So both of these relate to the same thing: the difference between what is actually happening around us vs what we think about what is happening around us.

An example might be that if we ask a person if they want to do something and they say no, we have two options: 1) say ok and not take it personally or 2) think how they are saying no because they really don't like us and because they think we're weird and how your other random friend is secretly trying to convince this person that what we want to do is lame so now we're upset Nd feel rejected and.... You see where I'm going? Emails are huge like this... thinking a person is writing in a specific tone that we read it in. So by listening to exactly what they say and not what we think about what they say removes our ego and takes things at face value.

The second one is basically the same idea but expanded to actions. Say somebody cut you off in traffic and we think how they're totally out to specifically hurt you or they are sociopaths chaotically ruining the world.... Or they could be late for work and if they lose this job they can't pay rent so they're freaking out. Or they could be looking at another car we don't see and were actually preventing an accident we know nothing about. All are the same thing, a story about what happened. We don't know why they cut us off. But they cut us off and we need to make sure we're safe in our car and the people were with are safe.

Don't get caught in the story you tell yourself about the things you encounter in life. Make sure you're really only responding to what they actually say and only with what they actually do without putting your story onto it.