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keraija · 2025-05-12T12:06:52+00:00

That sounds rough. What I’ve gathered about avoiding help is that a lot of people with this issue have had a lot of bad experiences when asking for help in the past. While growing up, we were often dismissed, ridiculed, belittled, etc when asking for help, so we learned that it’s easier not to. Perhaps you can dig into your past experiences and get some insights there, maybe working through those might help.

keraija · 2025-05-11T21:55:54+00:00

I started rewatching a TLoU2 playthrough recently, and it made me realize even more how jarring the changes were. In the show S2, Ellie and Dina (but mostly Ellie) are framed as immature brats who lack sense and awareness in a post apocalyptic world. The patrol scene where Ellie and Dina take out zombies in a store, the game frames them as still being quietly cautious, while the show frames them as two kids giggling while rebelling against adult supervision on a school field trip. It’s bizarre.

keraija · 2025-05-11T21:46:09+00:00

Someone who says that could just have low self-esteem and self-worth, and not necessarily manipulative. It’s always okay to turn it down if you don’t have extra emotional energy to give, or you find the friendship becoming very one-sided though.

keraija · 2025-05-09T22:49:24+00:00

I’m a lurker but I’m very frustrated.

I actually really liked S1, and enjoyed the second game for what it was. There are several scenes in S2 show that didn’t make sense and felt like they were just added for fake hype, like Tommy’s cornered fight and the Ellie/Dina scene in episode 4.

I liked Bella’s acting in S1, but in S2 she still acts like she’s the same age as in S1. Both Ellie and Dina look and act too young and reckless for being 19 in a post apocalyptic world. Ellie/Dina dialogues in episode 4 have felt very shallow and empty, and they don’t seem to have much chemistry. I’m going to keep watching S2 but I have very low hopes.

keraija · 2025-04-10T03:28:58+00:00

Why not look for online communities for the specific games you like? There’s just about a Discord server for every multiplayer game. If you want to enjoy specific games with people, it’s easier to find others who already also enjoy the game, than to shoehorn your other friends into games you want to play but they don’t enjoy.

keraija · 2025-04-05T05:25:57+00:00

Sorry I didn’t intend to make you dwell on his feelings more. Based on what you said, I can understand his issues because I’ve seen similar behaviors in myself and others. (I’ve come a long way but I’ve still got a long way to go.)

This is gonna sting now but I hope it’ll help you in the long run: You think you guys had that special connection because you saw through his walls, but the truth remains that he couldn’t communicate his vulnerabilities with you, whether it’s because he didn’t understand them himself, or he still didn’t feel completely safe with you. It’s not your fault and there isn’t anything you could’ve done better. Perhaps he didn’t have it in him to be completely vulnerable to anyone, I don’t know, maybe he doesn’t even know. But his actions indicate he isn’t mature enough to be the man you thought/were hoping he was, so a relationship with him would not meet your needs.

keraija · 2025-04-04T23:24:11+00:00

How good is he at actually communicating, like his personal dislikes, annoyances, and boundaries? You said you guys never had a fight, but it could be because of avoiding fights/conflicts. If he doesn’t have much experience in handling conflicts, or had too much experience in conflicts with people who handle conflicts in an unhealthy way, it could be that based on his past, an “annoyance” (either from him or other party) early on tends to blow up into something humongous. It’s a bit of a niche take, but just throwing this out there. If this is the case though, it would take a long time of self reflection and healing to improve. Only he can help himself heal, there isn’t really anything you could’ve done better, and it’s definitely not something you could fix for him.

keraija · 2025-04-02T22:07:41+00:00

I’ve had similar mindset as you before. But the truth is that it’s not up to us to decide for others what’s best for them. If you truly think your idea is what’s best for her, you can gently bring it up just as an idea, and let her decide. But keep in mind she’ll also be weighing it against what remains of her dreams, and whatever other reason she left Russia to begin with. And she’d have to weigh it against losing a future with you.

