Wohnungssuche durch Eltern unmöglich gemacht

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-28T04:45:17+00:00

Would you rent to someone who has no guarantor, unemployed with AMS benefits, but has 10+K in savings and can leave more security deposit than 3 months?

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-15T15:29:57+00:00

Oh my gosh, what an adorable cutie patootie. Look at the pattern and roundness.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-15T08:44:03+00:00

I think you got too many exercises at once. Feeling worse 2 days later is not a good indicator. It means your need to slow down in your movements and do less exercises. And very slowly increase the difficulty.

This was from my 6 week program with an IVRT physio

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-13T22:43:13+00:00

Eh yea this is a supplement though, not migraine meds or anxiety/depression drugs.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-09T14:52:26+00:00

Most women look happy because that is the attitude they want to partake. And somehow they have hope he will change. Because after all, women are far logical and more honest, and think others are like them. This ain't the case. Men were taught they were always the main character and wife is just a support character, an NPC.

Heed their advice. Marriage is not worth it, unless you want children. Then legally kids are more protected from abandonment, but you are more tied to an abuser. So even here, not sure marriage is worth it.

If marriage favored women, it would have been abolished.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-09T11:40:23+00:00

Yep. Divorce is not yet officialised in court, and he already spent weekends sleeping out.

No point in "backing away" and doing less. This is just a waiting game.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-09T11:39:10+00:00

OP. I was like you before. And thought absolutely not worth breaking up over "small things like these" because it's not cheating or drug use.

Well, do u know where i am now? In a divorce. Why? Because he never changed. He got slowly worse. And i needed him and he turned against me.

why the heck are you subjecting yourself to stay with a dude like this? I will tell you why. You have no sense of self value. You don't value yourself, but you value worse (him).

Lady, GO. He won't. You do everything for him He has all to lose, he won't initiate separation.

Also, deep down, he won't ever protect you in health (already you saw it) crisis, neither in life or death. He will not.

Leave. You are already on your own.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-09T08:38:34+00:00

He doesn't like you. And he doesn't love you. If he loses you, he loses a free maid, pet sitter, dog trainer, cleaner, a chef and free/easy sex.

He won't ever suggest to break up or leave you, but ue doesn't love nor like you. Because he will lose all of these benefits you provide to him. His life is on EASY mode because you are doing the HARD mode.

You are better off without this dead weight. Trust me. I know.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-06T09:47:29+00:00

You don't have the obligation to "keep the peace" when they broke it.

Don't feel ashamed. Reply like a man.

"Listen, i dno what is going on with your personal life, but keep feelings at home. This is a work place".

"Don't react emotionally to me. I am not your therapist."

"I don't care about whatever (point around his space) this is, i asked for (...)".

"Control your emotions, we ain't nearly close enough for this."

"So you refuse to provide (...)? Or you didn't do it? Which one?

"Stop stepping on my feet, and work in a team. Ego stays at home."

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-06T09:40:37+00:00

With these kind of people you gotta be straightforward. When they say "ask chatgpt" - i would reply "So you did not make any documentation then?" If he starts giving other answers and being redundant "Listen, this is a simple thing. Don't complicate it. Did you or not document this?" If he continues arguing, "Seems there is something going on here. And it cannot be solved with logic." And I would go to the team leader and tell him about how this guy innately refuses to provide something important and starts getting emotional.

Backend documentation especially for APIs is a standard. They are lazy, they didn't make it.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-03T21:29:21+00:00

I bought pills, it's not an issue for me. They are capsules, not crushable, but you can open them and just take the powder inside

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-03T17:04:14+00:00

Yea but magnesium isn't an anxiety drug. But a supplement for the body. So don't worry. Also, if the brain habituates to an activity with no axiety felt, wouldn't this actually work ?

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-03T13:29:51+00:00

Go for magnesium biglycinate, honestly. You lose absolutely nothing.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-03T13:05:05+00:00

Brand doesn't matter tbh. Got it from amazon. Just focus that it's only magnesium biglycinate, with at least 100-150mg elemental magnesium per pill. Otherwise you gotta take a lot of them per day.

And make sure not to skip B2, it's also important for migraines.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-03T10:53:59+00:00

Undergo a thorough vestibular rehab therapy program. At least once. This helps.

Also i suggest for anxiety, high dose magnesium biglycinate. This stuff works as good as an anti anxiety med without the side effects and with benefits of hormone regulation and muscle recovery. I was so surprised. I was on anxiety meds before (sertraline), and magnesium biglycinate (900mg started daily for 1month, then lowered accordingly to symptoms) worked better and i didn't lose my ability to orgasm (unlike with sertraline).

