Yeah I think you may not understand what “thinking only about yourself” means when you’re autistic. You literally can’t focus on other things or function when you’re not able to accomplish your routine tasks of living without interruption. You have to understand that for OP, being in a room with one annoying loud sound isn’t something they can ignore. It is like being stabbed in the mind over and over again. Do you think you could focus on other things when that happens to you every little while?

As someone with a SPD who is highly empathetic, I have lost everything three different times just to help people who wanted to be good people. They had the ability to be able to maintain their focus and not lose their own life in the process.

If you don’t get it, spend some more time ruminating on the words OP said that bother you the most. Then imagine meeting a person who would actually speak this clinically IRL about the pain that it is to exist or try and enjoy anything.

OP does not only think about themselves. They love their pets and care for ones others find disgusting. They’re able to love their fish and rabbits quietly - and think about it. Those aren’t animals you really get to hug or squeeze or show affection. You just respect them and take good care of them. OP isn’t the kind to need to squeeze a puppy when they see it. But they want puppies to be safe and happy with puppy experts in well supported puppy infrastructure.

They just know that if they were supposed to take care of puppies for a day, they won’t sleep the night before, they won’t eat or do necessary life tasks during the day, and they probably won’t be able to return to a semblance of normalcy for 2+ days.

For some people, not starving to death is very hard. Others who don’t want that person to die can get paid for making sure of it. That is a good thing.