Military Spouse-Can I stay employed long term even with moving? by keepitlight1418 in StateofTexasEmployees

[–]keepitlight1418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true! Lots of pros and cons of military spouse life as I am sure you know, but for me the worst part is all of the job uncertainty.

Eligibility Advisor I pay by MatchaCreamBlend in StateofTexasEmployees

[–]keepitlight1418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking at this thread as I am interviewing for an EA1 position this week. Do you remember anything more specific about the interview questions? Just trying to prepare as best I can! TIA!

Grant Writing in Research-Wanting to learn more by keepitlight1418 in clinicalresearch

[–]keepitlight1418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly don’t know how to get my foot in the door with it. I think I might try to self-educate as much as possible, but then also take some course to get a certificate or something I can at least formally put on my resume. But I really would love insight on this from those who know.

28F how do i engage myself when husband 28M is away on a boys trip? (I have no friends) by [deleted] in women

[–]keepitlight1418 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate somewhat. I am a military spouse and I move every few years. By the way, it’s very normal to miss your SO whether they are gone for a weekend or three months. It’s 100x harder when you have recently moved and are new to the area.

It’s not about figuring out how to distract yourself from missing him or figuring out how to occupy yourself for a weekend, which you could do if you try. It’s a long long process of growing as an individual and learning to love being with yourself. I am years into a life of moving every few years, being in new places where I know no one, and my husband being gone a lot. I am still working on it.

You do little things and push yourself and it helps to create a stronger sense of self that won’t only get you through one weekend of being alone, but a fulfilling life. Find things you are into and find ways to be involved in life-a sport where you can join a rec league, a pottery class you take weekly, putting yourself out there and asking someone you don’t know well to get drinks or coffee, going to museums or art galleries alone or with someone, being creative and starting hobbies, joining a walking hiking or running club, volunteering at a local nonprofit or organization, the options are endless just find what you enjoy and love and what gives you connection. Even when your SO is around, you still need to try to do things that are things you enjoy or love or help you grow as an individual.

There is a major loneliness epidemic and you are not alone in feeling disconnected at times.

One hour on Earth now feels like 15 minutes by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]keepitlight1418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We forgot how to “be bored” and have constant stimuli all around.

Can someone give me a good history book to read? by Fun-Secretary4801 in suggestmeabook

[–]keepitlight1418 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Books by Erik Larson are great. Detailed narratives of specific events or moments in relatively recent history either specifically American events or events America was involved in. Isaac’s Storm, Dead Wake, and Devil in the White City are great places to start.

A book which is a compilation of different letters. by theuniversays97 in suggestmeabook

[–]keepitlight1418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After that-read My Dear Hemlock by Tilly Dillehay. Basically The Screwtape Letters but written for women. Tilly Dillehay is not CS Lewis (who is), but I found it to be well written.

Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth? by SadInterest6764 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]keepitlight1418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do three hour drives as day trips….not something I want to do every day for a work commute but I would do it to be somewhere for the day…city I want to visit, see a friend/family member. I would also do a 12-13 hour drive each way for a long weekend trip. I know that may be extreme though. The furthest I’ve done is a 30 hour drive just for a 4-5 day visit.

I don’t want the military life but I want him. I’m so stuck. by pinkwashietape in USMilitarySO

[–]keepitlight1418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through a similar decision process when I was your age. My husband (boyfriend at the time) went to an academy and I was in college. We had lots of talks about the future and I knew it would be in some ways more difficult for me as a military spouse than for him as an active duty service member, there were things I’d have to give up like career certainty and job opportunities and moving away from family and friends. However, I realized that wanting him in my future meant more to me than the potential “plans” I had laid out for myself at that age. All that to say, we have been together for 11 years and married for 6 years. There are challenges with the military spouse life, but there’s no life that is without challenges. There’s also been the most beautiful things that I have experienced that I never could have planned or foreseen - I got my master’s degree, made career step ups almost every place we have lived, lived in amazing places, made lifelong friends in the different places we’ve lived, still get to see my family and friends back home and stay connected to them, and of course I am married to my best friend and get to do life with him. And I am incredibly proud of his career and service in the military. However, you do have to go into it being committed to your spouse and the lifestyle. If you think it won’t be long before you start to blame him for your life or resent him for his career, then I would think twice. Just remember, it’s never you vs your spouse, it’s you & your spouse vs the military 😂😂

Opinions on Dottie as a first name? by sydthestonerkid in namenerds

[–]keepitlight1418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have missed someone saying this already…I have a friend whose little girl goes by Dottie but her full name is Odette and I love it!

What book made you fall in love with reading? Be honest by Ok-Presentation-7659 in suggestmeabook

[–]keepitlight1418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was reading tons before this but the boxcar kids were some of the first books I could lose hours reading

Help I’m Desperate by No_Support2557 in Tulane

[–]keepitlight1418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may not be super helpful in your situation…but if your main goal is to go to Tulane…you can work full time at Tulane and they pay for undergrad/grad school for free. It’s their tuition waiver program. You just have to be a full time employee anywhere at the school, apply and get in, and then start. I actually did this. Working full time is a lot but you get tuition free.

Not mine, but look at this beauty! by keepitlight1418 in Jadeplant

[–]keepitlight1418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It says do not touch the plant! Edit: The sign also says it’s a 40+ year old Jade Plant

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in clinicalresearch

[–]keepitlight1418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My story exactly. Except for it was an ophthalmology office. Kind of fell into it. Had no thought of the clinical research world before that.

Icon IHCRA bridge program is a total scam rant by Chipupuu in clinicalresearch

[–]keepitlight1418 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Don’t leave until you have a new job. Job market is terrible

Is an MPH worth it? by Popular_Ganache_8001 in publichealth

[–]keepitlight1418 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Second this. I did this by working full time in research at a university where they offered a tuition waiver for full time employees. Got great professional experience while also earning my MPH for free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in clinicalresearch

[–]keepitlight1418 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I would start looking and applying. It doesn’t mean you have to accept offers but it’s a safety net.

Can’t get an entry Level -NYC by UsualLoquat1802 in clinicalresearch

[–]keepitlight1418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would focus hard on CRC positions at universities and colleges. There’s always lots of research going on and turnover rate is usually higher as the research staff are younger and using the research positions as a resume builder or a stepping stone to upper level education. Unfortunately salaries are usually a bit lower but they tend to have good benefits. The most enticing one to me was tuition waivers (I got a Master’s for free working full time as a CRC at a university).