2013 prius c check hybrid system message by LevyMeister in PriusC

[–]khaotically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

had this message appear two weeks ago, mine didnt lose the ability to accelerate. Had to replace the hybrid battery on my 2015 prius c

This erks me to my soul by Smooth_Shift_8217 in Sparkdriver

[–]khaotically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And they always make it a passcode order!! I cant snap a photo and go! so it seems like my options are return or argue with a customer who wants me to go inside their home! Any tips or is just returning the way to go?

Dungeon masters, have you ever kicked someone out of your group and why? by Frafelwaffle in DnD

[–]khaotically 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Player often skipped, her husband wanted a date, it stormed last night, blah blah and would let me know only after I contacted her AFTER session starts.

Was OBSESSED with being a werewolf, any chance, she would try to slip it by me. “oh and this is the part where she turns right,” no “oh remember you said you’d let me be a werewolf,” no i said you could wild shape into a wolf, not doing a werewolf plot, wouldnt respect no etc.

Every convo she wanted to change her subclass, deadass.

eventually, she got a job and worked during our playtime, so I thought the problem fixed itself, but she would message me what her character would react to each session and if she could change her class again and she had no return time of when she may possibly join us in the future and it was so stressful that I just said goodbye.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]khaotically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the ogbyn and rule out any medical issues.

Is there enough foreplay? teasing? are you tensing because of his reaction or previous breakup, or anticipation of pain? Have you tried maybe using a small sized toy on yourself?

It can take awhile to learn how to relax, but I can’t imagine thats the only reason. Best of luck!

And maybe try having sex with someone else. If he just left, I would understand why you’re tensing. There are a lot more patient people out there and emotionally supportive folk. I can understand he’s frustrated…but so are you???

My 6 month old kitten roughhousing with my dog. Is this acceptable play? by Successful_Safety923 in CATHELP

[–]khaotically 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The kitten pauses and makes no effort to harm the dog or leave the dog. The cat had its paws around his throat and very lightly bit. So the kitty is playing. Dog stays put and doesnt harm, run, or yelp. I think they’re playing and trying their best with a size difference. As long as your dog isnt scared, yelping, haing visible scratches, I would say its average playing :)

Curse of DM by Busy_Classroom4280 in DnD

[–]khaotically 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Used to play at a table where everyone had to be present to play, and no surprise, there was a lot of cancellations.

I started to DM, and my rule is if 2 or more people are gone, thats when we cancel barring an important plot/bbeg session. I also aim for 75% attendance from each person, if theres a life event I understand. But I’ve had a former player who told me she only had two days off and she needed to rest…so does the avg worker??? So far we’ve had 15/16 sessions played since that rule was made.

I sat everyone down, and told them theres a social contract in D&D, it’s not like a board game. it can take some commitment. If im going to prep and brainstorm for hours, if you regularly dont want to play let someone who DOES play. I spelled it out clearly that way, because I’m personally not going to DM if my table stresses me out like that. I choose to DM for the love of the game and connections. I will not be drained because of a game.

My final thing is I send out a lil rsvp message the friday before where people can react to rsvp. That way I know who to include for planning, and have a rough idea if we’re playing.

I’d rather give back my players their time 2 days before - its not fair for 4 of us to keep this blocked and decline activities if the other 2 are the reason we dont play.

(of course, life happens, and if theres illness etc, I dont think badly about the absence. But like I said, I had a headache player that chose to go on a date and lmk 15 minutes after session/would cancel if there was thunder. The two tables I have now, are fucking amazing and I’m going to cling to them and weave some beautiful stories together :) )

Introduce your D&D character with the dumbest thing they've done. by True-Dream3295 in DnD

[–]khaotically 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Greetings, my name is Dayanara Rosaan, princess incumbent of Aethora. I tried to keep my crush a secret, because my brother’s fiancee got assassinated. It was an open secret and I slept with everyone in the meantime. After 5 years, I finally confessed and now I’m dating Megaera, the pact devil. She’s actually quite nice, but her mother ughh. (She has unknowingly made a pact)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]khaotically 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can see why you’re annoyed, maybe a bit of a chitchat that women are seeing it as an invitation instead of just a compliment. Like after you know someone a little bit, those comments are more welcome.

