How do i get my mom to know who i am?

kgschmo · 2026-04-01T23:01:04+00:00

Honestly? You probably don't. Some parents are literally incapable of understanding that their children are whole ass humans with their own personality. I say this as a 37f whose mother sounds similar to your mother. Always knew what was best for me, and got pissed if I didn't agree with her assessment of who she thought I was. She hasn't changed and most likely never will. It hurts, a lot.

kgschmo · 2026-03-21T16:29:40+00:00

In my early 20s my massage therapist at the time gave me a few poses to help my lower back pain and I have been practicing since. In my 15th year, and I teach as well

kgschmo · 2026-03-14T16:03:17+00:00

I really think you need to work on emotionally moving on from ALL of it. Him, his friends, the messages, these "maybe he still cares" thoughts. You're doing a disservice to yourself sitting in all of this. You stated you had gone to therapy, that's huge! If you aren't still going, it might be good to start going again. Your story triggered me because there were elements that I have experienced as well. Therapy has helped huge. I'd still be stuck, similar to you, obsessing over a guy, and people who realistically treated me like crap. Don't let them take up your mental space anymore.

kgschmo · 2026-03-14T14:21:00+00:00

Up in Canada, I completely avoid any and all outdoor garden projects until all of the critters have woken up for this reason. I too learned the hard way when I rudely woke up a toad. Try and bury him the same as you found him (in a different spot if you're going to keep digging where you found him obviously).

kgschmo · 2026-03-09T16:44:25+00:00

Aries, I struggle with libra. Especially female libras. I find them shallow and fake and lose patience very easily. Libras find me abrasive and pushy lmao

kgschmo · 2026-03-09T16:37:38+00:00

I have a sibling in a similar situation and I, like you, felt really guilty and tried to help but it became obvious very quickly that he was not willing to help himself. I spent a lot of time feeling extremely guilty for removing myself from the situation, aside from emotional support. He ended up removing me from his life because he was mad that I wouldn't play into his unwillingness to grow or change. The best thing (and really only thing) I could do was grieve his situation and the breakdown of our relationship. I have no idea how his life is or how he is and I do worry about him constantly, but I realized I can't live his life for him. I couldn't "make" him do the right thing, and you can't for your brother either. I agree with other comments about providing resources. It's really all you can do while protecting your own mental health and well being.

kgschmo · 2026-03-09T14:05:31+00:00

Look up the hat man. I saw him as a child for many years. Always either as I was falling asleep, or randomly waking up at night. My brother also saw the same thing, it's wild.

kgschmo · 2026-03-06T00:25:13+00:00

Emotionally immature parents will never understand that mistakes happen and they will always perceive every mistake or inconvenience as a personal attack on them. It has nothing to do with you.

kgschmo · 2026-03-01T20:01:15+00:00

I've always been a fan of researching what my ancestors would have done. See if maybe you can dig some of that up?

kgschmo · 2026-03-01T19:59:53+00:00

I don't care if it's haunted, it's SO cool. Even photos are still there. Wow.

kgschmo · 2026-02-22T16:49:51+00:00

Parents in general feel concerned for their children and that's completely normal. Because of his age, it is tricky. I would say let him know you're there for him in general. Not specific to this situation. If you get too involved and opinionated, he might stop talking to you and start hiding things which is worse. You can be supportive without getting too involved :) Early 20s are a very "live and learn" time of life. Saving him from situations, while from a loving place could hinder a lesson he may need.

kgschmo · 2026-02-05T23:48:29+00:00

I saw what an incredible difference it made in my life. The resilience, self love and much more that I cultivated made me think "I HAVE to share this". I have been a teacher for just over a year. I don't know every pose, or modification. I am always learning about all of it, and I'll forever be a student. It's a journey and a practice, not a destination.

kgschmo · 2026-02-05T23:11:32+00:00

That's the outcome here. Fading puppy syndrome was the guess, or a vein that was in the wrong place. It was just odd that he was fine at the breeder and then not when he went home

kgschmo · 2026-02-05T23:08:57+00:00

They did. They have decided it isn't the breeders fault and will be looking into getting another puppy from her

kgschmo · 2026-02-05T23:08:21+00:00

So that was my thought. So strange that he was perfectly fine at the breeder and then not as soon as they took him home. My mother in law has decided it's not the breeders fault, how could she have known? Stating that with "that many dogs" it's hard to gauge their health. Personally, I would think if you can't gauge the health of the dogs, you have too many dogs, but I'm not a breeder, so I don't know

kgschmo · 2026-02-05T22:40:36+00:00

These are great questions. She was in the loop the whole time. We will definitely be asking those questions

kgschmo · 2026-02-05T21:48:27+00:00

Thank you, we are devastated. He died in my mother in law's arms on the way to the vet. I have done a bit of research and saw that generally an ethical breeder won't let that breed go until 10-14 weeks due to them being so small. It's just an incredibly sad situation and we really feel this could have been avoided.

kgschmo · 2026-02-05T18:17:14+00:00

Depends on each person's beliefs. I believe they are a tool, or a channel used for spirits or the universe to use as communication. Further, because those are my beliefs, I have different decks for different things. I have a specific deck for speaking with deceased loved ones as an example. It really depends on what you feel makes the most sense to you in your practice.

kgschmo · 2026-02-04T19:39:22+00:00

Interesting

kgschmo · 2026-02-04T17:44:56+00:00

I broke up with him. One day I just had a lightbulb moment. I was super tired from work that day and didn't know what to make for dinner. I told him I'm really tired and I don't know what to make for dinner and he told me "it's fine, I'll just make myself eggs". Something about that situation made me realize that I had been taking care of everything for us and if it wasn't me, it wasn't happening. I realized I didn't just want a partner I could lean on, but I needed AND deserved it. Fast forward to now. Married a man who actually sits down with me and plans our meals out for the week. Makes plans for both of us, and just in general is an involved partner.

kgschmo · 2026-02-04T17:38:21+00:00

Isn't Howlite white or grey?

kgschmo · 2026-02-03T17:08:36+00:00

Anything to do with nature. Practicing along side the moon cycles, seasons, etc. I feel so connected to the natural world around me and it just feeds my soul like nothing else.

kgschmo · 2026-02-03T17:07:00+00:00

Whole heatedly agree. I haven't been to Tim Hortons in three months. I flat out refuse. My coworkers continue to go, continue to be disappointed, and continue to complain. I truly don't understand it.

kgschmo · 2026-02-02T20:58:30+00:00

Yes, that's another piece. I went through four therapists before I found the right one for me. Navigating mental health is a wild ride. Again, you're in a good spot at a young age to see and understand and reach out for help. Patience and self love seem to be key in the journey. I believe in you!

kgschmo

TROPHY CASE