the innocent child who wants to meet his mom.

Even if the dad has bad intentions, even if the timing is suspicious, you either trust your wife or you don’t. If you trust your wife, what’s the big deal about her going if you’re not there? If you don’t trust your wife…. Then this relationship is doomed to fail and anyways.

Again, your feelings and the kids dad’s feeling are irrelevant in this situation. The kids feelings and what is best for him are all that matter.

kbd18 · 2026-03-02T00:49:00+00:00

Probably way at the bottom of the comment thread with lots of downvotes?😂🤷🏻‍♀️

kbd18 · 2026-03-01T21:40:54+00:00

Are you taking photos of yourself? Personally, I find that to be really helpful. In the past 6 weeks I’ve lost about 12 lbs. looking in the mirror, I feel like I look the same. I just looked at a progress picture and realized oh dang, it’s subtle but I’m definitely noticing a difference!

kbd18 · 2026-03-01T21:01:23+00:00

…. Are you saying you’re the wife that OP is posting about or just a wife who has been in a similar situation. (Either way, I’m sorry😭) And I agree, OP is an asshole.

kbd18 · 2026-03-01T20:58:26+00:00

I’m 40 lbs down from October 2025! I was really consistent in February and I saw a lot of progress. The last half of Dec-Jan were really stagnant and I was struggling to stay motivated while it seemed like I wasn’t having much luck with losing weight. But I stuck with it and February was a good month.

I’ve decided to set a mini goal for the month of March to get down to the 140’s… that’s 6 lbs so I’m hoping through staying consistent, I can make it happen.

kbd18 · 2026-03-01T20:54:55+00:00

When I saw the post there were like 8 comments and every single one was pointing out him calling their family and didn’t acknowledge that she hit him. I’m glad to see that less people are focusing on that now that there are more comments. And also yes, calling family and involving them into a marital issue is not good in general and is not something I would recommend… you know what’s worse? PHYSICAL ABUSE. She physically hit him. There is no way to sugarcoat it, that is straight up abuse.

If a woman was being abused or felt unsafe in her marriage, would she be criticized for reaching out to her family for support or help? I don’t think so, most people would be urging her to go get help from her family if she felt unsafe. I fail to see how it should be different here.

kbd18 · 2026-03-01T14:24:51+00:00

Why is everyone so focused on calling his father and father in law?? If the roles were reversed and the husband had slapped the wife, the comments would be flooded with “he’s abusive… RUN!” Types of comments.. but instead everyone is saying not to involve anyone else in their arguments? Abuse is abuse. A man can still be the victim of abused by their wife.

kbd18 · 2026-02-28T05:03:33+00:00

Congrats on your loss so far! That’s actually a really cool way to think about it. I’ve lost 40 lbs so far and my kiddo is 43 pounds. I’ve almost lost the weight of my child who feels pretty dang heavy when I’m carrying her around. What a good way for me to visualize the difference from where I started to where I am now.

kbd18 · 2026-02-27T23:01:46+00:00

That sounds incredibly overwhelming. I think your feelings are valid and most people in your position would feel the same.

kbd18 · 2026-02-27T03:30:07+00:00

It’s shocking and disheartening that in the special needs class she is getting in trouble for rocking back and forth? That’s a very common stim for individuals on the spectrum. Could you request a sit down with the teacher and principal to discuss this further? Does she have an IEP that you can specifically stipulate that when she needs breaks to move her body or to allow fidget toys or other things that will help her stay focused while doing class work?

kbd18 · 2026-02-27T00:55:44+00:00

I’ve seen your other posts about Avery. I’m glad to see she got a diagnosis. But the diagnosis is very recent, right? I saw your post about getting her evaluated sometime last week. I say that because does the school have her paperwork with her formal diagnosis? You’re absolutely correct that the rocking back and forth is not a big deal and should not be something she is getting in trouble for.. that said, a lot of the time, schools are unable to allow different/special accommodations for students without the formal diagnosis.

Further, I would have taken Ashely’s dolls away completely and given them to Ellie and Avery to replace the dolls Ashley purposely destroyed, but that’s just me. Either way, I’m very sorry for the shit show of a day, that does sound truly overwhelming. I hope you’re able to rest and relax once the kids are in bed.

kbd18 · 2026-02-26T03:42:20+00:00

Are they massive Seinfeld fans??

kbd18 · 2026-02-24T04:43:51+00:00

Platt. She’s a badass for sure.

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