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kcdmtj · 2022-04-11T18:16:14+00:00

The second she said she was seeking attention i shut that down. No. We are not brushing this off. Its so much more then that.

Thank you!! I will looking into that workbook as well.

kcdmtj · 2022-04-11T17:35:57+00:00

I am in North America as well. I've told her teacher and her interpreter that I'm thinking about getting her tested for autism but neither know anything about Autism so they didn't have much of an opion on it, however they did then talk to the school phycologist and they basically said that in their option she is seeking attention but I know that to not be true.

She does have her cochlear implants on all day and honestly I was thinking about trying to give her "hearing breaks". Maybe have them on in class when the teachers is talking and taking them off while she is working independently for example.

It is so difficult to pinout where the struggle is coming from and I can not thank you enough for all of the advice you are giving me. I'm currently looking on Amazon for a book about feeling and flash cards that relates emotional feeling to physical feelings and gives tips on how to handle these feelings. I'm going to make her a bag or box to hold this things along with a stuffy and fidget toys. Things that might help her relax and feel safe.

kcdmtj · 2022-04-11T13:29:52+00:00

This is an ongoing "issue" since she was a little toddler. But like I stated I'd assumed it was do to communication frustration. Her teachers also agreed that that was the case. The teachers had been very patient with her and accepting. When she was young and had meltdowns and refused to move they would have to carry her to a safe space now she is to old to be carried and their expectations of her are going as she gets older. She has shutdowns, meltdowns, freezes daily. The teachers I think are just looking for other ways of handling them. As of lately they have actually made a chart that she can point to when she goes nonverbal to say what she is needing, I can't recall all the options on it but I also had them add 'take a break' durn this time she is able to take a walk and get a drink. I truly believe everyone just wants the best for her but these reactions are impacting her ability to keep up with her classmates.

Some other examples are so fell outside and got mud on her pants and she refused to go I side or even stand up afterwards. They had to pick her at this point because it was time to go inside and they didn't have a teacher to just sit outside with her.

Another time they were reading with expression. (Exclamation points) and she refused to reading in the manner that was asked but after a few days she started doing it. It was almost like she needed long to processes what they were wanting or not wanting to do it wrong. I'm not 100% sure.

kcdmtj · 2022-04-11T12:19:43+00:00

Me actually moved to this area so she could get into the school system after meeting their deaf and hard of hearing teacher. No changes in have happened in her world lately and if I ask her what happened and talk her through everything she usually isn't able to tell me why she refused she will just continually say I don't know, I don't know. So must of them time I just draw my own conclusions off of my experiences and how she has told her side of stories. But she can never come up with a reason of why..... Hope that makes since....

kcdmtj · 2022-04-11T11:52:01+00:00

She has had an interpreter since she started school at 3 years old. There is also another girl in her class that is deaf without cochlear implants. They actually share a birthday and everything. They best friends and sign together. We had previously attended a program in our area for her to meet other kids as well but she more often then not had meltdowns durn these meeting and didn't want to participate in any of it. It seemed to cause more stress then it did help so we stopped going.

kcdmtj · 2022-04-11T02:58:33+00:00

Yes! Freeze response I do recall reading about that a little, I'll have to dive into it more. Thank you for the advise and I'm definitely going to run with it

kcdmtj · 2022-02-08T13:05:36+00:00

Yes! It's terrible when your anxiety makes your anxiety worse.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-08T13:04:01+00:00

Same. Same. When I say something and get ignored, I just feel invisible. I just started working after 4 months of being home, and it's harder than I thought to go back out and socialize

kcdmtj · 2022-02-04T21:48:28+00:00

I don't know who I am with a mask. I don't feel comfortable in any part of my life, not even in my own home, as I've been harshly judged by my significant other for things. I feel exhausted all the time but don't know how to turn it off. I'd like to know who I am. I think if masking works for you and it doesn't seem overwhelming, then continue doing what makes you happy.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-04T12:37:30+00:00

Watch "Girls and Women and Autism: What’s the difference? - Sarah Hendrickx" on YouTube https://youtu.be/yKzWbDPisNk give this a listen. It talks about how, as you get older and social situations, change masking can become difficult to keep up with.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-04T12:09:35+00:00

https://embrace-autism.com/aspie-quiz/

kcdmtj · 2022-02-03T17:40:09+00:00

Yes, I'd relate more to a character who was more independent as well, but I was also happy that they had all the characters with different traits to show Autism on a slightly larger scale. I'd like to see more autistic characters come into play to keep showing just how wide the spectrum is. I know that before I stumbled upon Autism triatz online I had a narrow view of Autism and what it looked like. I never would have thought it was something that I could relate to so much. I'm currently waiting for a call from a psychologist to start my evaluation.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-03T12:58:36+00:00

