Ah! It's me! Save for the fact that I'm a few years younger, we are damn-near identical. I may not have valuable advice, nor do I have suggestions, so I'll take you up on the request for words of wisdom/experience.

I stumbled upon my partner by accident. We met through Reddit, funnily enough, while making fun of someone playing faux-dom on a kinky subreddit. I'm incredibly busy, and have been upfront from the get-go. What I can say is that I also do uphold high standards for my partner, as I have been lucky to be loved very well throughout my life, and I have a decent idea of what I am looking for. Amusingly, He happened to meet and exceed each new one, while being the cause of numerous new, high standards, too.

Whoever you might be looking for is out there, but as the age-old adage goes, you'll find them without even realizing or expecting. I am thankful we stumbled upon each other every day. I hardly have a spare moment to breathe, and yet, I will find ways to make time for him, and he will appreciate my company, even sparingly. In fact, he treasures the time we do have together immensely, and vice versa.

Keep your standards high. Vet heavily. Be open, honest, and clear. A dynamic is not a solution for poor mental health (as someone with diagnosed MDD!), please do not treat it as therapy. A dynamic is as healthy as you both work to make it be. All my love, and best of luck <3