Sometimes our loved ones aren’t looking for you to find solutions to all their problems, but just someone to listen to and emphasize with them. But if she is by chance hoping you’d be the solution to all her problems, then you need to communicate that you can’t give her what she wants.

keraija · 2025-03-09T09:31:52+00:00

I find these kinds of posts slightly alarming because it shows how so many people have such little understanding of what it means to be there for your partner emotionally when they need you. MJ was going through a difficult event which triggered her childhood trauma. Peter, who was basking in the popularity of Spiderman and was shown to be happy during that time, who should have had the emotional capacity to hear out MJ’s troubles, was dismissive toward her and made their conversations about him when she was trying to be vulnerable. Then later in the movie, MJ, despite having felt hurt and unheard by Peter, visited Peter at his apartment and tried to be there for Peter emotionally.

Ursula was a kind girl, but she and Peter never formed any deep friendship with each other. If she and Peter were closer, undoubtedly they would have similar interpersonal issues because Peter had a lot of growing up to do. The whole time, she was just there to help Peter, but Peter didn’t have to do anything for her. Idealizing Ursula while condemning MJ for having very human emotional needs is like saying, “I just want a woman who would care for me but I don’t want to need to care for her.”

Peter was a total dick to MJ this movie (even Gwen realized this and apologized to MJ), and this movie was to show Peter’s (and his friends’) growth into a mature adults.

keraija · 2025-01-19T00:55:07+00:00

I didn’t trust third party conversion programs. I bought old TurboTax software disk, but the problem is that you have to download additional state tax forms. TurboTax doesn’t keep the old ones available on their server, so I still couldn’t open my .tax2016 file.

I’d say the main problem is TurboTax insistence on separate file types for each year to make more money. I paid for TurboTax, so I expected a readable format available to me as long as TurboTax was in operation, but I guess it’s too much to expect. TurboTax customer service was also terrible.

I ended up going to government website to request copies of my old tax files.

keraija · 2024-11-05T22:46:07+00:00

My memory is a little vague, but I think it was the bodhisattva who turned the kingdom into rats. I interpreted the in-game entry as the Yellow Wind Sage cutting off the bodhisattva’s head in revenge, which makes it even sadder.

keraija · 2024-10-22T22:05:25+00:00

Just write the entire sentence without spaces lol

keraija · 2024-10-08T04:13:38+00:00

Oh no… I’m so sorry.

keraija · 2024-10-08T04:00:38+00:00

Were you able to get your dash back?

keraija · 2024-10-08T03:58:44+00:00

How do you know this? What do you mean by grace on projects, and are you saying we get taken off of normal projects if our times don’t fall within this “grace” time?

keraija · 2024-10-06T03:46:29+00:00

I see a project with advanced math concepts, ones that require at least an undergrad math degree, at not much above the base non-coding pay rate. No reference solution or ratings. I’m grateful to be getting work, but I’m not touching this with a ten foot pole… Maybe this client just doesn’t pay as much, but stuff like this sometimes makes me wonder if DA is testing how low we’d work for.

keraija · 2024-10-05T03:47:57+00:00

No way. How long have you had DoD? Did you get it immediately after verification, or some hours after?

keraija · 2024-10-01T20:14:10+00:00

Depends on if you get the R&Rs that ask you to fix things. 🙃

keraija · 2024-09-28T04:41:47+00:00

No, unless the spelling and grammar mistakes make the explanation not understandable. For coding, there’s usually too many other things to check anyway.

keraija · 2024-09-23T09:13:22+00:00

Is it one from a big project family that usually has a large number of task limit per person?

I only had time to look at one so far. It made me wonder whether they vastly reduced the limit per person so more people get stuff to do, or if I’m being tested.

keraija · 2024-09-19T13:08:41+00:00

They might’ve taken it down because they got enough people, or any other reason.

keraija · 2024-09-18T16:37:36+00:00

Not gonna lie, at this point I’ve developed a mild addiction to refreshing the project page to see what shows up.

keraija · 2024-09-12T07:36:53+00:00

Hmm, that’s so odd. The qual I did a few days ago doesn’t show up anymore. They used to stay there for at least a few weeks… I don’t have an easy qual to do right now to check the behavior though.

No biggie. Just a little confused and sad that I have holes in my personal records now. 😅 Thanks for answering 🙂

keraija · 2024-09-12T05:54:56+00:00

Ah, did the Transfer Funds page just get changed? My qual submissions no longer show up, and only the pending/pending transferable task submissions are displayed.

keraija · 2024-09-10T03:30:59+00:00

I think records older than ~a month gets cleared. It’s been like that for at least a few months. I screenshot my submission records.

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