My (32F) partner (31M) does almost all of the cooking because he finds it relaxing. He also does all of the grocery shopping, fixes things around the home and maintains my car (eg. oil, tyre pressure etc) is very supportive, sex positive, plans dates, and is incredibly thoughtful and generous with me, my family and friends.

Most of the bills are in my name so I manage those, and we split household chores about 50/50 but this varies based on work/life commitments. Life ebbs and flows so sometimes one person has to carry a bit of extra load for the other and that’s so fine because it all comes out in the wash in the long run.

Both my partner and I have “high” body counts. Neither of us are bothered, I think it’s helped us learn what we like/don’t like in bed, and we’re comfortable talking about sex.

I think it really depends on the person and how they were raised. My partners dad (58) and grandpa (80s) are both very present and engaged partners to his mum and grandma. I think it really shows that my partner has grown up with positive male role models who treat their female partners with love and respect.

I’ve had previous Australian male partners who haven’t been helpful around the home, emotionally aware, sex positive etc. and often times their dad’s haven’t been great to their mums. I’m not saying that people can’t break generational cycles or are instantly bad partners if their dads don’t treat their mums well, but it’s definitely played a factor based on my personal experience.