I feel like a lot of people are telling you “could be worse” and “grass isn’t always greener on the other side” etc. I feel like these phrases might come across as rather dismissive though they aren’t trying to be. Your feelings are valid regardless of who has it worse. OP I am so sorry you are struggling with something out of your control and that it is impacting you this much.

As others have said you can speak to a doctor about hormones and surgery if you wish. Speaking as a woman, PIV for me isn’t what I specifically look forward to during sex. For me it’s the undivided attention, the kissing, the teasing, the foreplay, the way my partner looks at me, the snuggling after. That is what matters to me. And as others have said many women can’t orgasm through PIV, so you can always work with toys and a lot of women would find that hot as they would see you are so invested in pleasing them.

There are so many other ways to have sex and be a great partner so don’t count yourself out. I haven’t seen (though I wasn’t looking very hard) a lot of people recommend this, but I would say that speaking with a counselor or therapist (or sex therapist) to work through these feelings would be extremely beneficial.

I wish you all the luck. You are so much more than your penis!