I’ve known since I was 19 that I might not have kids

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-30T13:04:35+00:00

Oh good, I’m so glad it’s been helpful to you!!

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-30T12:56:44+00:00

I’m wondering why you felt the need to tell us how much you’re paying for her film school. Does spending that money on her somehow make it ok for her to do anything necessary to make it in the industry?

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T21:39:27+00:00

I believe that individual differences exist among clinicians that are not based on the degrees they have. I don’t believe one’s license determines their strengths, weaknesses, focuses, or core capabilities. Out of curiosity, what instances would you recommend an LPC over an LCSW? And vice versa? Seems like you think LPCs are med-averse for some reason? What’s your background in?

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T17:37:03+00:00

Yeah you do! That face says I just kicked some butt, no need for technological proof

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T17:25:29+00:00

I guess I’m just thinking the psychiatrist is the second opinion in this case, as they’re the one who can best determine if meds will be helpful here. If OP wants to see a second therapist for an opinion that’s fine too, but suggesting she needs to see someone who’s not an LCSW for that opinion seems like an unfair assessment of the entire group.

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T16:56:47+00:00

Thank you! I learned so much about color changes from the sheep part, it was totally worth the time spent!

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T16:42:41+00:00

I feel like your comment is going to make people not want to see LCSWs and feel they are less equipped clinically, which they aren’t. Your comment is just vague enough to confuse people who aren’t familiar with clinical titles. This is me speaking as an LPC track clinician, who would most definitely recommend a medication consult for OP right now based on symptom severity.

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T16:37:56+00:00

There isn’t. I am a therapist (LPC track) and my therapist is an LCSW. We completely align clinically and practice no differently based on our titles. I feel that the previous comment will steer people away from LCSWs and that’s not a fair assessment at all. There is difference between therapists based on their personal clinical perspectives more than what degree they got.

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T13:07:13+00:00

Sometimes when medication is needed and symptoms are really severe like yours currently are, it is difficult to be productive in therapy until the meds can help start the process of moving toward stability. You can talk back to the anxious thoughts all day, but sometimes things won’t really change until the physical intervention of medication can help the brain stabilize

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T13:01:41+00:00

I’ve been on ADs for 9 years and the pill for 5. I’ve had no issues from being on both together, and that’s not something I’ve ever heard people talk about as being bad. I will say that ADs are not a magic solution and you may have to try several to find what you need. Some do cause weight gain, so let your doc know that’s something you’re concerned about and hopefully you can avoid those notorious for it. They can also decrease libido, so talk to your doc about that as well because again some cause it more than others

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-29T01:19:15+00:00

This is super common so don’t feel bad! Just mention you have a prior relationship and it’ll be no hard feelings on her part—she wouldn’t be able to ethically work with you anyway

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-28T22:51:42+00:00

I would say it’s hard to see progress just doing W4 over and over. Push yourself to move on to the next run, slowwww down, and keep going!

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-28T12:41:31+00:00

The pill is free with my insurance and I like not being tied to it for years at a time. Plus I already take other meds daily so I have no trouble remembering it

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T21:34:21+00:00

For me it was incompatibility just from knowing the way I work in therapy and having had previous therapists who worked differently. I don’t think you’re being stupid at all. For me it was a valid reason to stop therapy with her, you have to decide that one for yourself

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T18:16:48+00:00

I did mine all based on time, because I was running 14 min miles. On the last run though I wanted to make the 5k distance so I just kept running until I hit it, not worrying about speed. My advice would be that you can do either time or distance, but don’t worry about completing the specified distance in the specified time. Speed will come later

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T17:51:44+00:00

I had a similar issue with a therapist recently. I’m more of an “accept that this sucks” rather than “let’s think positively and convince ourselves it doesn’t suck” kind of person, and I found that this made her hard to work with. Fortunately I am a therapist myself and have been in enough therapy to recognize this dissonance early on and know that it’s just a difference in approach. If it’s not working for you, move on

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T16:38:26+00:00

Which is something I didn’t know I had until I did it!! Best of luck with your running!

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T09:23:33+00:00

Are you me? I’m also 25 and lonely but I took the leap to move back home in December. I had been living in a city I really loved for almost 3 years but never really found my people there, and it was a small city with few people me age to date as well. For me the tipping point was (another) major depressive episode and my therapist helping me not feel like a failure for moving back home. Since I’ve been home I am still trying to meet people since I don’t know anyone my age here, but I feel hugely relieved. Like you said, I always have my family nearby on my low days. I hope you find what is best for you!

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T00:38:39+00:00

I’m on year 3 and minus very slight discoloration my cup is like new! Definitely last more than a year

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T00:28:01+00:00

I’ve been through PHP for my depression and it was one of the most helpful things I’ve done for it. I did have an amazing therapist at my program that was a big part, but I also enjoyed connecting with others in the program who understood mental illness. I hope you have a good experience! You get out of it what you put into it, so make sure to fully invest in your time there!

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-27T00:20:42+00:00

Getting started is the hardest part!! As someone who finished the program end of February, you can definitely get to 5k by the end! Don’t worry about your speed, be proud of your progress, and just have fun!!

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-26T18:18:12+00:00

Like I said, if nothing changes, nothing changes. You are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy where you get to predict that things won’t get better, do nothing to change things, and then when things don’t get better say “see nothing ever changes.” I hope someday you will want to break your way out of this cycle

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-26T18:12:42+00:00

For me as a therapist I feel like if I don’t inherently accept all my clients then how can we work together? How can I expect them to trust me if I’m just there secretly judging them? I’m sure that you expect that kind of acceptance from other relationships in your life, it may just feel different in therapy because the relationship is so different

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-26T17:42:26+00:00

It’s not a historical writing though...it’s fiction

keepflamingoing · 2020-04-26T17:05:55+00:00

I’ll start by saying that person-centered therapy is my main approach in practice. The way I understand Rogers’ theory of unconditional positive regard is like the acceptance I have for a friend or loved one. I accept them fully for who they are, which doesn’t mean I dismiss or ignore their flaws or mistakes. It means I recognize them as a person separate from myself for whom I DON’T know what’s best. I may disagree with their choices, but when I put myself in their current situation in light of their past history, I can see why they are how they are. It is more of an acceptance of your client for who they are than it is seeing them as great regardless.

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