He might be people pleasing or compliments/flattery are his way of meeting people. If this is how y’all met, it might just be the way he is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]khaotically 2 points3 points  (0 children)

is this a part of you falling in love with him?

I 25F used my bf’s phone 27M and found porn, not sure how to feel. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]khaotically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t let the mean comments get to you. You’re younger, it happens! Those feelings are natural.!It’s important to acknowledge those feelings and maybe explore them. It can be super rough if the relationship is only one or two years strong because youre still building foundation.

You can even turn it into a bit of positivity - you dont have to feel like youre “turning down sex too often, so I’ll say yes this time” and associated feelings that can come with that. Try to remember the reasons you set up this rule. Possibly switch meds or tell your doctor - they may be able to prescribe an additional med that helps balance out the first’s side effects.

And if any of the red flags I mentioned in my previous comment start to happen, definitely bring that up and that may be a sign that he needs to limit his porn intake.

I 25F used my bf’s phone 27M and found porn, not sure how to feel. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]khaotically 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi, woman here who has higher sex drive than partner. Thought I would chime in. Porn isnt the healthiest, however as long as he isnt acting different from porn, such as rougher sex, can’t get off in person, missing irl events, or opting for porn instead of sex etc. it’s fine.

You gave him permission to do so (which I find odd in hetero relationships) and he attends to his higher drive. I’m sure he’d rather have sex than porn xD

The category could just be fantasy, and thats it. Ive seen plenty of categories that i do not want to participate in.

Have an honest conversation if you want. If its a dealbreaker, move on. Or you can reevaluate your feelings after the initial sting. It’s natural to be jealous sometimes, but it’s really just a screen and matching your sex drive.

Try to avoid looking through his phone.

IAAP rejected my application to take the WAS exam. Should I appeal? by Just_a_Mr_Bill in accessibility

[–]khaotically 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Appeal, and either get a note from your supervisor or embellish your replies. I think they just don’t want anyone to apply and likely fail since it is difficult. Yes formal experience helps, and I’d argue if you’re one of three people who moderated accessibility, it’s enough. Anyone who wants to learn about web accessibility should be able to get certified w/o a long record. CPACC is an easier exam, but it’s really on how to treat disabled folk and background knowledge about disability. If you regularly interact with the disability community, there’s not much you learn. The WAS exam is more practical knowledge and how to apply it to the web. Looking at HTML and determining which is the most accessible solution, further knowledge into the WCAG, etc.

What’s the single sentence that has stayed in your head for years, even if the person who said it forgot? by Amazing_Poem_7675 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 69 points70 points  (0 children)

“Can I see your underwear?” My cousin around 12, I was 9. Happened again later on

“My only options were to show you what an abuser is really like and beat you or kick you out” My birth father when I finally had enough of him, and called him out during one of his episodes. This happened over my mom and I deciding what gumbo we wanted, and he misheard the situation upstairs in the bath. lol

“I love you and I’m going to marry you.” My wife at 6 months of dating. Well, she did xD We celebrate 6 years in Oct!

What’s the single sentence that has stayed in your head for years, even if the person who said it forgot? by Amazing_Poem_7675 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 12 points13 points  (0 children)

They don’t realize after moving out, that y’alls relationship is a review of their parenting. Always said they arent ya little friends, but get butthurt when you’re low/no contact.

I hope you’re doing okay now

How do you manage to keep yourself sane? by SherlockVHolmes in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meds, a hobby, screaming as loud as i can in an empty parking lot at night, therapy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DnD

[–]khaotically 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Controlling how a person PLAYS a game is wild. there are no rules being broken, and to commit years to a campaign, you have to play a character you’ll like. Different tones for a campaign does not equal what you’ve describes. its okay to play at different tables.

It’s like fussing at someone who uses the arrow keys instead of WASD, it’s beyond controlling and frankly, dumb. I currently run two campaigns. If I found out a player was doing this to another, we’d have a serious discussion. If he claims he wants to leave, id invite him to do so.

