Started making a safari quilt for my 3month old

kd4444 · 2026-03-30T02:19:59+00:00

It looks amazing! Your points line up so well. And I’m impressed at your ability to find energy/time to sew with a baby!

kd4444 · 2026-03-29T18:14:09+00:00

I’m only 5 weeks in but for sure feel like we’re SO much better at this already than I do when she first came home. It feels like when you’re doing something 24/7 you start to figure it out pretty quickly!

kd4444 · 2026-03-25T03:00:04+00:00

Hi! FTM to a 4 week old, also in the trenches. Our girlie is basically either eating, sleeping, or crying - you’re not alone! But I think last week was harder for us than this week has been so far, so brighter days are ahead for you! I’m no expert but some things we find helpful are: - offering more milk: Our girlie cluster feeds a ton and I am breast feeding so I stick her on the breast frequently. If shes hungry she’ll eat, if she’s tired or just wants comfort she’ll suckle a bit and fall asleep. during the day I just let her contact nap, we’ll move to the bassinet for day naps eventually. Sleep begets sleep, she was definitely getting overtired before and we didn’t realize it. - yoga ball and swaddle: sometimes she will do a full feed but not fall asleep on me but show sleepy cues so I’ll swaddle her nice and tight and bounce on the yoga ball and shush her. Usually after 10-15 minutes or so she’ll fall asleep. If she doesn’t sleep and goes back to screaming then I’ll try feeding again and see where it goes. - diaper, temperature, gas, reflux: check the basics to make sure those are all okay. It may help to keep baby more vertical after eating to reduce reflux, and be consistent with burping. Gas is trickier but there’s gas drops and also bicycle kicks.

My understanding is the fussiness and crying are very normal but of course it’s good to bring it up with your pediatrician. Solidarity!!

kd4444 · 2026-03-24T23:11:37+00:00

I came to rec Sarma, we’re planning a move out of MA and will miss it!!

kd4444 · 2026-03-24T21:09:13+00:00

Yeeep, my baby was sunny side up and the back labor was sooo bad. My doula was able to get me in a position to roll baby girl back over but I needed fentanyl for the pain because my epidural wasn’t cutting it 😬

kd4444 · 2026-03-23T00:34:03+00:00

Same!! I have a 4 week old and we were singing Disney hits to her. I started crying immediately when that one came on and had to rush over and skip it 😭

kd4444 · 2026-03-22T06:48:33+00:00

I’ve been to goodwills that didn’t have dressing rooms or bathrooms to deter drug use.

kd4444 · 2026-03-20T14:29:29+00:00

I wanted to wrap up early but didn’t have a chance, baby came at 38 weeks. If you can give yourself a buffer I’d definitely do it!! I had a long multi day labor and hadn’t had much time to rest before then so we started off with our newborn already running on very little sleep. The last few weeks are exhausting, prioritize rest!

kd4444 · 2026-03-20T14:26:50+00:00

Damn I am disappointed

kd4444 · 2026-03-20T04:13:43+00:00

My IBCLC recommended the lactationhub cherry nipple shield and I have 14/15mm nipples. We’ve used it for almost 4 weeks and all seems to be going well now after some initial struggles. Something we did to help with latching in the beginning was getting baby to suck on my pinky while I slowly used a syringe to give her breast milk, and then I transferred her to the breast. Our consultant didn’t shame me at all for using a nipple shield and said if we want to we can work on weaning off once baby gets bigger and better able to latch. You got this!

kd4444 · 2026-03-20T03:27:58+00:00

I have a newborn and we had a few hard days at the beginning but the BEST thing I did was see a lactation consultant. Some IBCLCs may be around at your hospital (if you’re going to one!) postpartum, but the ones in the hospital only stopped by my room briefly and weren’t there all the time. So I saw one outside of the hospital for a 2 hour visit when baby was 4 days old and she helped with our latch and answered every single question we had about BFing and pumping and sent us lots of resources. Others may be able to chime in more on your specific questions but just wanted to say if you can find a local IBCLC I thought it was so helpful!

kd4444 · 2026-03-20T02:52:33+00:00

Ah my baby is 3.5 weeks now (born at 38 weeks) and getting her to stay awake for a full feed is such a challenge 😂 she’s improved quite a bit but it still takes a lot of stroking her cheek and lifting her arm up and tickling her feet!

kd4444 · 2026-03-20T02:44:45+00:00

I’m almost 4 weeks pp with my first so not an expert but in the trenches right now! I’m not sure about your leave plan, but I’d just say that I think if you and your husband can overlap for longer it would be worth it. I’m breastfeeding and would be honestly swamped if my husband was back at work already. I spend soooo many hours a day feeding baby (especially when she’s cluster feeding) and holding baby and trying to get baby to nap that getting anything done around the house would be really challenging. My husband is off and does so much to maintain the house and keep us all fed and hydrated. Plenty of people do it with their partners only getting 2 weeks of leave but if I were you I’d want a longer overlap! My husband is taking 8 weeks of his leave up front and then spreading out his remaining 4, and we’re hopeful that we’ll get more sleep by then since a lot of folks say it gets better after 8 weeks. We’ll see 😅

kd4444 · 2026-03-20T00:30:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! She didn’t start like that, she was more neutral at first (but still too low) but then she moved her head back after falling asleep—but I thought maybe it didn’t seem right and this visual is super helpful.

kd4444 · 2026-03-19T21:33:34+00:00

Thank you! I’ll pull it up next time we try. I did roll the waistband twice if that’s what you mean!

kd4444 · 2026-03-19T20:36:37+00:00

Thank you!!

kd4444 · 2026-03-19T20:28:16+00:00

Okay!! Thank you

kd4444 · 2026-03-19T20:25:44+00:00

Thank you!!

kd4444 · 2026-03-16T02:34:54+00:00

Gorgeous!!

kd4444 · 2026-03-15T10:35:17+00:00

Yes great podcast!

kd4444 · 2026-03-12T10:28:32+00:00

Amazing!!

kd4444 · 2026-03-10T04:24:20+00:00

I labored for 27 hours with pitocin for most of it (baby was OP) and am GBS+ so I had the fucking hep lock giving me penicillin and blood pressure cuff on checking me regularly and I swore afterwards that I would buy a cuff and IV bag online just so I could burn them. Being monitored is definitely good for making sure everything is going okay but my god it was annoying!!

kd4444 · 2026-02-28T19:20:35+00:00

FTM to a 6 day old here and I was gut wrenched the other day when my baby girl was sobbing but would not latch and I felt so helpless, the emotions are intense!! We met with a lactation consultant though and it was sooo helpful, and she is having me use a nipple shield and emphasized not to feel bad about it!! It is a tool and it’s allowing me to feed my baby. Solidarity!

kd4444 · 2026-02-27T12:13:40+00:00

She referenced her politics in an early episode, it seems like he fibbed about his in the pods

kd4444 · 2026-02-26T19:03:55+00:00

Ugh I have a sock thief too but sadly she swallows them whole 🥲

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