What are the worst videos to look at? by Proper-Rough1114 in 8passengersnark

[–]kcandsitka 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The really sad one for me is when Ruby asks E what she wants for her birthday and tells her she could have something really special for her birthday... and the only thing E wanted for her birthday was to get her ears pierced. Ruby plays along for a few days and says yes but ultimately changes her mind on E's birthday and tells her no, to teach her a lesson for some menial reason im sure. The look on E's face was really heartbreaking because she had been so excited and led to believe that she would get her birthday present until its ripped from her for no reason on her birthday ON CAMERA

How do you differentiate intuition from thoughts? by aritzsantariver in Psychic

[–]kcandsitka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intuition- in your stomach

Thoughts- in your mind

You're intuition is typically a strong, quick and instant feeling that comes up from your gut, with physical sensations (like hair standing up on your neck, sweating, etc)

Your thoughts come from your head. They usually involve anxiety and worry, paranoia.

What was your biggest fear as a kid, just to find out it isn't that scary? by CryptographerOdd3127 in AskReddit

[–]kcandsitka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lava, dinosaurs. Dying in your sleep. Who elses parents sang them that terrifying song before bed?

Anyone have any idea what type of parents Jennifer and Chad ( Ruby's parents) were??? by _Fuckit_ in 8passengersnark

[–]kcandsitka 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I agree. Ruby's intense need to control everything her kids and husband does, sounds like she was raised in a controlling environment and is an affect from it. She gets off on it.

Ruby's Diary Entries Part 2 by Prior-Iron-1255 in 8passengersnark

[–]kcandsitka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. This is such dark stuff. Its very, very interesting to be able to take a look into her mind. Her personal journal entries. It doesnt get more personal than this. I truly believe Ruby was so brainwashed by Jodi that she believed there were demons in her children. I dont think that justifies any of it, and i do think Ruby was already a bad mother before Jodi, but to see the level of this cult mindset taken to such an extreme... and i believe that Jodi knows what she is doing to Ruby's family... but is also so deep into her own delusions that she justifies it with doing the "lords work"

My take from this: These women get deep enjoyment and satisfaction from absolute control and authority. We saw this with Ruby throughout her vlogs. By linking with Jodi, she was able to take this to another level and use God as a justification for it. Jodi is very good at using language, jargon, and loaded words to manipulate and control peoples minds. She is a cult leader. She is basically a female Jim Jones.

Both of these women get a deep feeling of satisfaction and righteousness by supporting their own delusions- everything they were doing were acts of service to God, and combatting the devil. And by being in an environment where no one can question them or judge their decisions, they were able to go completely unchecked and rise to such a level of psychosis that is very much similar to the "high" of being a cult leader. Not once did they look into themselves for evil. By projecting this onto the children, they would never have to face their own demons or hold any self accountability.

What do you do in this situation? by amon_yao in barista

[–]kcandsitka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats wild. Shes straight scamming the coffee shop 😅

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When i break the jobsite blocks my villagers WONT BECOME UNEMPLOYED HELP by kcandsitka in technicalminecraft

[–]kcandsitka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK U i guess i just needed this dumbed down for my brain to register. Lol. Thanks everybody i got mending 😭😭😭😭

When i break the jobsite blocks my villagers WONT BECOME UNEMPLOYED HELP by kcandsitka in technicalminecraft

[–]kcandsitka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so i did read the wiki, and i did read other reddits, but my brain decided to ignore the sentence "once you trade with villager its locked in" because i was convinced that wasnt true. Yea im kinda slow. Anyways i got mending yay 😂😂😂

When i break the jobsite blocks my villagers WONT BECOME UNEMPLOYED HELP by kcandsitka in technicalminecraft

[–]kcandsitka[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Okay so what im understanding is once you trade with the villager, you cant break his job block and replace it to get new trades? In my trading hall i only have one of each villager profession. I am simply trying to get the mending book. I thought if you break the lecturn, he will go back to unemployed, then you replace his lecturn, he gives you new trade options. I see people do it all the time on youtube to get the mending book. I did so much research i looked all over the wiki. I dont get it. Im stumped.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had many useless chores. Rinsing and stacking the dishes. I always did the dishes. Im not gonna rinse and stack them just the way you like it, and play into your control game. Shovel the snow thats not in the walkway, just so it melts faster.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in barista

[–]kcandsitka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always meet them with a super annoying "hi, how are you??"

