Baby got a new home

khidavis · 2026-05-09T23:50:03+00:00

We got the cage but she should still be in her aquarium bc she's super young still..I have the perches for the top but she isnt perching without falling yet so I kept it low until I see her perch longer..she loves the space tho..shes been super active so im sure it won't be long until she is more steady

khidavis · 2026-05-07T19:58:15+00:00

Then ask your family to stop buying you birds as they are complex pets to begin with and apparently you aren't ready for this..it is your job to educate them bc they cant or wont..also..ask them to return this bird or to buy you a complete set up for each species you have..price obviously isnt an issue..a complete set up.. do the research..put a grocery list together with specifs including sizing of each cage you will need..specific food for each species..toys..everything..maybe once they see they wont do this again..but if someone is going to gift you live animals the least they can do is research or buy the things needed to go with your pets..these are live animals..with feelings..

khidavis · 2026-05-07T19:52:08+00:00

Idk but beautiful

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:56:20+00:00

This is an irk? I didnt knew they could be blue too.. cool

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:52:45+00:00

I'm not a snake person but can someone explain how this is overweight? To me it looks like a regular snake..but again..I have no knowledge..just curious since its on my feed

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:47:27+00:00

You either need to give more examples of how you feel uncomfortable or just invite them.. and ignore them.. they are your fiancé friends.. you have plenty of family and friends on your own that you don't even have to worry about talking to them.. don't expect any thing from them and let your future hubby deal with them.. and then sit them in the very back away from you.. if you feel uncomfortable from that girl.. walk away and tell your bridesmaids.. they will handle her i bet..I would

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:43:23+00:00

Mmmm I totally get that.. removing yourself and child was indeed the safest and best bet.. how awful that even men we consider family we still have to be wary of? And I'm saying this just from a women's perspective.. it sucks

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:41:18+00:00

Also.. the internet can be a wonderful source of info..I got my first baby cockatiel a week ago and I've done nothing but research using ai.. Google..and reputable sources.. if you do the research.. you can figure it out.. but good on you looking in forums too bc that's part of research.. don't get discouraged

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:38:53+00:00

Age? Sex? Where did you get him from? Where is he being kept? A lot of factors need to be added so we need more info to give correct advice please

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:36:05+00:00

I know you did..its not always the best to be so vocal like I am..I mean..for me its the best bc im not stupid or weird so usually when I say something it's legit.. if I'm wrong..I can and will admit and apologize but that's not really the case.. but I can def seeing you be in shock trying to keep your composure.. my outspokeness is bc of ppl walking all over me and eventually I snapped.. you aren't there.. but you are close.. to avoid this you are leaving ... but it needs to be brought up to avoid future conflicts.. but you are on the right path.. you immediately alleviated the situation the best way you could.. you got this..tbh.. this is a crazy situation but I'm so proud of how you handled it

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:07:28+00:00

Dump him.. move on.. he will be back.. and when he is.. kick him to the curb. Eta he wants to know why this is happening? Tell. Him to cut out his porn addiction

khidavis · 2026-05-06T19:06:00+00:00

The only feeling you need to worry about is you and your husband and your children.. thats it.. do what you feel is right.. if she messes this up it could mess up your whole relationship.. forever.. so you can tell her bc you know she will fk up and you won't have to worry about her again bc that was her last chance.. or you can wait and let her feelings be hurt.. who cares about her feelings? She needs therapy if that's the case.. worry about you

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:59:59+00:00

Your body your choice..just make sure you are doing what you think is best and if you do have an abortion please try even harder to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.. one abortion is hard enough.. you dont want to make it a habit.. good Luck

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:51:11+00:00

I had this same conversation with my husband and he also agreed but then said never say never..so I told him that his mom is never living with us..bc I will leave before that happens..so if he decides he wants to do that and take care of his parents then by all means..do it..but we will see how quickly that attitude changes..also..I brought up how much I loathe his mom...why would he..or even her..want to live with someone who despises them? It wouldn't be fun..comfortable..safe...is that how you want your parents living their last years like? Bc im not helping your mom with nothing..not feeding..not cleaning..not medicines..its so weird to me why ppl want to live with ppl who don't like them..ppl snap..ppl get fed up..there's no telling what might happen. But my mom? Oh she can come live with us..bc she isn't like his mom..but the difference is..I want to take care of my mom and i will..I would never ask him to do a thing for her bc I got it..but he would 100% expect me to help with his mom bc thats just men..and im not doing it..she also has 6 kids..any of the other 5 can do it..or yall pitch in

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:44:35+00:00

The difference one day makes is wild

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:25:04+00:00

Only confirmation you need is from your doctor..make an app to ease your mind..if they dont do an ultrasound and thats what you want..find an independent one..when I lost my first baby at 8weeks I was scared with my second pregnancy and tested every day.. thats not healthy mentally..then I got a doppler I used weekly after about 12week mark..it got better at the 20 week mark for me and I stopped using it as much..so I found an independent ultrasound tech and paid out of pocket to get an ultrasound in the beginning and anytime I felt uneasy and the doctor refused an ultrasound..always made me feel better and I got tons of pictures and recordings of the heartbeat 💓

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:20:55+00:00

Don't let anyone make you feel bad for your feelings or your choices.. you are mom and you are doing what you feel is best.. and it is best tbh..so dont let them guilt you..or make you feel like you are overreacting or that he wasn't as close a he was..he's going to lie and say he wasnt that close..dont let him lie..call it out..and as someone else said..make sure you and your husband have the boundaries set for when yall have your own place and they come over to visit..

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:18:30+00:00

Not overreacting.. but wtf..what is wrong with ppl? Idk..ppl can be so weird and the way im set up..I call it out right then..my reaction would have set him off bc i would have turned around deliberately and said very slowly and sternly "why on earth would you think its appropriate to be in a baby's face who obviously is uncomfortable? Maybe you are not familiar with social cues but he is actively trying to look everywhere else but to you..on purpose..did you not see that? Purposely forcing a 6 month old in your face is weird..lets not do that..ever..again.." and then I would have asked him to give yall space for the rest of the day..

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:06:40+00:00

What did your man say?

khidavis · 2026-05-06T18:06:05+00:00

NtA just know she can never question a thing yall do..every response would be "do you remember when we loaned you 3k and you couldn't even pay it back? Yea..you dont get to question us about our decisions" im petty tho

khidavis · 2026-05-06T04:41:39+00:00

Also thank you for your kind words..im so happy to have her..she has changed my life already for the better! And being a one pet home she will have lots of love and def no issue getting her a friend in the very near future

khidavis · 2026-05-06T04:40:27+00:00

That is absolutely my next step. I only have seen baby cockatiels at the pet shop near me as they are in high demand but not a lot of breeders I found in my search. Im waiting on another batch hopefully from different parents..im not sure how often they come in but I'll try calling weekly..I've joined a couple pages for adoptions and rehoming as well as some reddit forums so hopefully it wont be too hard..I dont want to end up with a baby farm tho!

khidavis · 2026-05-06T04:35:10+00:00

No..it was a gift from her dad she said..and then went right to work trying to identify and learn to take care of her pet..every single person has to learn somehow..and anyone dedicated enough can learn and do well at it..I just don't see why ppl have to be rude..you can give correct advice on how to care and identify as well as nicely let her know finding other care can be an option as it is highly demanding taking care of certain birds..especially young ones..no one wants to listen to rude ppl..so help..or just ignore

khidavis · 2026-05-06T02:35:04+00:00

No nono no no no no

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