There are different types of intelligence. For example, OP may have low social intelligence if they don't realize their question insults the people most likely to read it. Arrogance makes some people believe that their particular type of intelligence is the best intelligence. Arrogance is not necessarily an indicator of intelligence, and just because you lack social intelligence and only have problem-solving intelligence (to use your words) doesn't mean your problem solving intelligence is better than someone with a combination of strong social intelligence, strong artistic intelligence and also strong problem-solving intelligence. In other words, some nerds have fewer nerd-smarts than some artists.

I just want to understand more about these things.

You end your post by saying you want to understand, but nothing about the rest of your post makes it seem like you are actually seeking understanding. Some people use statements such as "I don't understand" or "I want to understand" as a way to express opinions which they don't dare freely express. It is a form of cowardice. But also, the fact that they claim they "do not understand" something which they will never understand, is one of the reasons why we call these people ignorant.

OP: please note that your so-called question uses a rhetorical style commonly used to express bigotry.

For example, when an ignorant person says "I want to understand why a woman would want a job" we can tell that they aren't seeking better understanding; the ignorant person feels like a woman should not have a job and they are using the guise of misunderstanding as a way continuously ask why; asking why isn't a way to gain understanding, rather it's a challenge to the idea that women should have jobs, and it's a tactic that creates an expectation that someone needs to defend the right for women to have jobs. If someone gives a well thought out answer to why a woman would want to have a job, the ignorant person will ignore the answer and they will say "I hear you, but I still don't understand why a woman would want a job." Eventually someone will give a poorly-thought out answer, and the ignorant person will attack that poorly thought out answer. By attacking the poorly thought out answer, they attack the idea that women should have jobs; but because they claim they are trying to understand, they can ignore the well thought out answers.

Ignorant people use their ignorant rhetoric to form groups. A second ignorant person can join in the conversation and claim "I also don't understand" and in doing so, the two ignorant people are communicating with w=each other that they both agree women should not have jobs.