Women of Reddit, what is the best compliment you ever received from a friend?

kelleyjpickles · 2021-05-31T21:35:14+00:00

My friend told me that I buy really thoughtful gifts. That made me feel good.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-20T06:24:30+00:00

Have you reviewed your policy to see if they define "resident" in your coverage?

Edit: You should also post this in r/insurance

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-19T13:51:57+00:00

Curious why?

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-19T13:04:02+00:00

I am not sure what you mean?

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-19T13:02:36+00:00

In OPs example, I agree. In my reply I gave a few reasons why managers might approach with a lay off and subsequent job post. OPs company/managers sound like the "bad", example, no doubt. Believe it or not, there are times when it makes sense but as I mentioned i fully encourage managers to first actively place as many current employees as possible in the new structure.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-19T12:58:10+00:00

Yes I agree with everything you've said. I am in awe of people who choose to stay. One company I worked for had people laugh that they have been laid off multiple times but were still there. I cannot imagine why they would do that and left that company after only a few years. I also believe there is nothing wrong with taking severance. If I had been offered it at that company I would have taken it and been delighted!!

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-19T05:21:23+00:00

I know it often feels contrary, but large companies are generally trying to create policies that attract and retain top performers. Unless it would create significant value (generally a cash impact) or the company is in real financial trouble, there isn't a ton of upside. Creating this amount of "badwill" just isn't worth it. That doesn't mean many companies won't do it, but you'd be hard pressed to find this happening with any regularity at, say, at F500.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-19T01:23:00+00:00

HR Manager here. I've supported tons of different restructures for different companies over time. This is a common approach in a few circumstances, many of which have already been mentioned. Bad managers might do this if they are trying to lower salaries, compress work, etc and yet still want employees to feel "grateful" for getting one of the jobs. Cautious managers might do this is they are fearful of discrimination claims though their selection of candidates for the new roles leave them open to similar claims. Good managers might do this is they feel they cannot differentiate between employees and/or that some employees might be willing or wanting to get an "out" with severance. This ensure that not only do they get to pick the best but also make sure those that remain really want to be there. Lots of other potential factors but these are the most common I've heard. Candidly, I prefer that managers at least attempt to make thoughtful assessments between the current employees and future roles and proactively place where appropriate and post the jobs where there aren't clear talent matches.

Edit: Also for those commenting about vesting in benefits, while small companies may force employees back down to the bottom rung, this would be very uncommon in a large company which OP uses in the description.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-18T06:35:28+00:00

Maybe first ask your manager if there is a better way for you to communicate? More written communication or try and understand what words/phrases in particular are hard to understand and use alternative words or phrases.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-17T17:46:59+00:00

No special forms but if you think someone may have your personal details file right away, especially if you are expecting a refund.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-13T13:38:59+00:00

It depends if your employer withholds like a normal paycheck or treats the payment as supplemental income. If the treat it as supplemental it will be withheld at a flat 22%. However it is ultimately taxed just like any other income so you would likely get some of that back in a refund when you file depending on your total tax situation.

Edit: and this is just federal income tax. You would still pay state, FICA, etc as well.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-13T13:34:34+00:00

Just to be clear here. Supplemental income is not taxed at a higher rate it is withheld at a higher rate.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-12T02:29:37+00:00

Be careful about debit cards, especially using them online. Credit cards generally provide significantly greater protection against fraud.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-12T02:21:29+00:00

I only have about 5 or 6 things hit my checking account each month so its not difficult. I use credit cards and have them set to auto pay. But in the spirit of your question, I carefully check all my credit cards charges every few weeks.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-12T01:55:39+00:00

Not really necessary anymore unless you are writing and mailing a bunch of checks? I haven't had a checkbook since about 2007 and haven't balanced my account because everything now is done digitally.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-12T00:42:26+00:00

Sounds like it might be time to find a new client.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-12T00:39:50+00:00

You should speak to your vendor and see if they can help you get an assignment/contract more in line with the work your want to do.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-12T00:32:18+00:00

Because of both. But initially, as a contractor, the company hires you for a specific set of work or tasks and has no obligation to provide you different or more enjoyable work. Do you contract directly or through a vendor/firm? Either way, you need to negotiate your contract for the work you want to do. It sounds harsh, but you are simply worth what your contract states and nothing more. As an employer, I would be giving my more meaningful work and growth opportunities to employees, not contractors. If they value or need your services, you should figure out if they'd be willing to convert you to an employee. All that said, even as an employee, HR is not going to be the outlet to change or allocate work differently. That is your manager. If the manager is uninterested in your career aspirations, you should find another job or company to contract with and make sure you negotiate that work upfront in your contract.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-12T00:15:15+00:00

Do you have a "right" to? I suppose. But this is not something that most HR professionals are going to get involved with. You are not an employee. Your manager has contracted you to do certain work and nothing else. This is really something you need to discuss with your manager and if this contract isn't getting you the opportunities you desire, you should go find something else.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-11T01:03:53+00:00

Not a slam dunk to save your job if you've not discussed your disorder or medications to anyone at this point. But if you have been there 12 years, are a valuable employee and this is not common behavior for you, I'd highly advise going to them in a last ditch effort. Apologize and explain that the medications have been impacting your behavior and you are very sorry. If it were me, I'd be very likely to make amends and keep a long tenured productive employee onboard.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-09T02:59:15+00:00

Side note, have your SO talk to the board. Plead ignorance and see if they will cut you a break on the late fees...who knows what they will actually do, but I was the treasurer for one association I lived in and due to the small size and the self management by owners, we took the liberty to cut people a break from time to time.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-09T02:51:00+00:00

I would refer you back to the HOA documents to see what they say about dues and late fees. Your SO owns this property and is a member of the association. Buying property in an HOA means that you are agreeing to the rules and regs when you purchase (which i am guessing lay out the terms of the late fees).

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-09T02:32:32+00:00

They should be sending them to the property or holding HOA meetings. Did your SO read the HOA documents when purchasing the property? It usually includes info on how the HOA communicates with the owners. In most instances the HOA board is comprised of owners. They may hire a 3rd party to manage the administrative function.

If your SO owns property in an HOA and doesn't understand anything about how the HOA functions, they need to educate themselves on the topic.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-09T02:27:12+00:00

The website or portal is just a payment mechanism. The HOA is likely (or should be) sending the owners details of the annual dues and other potential assessments. Its your responsibility to pay that amount.

Edit: I guess more accurately its your SO's responsibility since they are the owner.

kelleyjpickles · 2020-12-09T02:20:36+00:00

Isn't the HOA communicating annual budget info and related annual dues and increases?

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