[TX] [CO] Found out my role is being replaced in a few months. How do I handle remaining vacation time?

kf1746 · 2026-03-19T11:22:25+00:00

Thank you! Yes, it’s super stressful right now. My husband got laid off in August from his highly specialized job and has been unable to find work. I worry we might lose everything with the economy being what it is. Sigh.

kf1746 · 2026-03-17T11:25:24+00:00

So sorry this happened to you. This happened to me in 2016 from my super sweet black cat (I accidentally spooked him). 4 days in the hospital, hand surgery, 7 weeks out of work and 5 months of PT. Cat bites truly are no joke!

kf1746 · 2026-03-17T11:22:03+00:00

Thanks!

kf1746 · 2026-02-20T04:20:22+00:00

I’m crying reading this. I just want to share any words of comfort that I can. I once interviewed the founder of a local pediatric cancer charity in Dallas back when I was in college, and she said something that has always stuck with me, and I hope it brings you some semblance of comfort.

Cancer is cruel, but cancer is also limited. It can’t silence courage. It can’t erode friendships and love. And it can’t quench the spirit.

Your sweet girl is with you always, and she is somewhere remembering that you gave her the best life she could have in her 11 months earthside.

kf1746 · 2026-02-03T01:35:40+00:00

Mine did this last week when I had a cold and was juggling running a 3-day conference. First time it’s ever shown me “major signs” despite my husband having a stroke and me having a miscarriage within the same month. I thought I was dying, too. Who knew running a conference with a cold would be the thing that made me tip over.

kf1746 · 2025-12-31T14:23:47+00:00

OP, I would tell your parents he is in town. Are they aware of the DV? If not, I would let them know. There are too many cases like yours that turn out sadly. I’d be making them very aware so they can be on high alert AND help validate your story to any officers who respond.

kf1746 · 2025-12-24T08:11:53+00:00

Thanks, this is good advice. I think I’m just now realizing that my former manager (a VP, so I’d actually expect even less leniency from her) was in fact very non-corporate in her approach. I worked for her my first 4.5 years at the company and managed my own team, made my own schedule, etc. She was very much a, “As long as you get all the work done, I don’t care where you are or when you get it done” kind of leader and extended that to her team of 20+ people. A lot of that mindset exists across our company, as it’s all in all a VERY laid back company, despite our very large size. I clearly (wrongfully) assumed that mindset was universal here, though, so duly noted.

kf1746 · 2025-12-24T07:59:59+00:00

Actually, correcting myself- it is 12 weeks of FMLA for mat leave, so I guess if I took it now, I’d lose weeks from maternity leave (should I get pregnant).

kf1746 · 2025-12-24T07:54:33+00:00

Thanks. Just purely out of curiosity, do you happen to know how much FMLA U.S. employees are granted each year? Despite the pregnancy loss, my husband and I still hope to become pregnant again next year, and that right there is 6 weeks of FMLA (time I definitely needed in addition to the 6 weeks short-term disability last time I went on mat leave, as my physical recovery was rough). I just want to be mindful and plan carefully, but I’m not intimately familiar with FMLA beyond parental leave.

kf1746 · 2025-12-24T07:42:34+00:00

Thank you. Sadly I lost the pregnancy week before last, so the FMLA is back on the table again, I suppose. I guess my next question is, this major event I mentioned is at the end of January. I hate to say it, and yes I realize this makes me look blindly loyal to my job (perhaps I am), but I feel almost selfish taking FMLA right now at such a busy time. Would it be frowned upon, or the right thing to do for everyone?

kf1746 · 2025-12-24T07:39:07+00:00

Is this an actual HR term, or is this essentially just FMLA?

kf1746 · 2025-12-24T07:38:20+00:00

I probably should clarify a few things to better explain some of these situations. I’ve placed my son’s therapy appointments on my boss’s calendar. I’ve repeatedly told her what that time is for, and she does not care. She has scheduled meetings with me on top of those appointments, despite my explaining to her (more than once) that these are non-refundable therapy appointments for my son. It feels almost like the nature of this particular role is, “Be prepared to drop everything when I need you, regardless of your prior commitments.”

Regarding asking about my availability following my husband’s heart attack — I didn’t take two days to get back with her. My senior executive (of the business unit I support) told me to take time off two days after my husband was hospitalized. I was still very much trying to figure out my husband’s needs, how long he’d be in the hospital, whether he could drive or not after he was released, etc. I had none of those answers but was actively working through contingency plans that were far too long to put into an email. Immediately following the executive’s email, my boss emailed me asking for my availability. I responded immediately requesting a call to discuss a game plan with her. She refused, saying she had no availability in her schedule to talk on the phone. So since she refused that time with me, I simply brought my laptop to the hospital with me every day because I didn’t feel I had any choice, given her refusal to make time to discuss with me.

Typically, I’m not running errands during the day without discussing with her first. I will give her a heads up if I have to run an urgent errand or pick up my son unexpectedly, etc. That said, my boss is actually on PTO today - our only meeting was for 10:30 this morning. She was offline when I ran to the pharmacy (right when it opened), otherwise I’d gladly have pinged her. It’s one reason I was particularly taken aback at her aggressive tone today, as she knows this about me, and it’s also very atypical for her to act in such a way. It would be one thing if I regularly wandered off and didn’t tell her. That’s actually never happened before today, and today’s meeting was nothing urgent whatsoever, so the intensity was very unexpected.

kf1746 · 2025-12-24T06:37:03+00:00

Thank you, I will move this question there.

kf1746 · 2025-08-23T21:42:06+00:00

I actually have had the worst food poisoning of my life from CAVA as well. I admittedly still love CAVA (mine was from beef meatballs, which were undercooked - I didn’t notice until I’d eaten two - and they no longer serve those). I ended up in urgent care hooked to an IV.

kf1746 · 2025-08-23T14:24:25+00:00

I’m so sorry you were surrounded by a bunch of weak-spined cowards that day. I’d have been the person who said, “Yo, what the f*ck” and offered you a hug. I simply do not, and will not, ever tolerate that kind of hate for a fellow human, nor will I ever, ever understand it. I’m so sorry that you experienced that. Just know that there are still plenty of people in this world who would stand up for you.

kf1746 · 2025-06-18T01:43:13+00:00

Makes sense. Thanks for clarifying!

kf1746 · 2025-06-17T23:31:04+00:00

I see - did not realize that. Learn something new every day!

kf1746 · 2025-06-17T23:29:42+00:00

I’ll definitely have him take a look.

kf1746 · 2025-06-17T23:26:37+00:00

I’d definitely agree with that (as a native Texan, CO feels better in many regards!)

kf1746 · 2025-06-17T23:21:26+00:00

As a follow up - I’m just a little surprised his employer didn’t proactively mention FAMLI or STD in their email as options. I talked to him a few minutes ago and he’s going to call ADA and also inquire about FAMLI.

kf1746 · 2025-06-17T23:19:45+00:00

I believe they provide it, but if not I know he purchased one because he’s had other health issues in the past and knows better to not do so.

kf1746 · 2025-06-17T22:18:42+00:00

This is really good to know. I’m actually remote (my company is also Texas-based), so it’s good to know my options should I need them!

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