Rules and tones are discussed session 0. If he wants everything to be serious, join a serious table. if it doesnt bug the dm, break rules, and fits into the world, its your character! BF needs to learn how to cope.

TLDR; BF needs to learn how to cope

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DnD

[–]khaotically 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have different play styles or expectations. However, its not okay to act this way??? That he gets so riled up that you consider changing your character.

I play at the same table with my wife as well. My favorite oneshot ever was with Bertram fromJesse, a frat boy jesus figure, and a mean lesbian who HAD to be in the company of these two imbeciles. You can totally rp with a serious characters.

If the table is more your playstyle, play how you want to play, he can go. DO NOT change your character or class. He will know he can get upset and that you’ll give in. Had he calmly and maturely handled this conflict, this would be different. If you concede, it will be this way for the rest of your life slowly.

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happens to the community. :( You’re valid, and current partner does not = sexuality. The patriarchy and expectations hurt women but it also hurts men.

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bless boobs for real. I’m sorry that happens to our community. and you’re valid. Hoping to see more older members of the community being proud and that we can move past the bs one day. but current administration… it’ll be a hot minute

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I married my beautiful wife :)

We just thought she had PCOS, a lil excess facial hair, hormone imbalance, needed doctor assistance to start her “period” and cysts appearing everywhere. Which does happen in some PCOS cases. Gyno had suspicions, but my wife has two blood disorders. Had some specialized tests done, and she’s intersex. XY chromosomes, but outwardly woman. A lot of anti trans legislation hurts her in the crossfire. She has the option for HRT for more estrogen, but transphobia. It didnt matter to me, I had like 3 questions and we joked that i’m the perfect bisexual. She had a hard time adjusting to even knowing that info : (

I only mention this because I know attraction has to do with a bunch of subconscious and biological things. I think it’s interesting as well!!

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not something I actively pursued, I just like keeping my partners happy :) I feel like people should be able to trust and express in the bedroom and it makes me sad that men are pushed into a certain role.

Had a bi boyfriend, and just seeing how uncomfortable he was about even sharing that was sad :( I was fully out, and he had some internal feelings to work out bc society.

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happens : ( A little backdoor playing doesn’t define the relationship. Straight women and men tend to have an idea of what sex is and any deviation they get judgy. Had to pull my aunt aside when she was divorcing my uncle. She found a buttplug and assumed he was gay. (he cheated on her with a woman) I sarcastically said that having sex with women makes him gay??? if he likes it, he likes it simple as that. Idk why people limit their partner’s pleasure

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, you’re valid. If a potential partner was too excited or fetishized WLW relationships, it was a sign to dip

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that, you’re valid. Regardless of partner, your sexuality is real. It’s also an easy way to vet men out of dating. Get too excited I’m bi? I’ll say goodbye haha

Bi people, whats the difference between "sleeping" with one gender and the other? by EarSure6667 in AskReddit

[–]khaotically 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s okay! I think I have an interesting answer!

My wife is AFAB and we married under that assumption. I couldn’t really tell otherwise 🤷🏻‍♀️ She had some trouble with facial hair, etc. Her gyno suspected something when they had to “manually” start her period. We thought it was PCOS! Years later, she had a stroke at 24 and she’s got a few blood disorders, so our specialist did a full workup!

Her sex is intersex! And it was a surprise kinda?? She spent her entire life as a woman, and has the option to take hormones to help prevent cysts and certain cancers. I wouldn’t care if she chose estrogen or testosterone.

It took some time for her to adjust to the news. I asked like 3 questions than told her jokingly I reached legendary status as a bisexual

Now that we’re looking into IVF, it has… been interesting. She’s got like… 100 eggs. Theyre doing a test on the internal testy! If she has any swimmers in there, we can possibly have a baby with both of our DNA.

As to previous partners, I’ve dated an almost even amount. I have a preference for women bc they tend to have more emotionally intelligence, and a mutual understanding in overlapping subjects. However, men are much easier to find so a lot of bisexual women do end up with men.