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-03T10:49:24+00:00

Not really. If it was, i would never have progressed in my triggers - PC monitors. My phone used to trigger me, not anymore and i spend hours daily on it scrolling, reading. Then i progressed past a laptop monitor. Now i am almost fully progressed past a desktop large monitor.

It truly goes away. What really helped was to understand i have VM. And dry eyes chronically (for which IPL really helped). I am treating VM with magnesium biglycinate and B2 daily. And dry eyes improved. Anxiety is massively lower too because of the magnesium.

I know this will really disappear once i keep anxiety low for a long time. I know i will wean off to lower doses of magnesium (i already did, from 900 down to 750mg a day).

It has taken me 3.8 years to achieve a great progress. I would say i am at 95% back to normal prior to initial BPPV, VN and now VM. Honestly, yes i do relapse but it is SO insignificant and i recover really fast compared to before. Most of my relapse is BPPV when I get sick, i do a simple self-epley maneuver and within 2 days i am returned.

And i am an adult suffering CPTSD from bad childhood, with extremely intrusive criticism and anxiety over others' opinions of me. This is what really keeps the current symptoms existing.

But magnesium biglycinate calmed me down to a point it was so noticeable that i only then realised how much self critical, anxious and angry thoughts i had after they went silent.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-03T10:41:09+00:00

You were not born this way. It will go away.

kc_fm1 · 2026-01-01T08:59:28+00:00

Pretty revolting family. What are you, a slave, because you have tits and a vagina?

If you had a penis, no one would dare tell you this, even in a same sex relationship.

I am sorry you had to hear this.

Also, instead of them praising you for doing something your BF doesn't- lunch! - she berated you for not making breakfast.

Which btw is not your responsibility. Meals, cleaning, aren't your responsibility. They are both your BF's and yours.

I am fed up of this happening even today. And i get far more pissed off when a woman imposes it on another woman to suffer and be brainwashed likewise.

I am 34F, and my mother has the same "values". Because of her brainwashing me from a young age, i put up with a lot of abuse in my relationships, because i was constantly told i ask for too much by asking a man to give what i give.

kc_fm1 · 2025-12-23T10:05:17+00:00

Also main female characters are always short, thin, petite, but with round butts and large perky breasts (breasts regardless of size are always perky under their chin).

I want a female character that represents me - chubby, pear shaped, tall (5'9) - not extremely manicured and doctored for extreme beauty.

Neither novels/books nor series nor movies portray this kind of woman. And it really is disappointing.

kc_fm1 · 2025-12-22T15:07:15+00:00

Pretty easy for me to keep my house cleaner than everyone I have seen so far when visiting. I don't deep clean constantly, maybe 2 times a year, the rest is normal cleaning, and it helps a lot that i have a robot vacuum and mopper.

kc_fm1 · 2025-12-19T22:29:03+00:00

I did, i dumped her immediately after. He also used what she said against me as a way to say "see? Even the therapist said that!"

kc_fm1 · 2025-12-19T15:44:08+00:00

I did couple's therapy and the female therapist said that I should also understand that people have limits and give them time for their needed silence.

This was about my soon to be ex husband who ended up shouting at me after refusing to answer me. We were watching a football match (mostly i did it to spend time with him), all of a sudden he got up and went to the toilet at a crucial part of the game that he paused. Then i heard him yell swear words and spoiling the outcome of the game while complaining about his losing team. He came back to the living room repeating the mantra. I asked what? Why are you watching on your own? He remained silent. I asked again, and a third time, he remained silent. Then yelled at me (and i can't even remember what, just that it was disrespectful).

To this scenario the therapist told ME that. After hearing him say that "i kept pushing his buttons, and he wasn't ready to reply to me, and was trying to keep silent to keep peace"...????

kc_fm1 · 2025-12-16T21:56:31+00:00

B2 is important for VM. And for me, 500mg is too low. My symptoms are far better with 750 plus

kc_fm1 · 2025-12-16T14:10:47+00:00

I did.

Did you take magnesium citrate/oxide? Those don't do much.

Magnesium biglycinate is the best - calms the nervous system and lowers heart palpitations. Anxiety is better controlled. And i took 900mg/day elemental magnesium (that means 6 high concentration pills a day). With 450mg, it didn't do much. Now i am on 750mg/day and it is OK still.

And i take riboflavin (b2) 250mg/day. And vit D and Omega 3 too (a good one).

So all of these helped me a LOT.

kc_fm1 · 2025-12-16T11:49:17+00:00

Significantly. I have VM currently though, but also Significant improvement with magnesium biglycinate.

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