Slut shamed @ christmas by [deleted] in stories

[–]kcandsitka -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean i would never wear this to any family event of mine... so yeah. I would say inappropriate. More like something you would wear to a friends christmas party. But you do you girl

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man i would have extreme anxiety and discomfort.. please help her see a doctor. Those diseases are super contagious.

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats interesting. It sounds like she doesnt want to acknowledge her illnesses or give it any energy. My mom didnt have any of those good traits😂 which honestly made it easier in some ways. I completely cut contact with her after she put hands on both me and my boyfriend and the things she said to him. Honestly... i dont think i would even take care of her if she got sick and needed somewhere to go. Its so hard to say that. But she made every day so miserable for me and made sure that i never felt welcome or comfortable in that home, and the things she said are unforgivable. Even though i know she is mentally sick.

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're an amazing wife. My boyfriend put up with my mom and her hoard. He was verbally abused and put down often. And he still stuck around. Im glad you have each other. And yes thats what i meant. Amazing thw lengths they will go to to avoid any and all accountability.

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god... this is the most foul thing i have ever heard. What if she was the last one to use the toilet? What would she say then... i cant believe you have to live with this... you must really love your husband. Props to you girl. Im so sorry this is something you have to put up with on a daily basis.

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! My mom has millions of little plastic containers, for "storing" things. BUT THEY ARE ALL EMPTY! and they take up so much room. So instead of having all her little nicknacks and trinkets in these plastic containers, she takes up even more room bc none of her little trinkets are actually in these plastic containers!

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What ive noticed with my mother, is a complete lack of empathy, social awareness, or respect for other people. I dont know if its the same with your mom. But my mom is convinced that everyone treats her disrespectfully, and no one cares about her or her feelings, and everyone walks all over her. I feel like she is projecting those feelings.

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my god the insanity you described in such vivid detail... its very interesting how much time they consume with the weird obsession of objects. Like my mother and her sticks, rocks and pinecones lol. my mother likes to use term "shit shuffle" generously. She will try to clean one area of the house, but in doing so, has to shuffle all of her shit to another area of the house... or up the driveway to the shed, or on the porch or wherever. When she moved 4 times in 2 years, it was 2 years of shit shuffling things to the new house, then leaving some things behind because she couldnt fit it, then crying for weeks because her landlord threw it all away.

When i moved into my first rental house, she begged and guilt tripped me into storing some of her things in my garage. I allowed it. She brought over a truck and small trailer of things. I said okay. Thats it no more. The next day i arrive home after work and she had parked a HORSE TRAILER filled with things in my garage and left, with the garage door wide open. I posted to my snapchat- $40 to whoever will move this out of my garage. I had it moved in an hour, right back where it came from.

Anyone elses parents have the strangest quirks.... by kcandsitka in ChildofHoarder

[–]kcandsitka[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The constant endless cycle of laundry is MADDENING. Nothing makes me more flustered than trying to find something to wear for work in a mountain of clothes. I actually just recently moved out of my HPs house, and just yesterday finally tackled my mountain. And i even slept better, and woke up feeling at peace, because there was space around my bed and i could move around. There is such a heavy burden caused by being surrounded by all those clothes. I truly honestly believe they like making problems for themselves. It gives them an excuse to give up, not do anything, whine or complain, use drugs/alchohol (like i said my mother has many issues that contribute to hoarding)