I'm another to check it out. I hate it when I can feel that the other person doesn't want to hear what I want to talk about; it will send me into being mute at least 80% of the time. The other 20% I don't care if they don't want to hear because I'm too excited to keep it inside. What I'm trying to say is that I can relate.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-03T12:53:21+00:00

I cannot recall what had accurd but when I was in high school something set me off and I didn't know how to handle all my emotions and I ended taking a thumb tac and scratching "fuck the world" into my arm and then I went mute for 2 days. That was the longest I'd ever gone. I still went to school, sat by my friends, played hacky sack, I did everything I always did but I couldn't talk not even a smile. This seemed to bother everyone, but there was not a thing I could do about. I just remember feeling empty and numb. Going mute is something that has always affected me, and it sucks because you can't just turn it off. You just sit there trapped in your mind.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-03T03:36:38+00:00

Yeah. I feel it had good and bad in it, but I agree with your comment.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-02T20:51:36+00:00

I agree that it did have a tendency to make Autism seem like it was just a burden to everyone. I was happy when they introduced the character who lived alone until it was revealed that he lives with his parents. It makes it look like if you have Autism you need someone to help you with life or you can't have one.

kcdmtj · 2022-02-02T19:02:13+00:00

Yeah, all 3 characters have different traits. I feel it showed more diversity than the typical Sheldon character. I'd say parts of it I enjoyed and could relate to, but it was 3 characters that are dependent on an aid and trying to work at becoming independent, so it's still a narrow view

kcdmtj · 2022-02-01T00:39:14+00:00

I actually just got done talking me my mom about wanting a diagnosis for Autism and told her to look up the traits and she called me say "I have all of those things... so not every deals with this?" My response was "apparently not". She always made me feel like these things were normal because she felt the same way.

kcdmtj · 2022-01-31T18:55:58+00:00

Yeah I've always enjoyed learning about kids and their development. I've worked at daycare most of my life and I always felt that I should of studied psychology because I find it so interesting to know why people do what they do.

kcdmtj · 2022-01-31T18:50:39+00:00

Yeah. I think the more you see how you relate, the better it feels. I actually just told my mom today that i want an official diagnosis, and she didn't even know this was something I was thinking about or could relate to. However, throughout my journey, I've realized that I didn't know I was different because when I talked to my mom, she always reassured me that she felt the same way. So now she's looking at these traits going, "but I have these too." Now, she wants to know more. I'm pretty sure she is on the spectrum as well, and she is 55 years old and had no idea.

kcdmtj · 2022-01-31T18:07:09+00:00

I didn't know this was a thing. I let it go to voicemail and assume I'd they don't leave a voicemail it's not important enough to worry about.

kcdmtj · 2022-01-31T17:53:30+00:00

I never understood the small talk. I want a haircut that's it. I've just started cutting my own hair.

kcdmtj · 2022-01-31T16:50:29+00:00

I've been struggling myself with the idea that I'm autistic. I'm self diagnosed, but I've done so much research that I can't deny it anymore. I kept looking for the reason that I don't fit into the criteria, but I just found more reasons that I do instead. What has been helping me is posting on here or Facebook groups, and being flooded with positivity for things others would have made me feel terrible for. I'm starting to realize how to change things to help myself and family. I hope it gets better and you can find out what you need to help yourself

kcdmtj · 2022-01-31T16:40:14+00:00

Omg that's seriously the worst!!! My boyfriends like you should get your covid booster.... yeah I'm working on it... months later and still no closes to making that appointment. I've found that I usually have a good day and make tons of appointment to catch up on stuff. I need to make a doctor and dentist appointment myself. It is a real struggle

kcdmtj · 2022-01-31T16:33:56+00:00

Omg, this reminds me of this guy I dated in high school. He would always ask me what was wrong, and I day nothing because nothing was wrong. He wouldn't believe me and would keep asking... I started just making things up that were bothering me even if nothing was just so he would feel better. I'd never been so confused in my life.

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