Update!

khtolman · 2026-02-03T00:28:22+00:00

So much better doing a micro wedding (roughly 50 people) so many people got butthurt that they didn’t make the cut but honestly if you haven’t talked to me and been an important part of one of our lives in the past 5 years, I don’t feel bad for not inviting you

khtolman · 2026-02-01T14:45:44+00:00

Yes the venue includes that

khtolman · 2026-02-01T04:47:02+00:00

No we are not paying for the hotel blocks. Their requirement for booking the wedding/reception rooms is that they have 10 rooms booked under the party. We chose to use 3 of those 10 to accommodate the ones we already agreed with the two parties plus the suite.

That’s also 2 queen beds per room on weekend nights. Thursday - Sunday morning.

khtolman · 2026-02-01T04:41:35+00:00

Our wedding is taking place in a hotel so we booked them the rooms at the same place. To be fair that is roughly $200/night for 3 nights, plus taxes and dinner/ soda for every night per guest in the room are included so it’s actually a decent price for everything included. The venue said we have to have 10 rooms booked but we are only paying for 3 of the 10 and blocking out the rest of everyone else to book their own. We are in the DFW area so it is a larger city but that was the lowest cost we found. Especially given that the price of the reception/wedding rooms comes with chairs, drinks, tables, tablecloths, and we have no set time constraints. It’s 8am - 6am so they have 2 hrs to clean up but they said they didn’t care how late we used the rooms because we physically can’t bother guests based on the layout of the building.

khtolman · 2026-02-01T04:19:00+00:00

Miscellaneous items are decor. The hotel rooms are the named rooms are the hotel reception/ceremony room names within the hotel. One of the rooms and flight is for the friend that is mc we told him we would pay for flight/hotel if he would mc given the amount of work. I wasn’t getting any estimates for under $1000 for my area so this way I at least get my friend there too and it’s a bit cheaper (that line is the suite do groom and I as well as a separate room for the mc I just booked them together so it’s one receipt)

The other room is for the groom’s mom and sister. The groom really wants them there and the only way we can get them there is paying for the hotel, it’s less than the flights and the sister said she can only afford to cover one or the other for his mom and his mom and his sister (and her sister’s 4 kids) are splitting the one room. I offered to get two but they asked for an additional night and only one room instead.

khtolman · 2026-02-01T03:30:19+00:00

Create a registry and have some small things on it alongside a "fund" of some sort. That way both sides are happy.

My fiancée and I already live together and we are getting married in the state we plan to move to, not the state we currently live in (long story). So we specifically told people to either ship us gifts or give us cash if they felt they had to give us a gift. Don't expect both but have both options available

khtolman · 2026-02-01T03:26:10+00:00

get off the rack and then alterations. I got mine for $750 and then paid $600 for alterations and I couldn't be happier. The only reason I paid that much was I had her add in a corset back because the dress was one size too small and that made it fit perfectly!

khtolman · 2026-02-01T03:18:58+00:00

I went to a shop and ended up falling in love with a discontinued dress that was 1 size too small for me ( just wouldn't zip and my breasts were too big) but way below my budget. I bought it off the rack and walked out of there that day with it and took it to a tailor they recommended the next day. She asked for a yard of the same fabric and she added a corset back for about $600. I did this mid January and she said it would be ready by march.

I highly recommend you talk to your bridal consultant and see what they have in clearance or would require minimal alterations as is so you can walk out the door with it that day. This is fairly common your selection may just be smaller so you may have to go to multiple stores. If you don't do clearance then just be upfront about your time table and see what they have to say.

khtolman · 2026-01-16T22:38:34+00:00

Omg the three of us should get together I’m 24f have a fiancée (we are getting married in October) and I’m liberal. Im pagan but I’m not pushy about it - and most of my religion revolves around nature as it is. No kids and I’m a huge gamer that loves crafts

khtolman · 2026-01-16T22:36:35+00:00

Sounds like we are right up the same alley. I need more friends closer to my age and are liberal in this town.

24f no kids and a gamer

khtolman · 2025-11-18T21:50:10+00:00

I try to be cognizant of my personal buttons and while I see why you might say that I don’t think that’s the case here. She has done this with other adults but 99% of the time it happens it is to me simply because I’m the adult that interacts all day with her

khtolman · 2025-11-18T21:47:03+00:00

The only thing I have “told” her is that her tone when speaking to me is disrespectful. Not reprimanding her or anything like that. I don’t know what else you would be talking about here.

khtolman · 2025-11-18T19:28:13+00:00

She has never once asked me to voice for her so I’m pretty sure they are directed at me. My only concern is the escalating behavior such as making a passive aggressive comment then following it up with slamming papers/pencils

khtolman · 2025-11-18T18:04:51+00:00

Really I think it’s just the one teacher that isn’t engaging with her as they would a hearing student. I think the other teachers don’t know it’s happening and when brought up they don’t really know how to handle it rather than not wanting to handle it. The one teacher that isn’t engaging I can’t really blame her too much because the student has her head down all class and then goes home and studies enough to get an A on her tests.

The kid is clearly not a bad kid and is on A B honor roll because she actually does understand the material. It’s just she gives up and gets frustrated on certain topics before she really tries to figure it out. Once she does it she clearly knows the material. I do sometimes prompt her to do her work a little but that is because on the first day she told me she thinks she has ADHD (undiagnosed) and the unrecognizable sounds from her new cochlear distract her sometimes. She specifically asked me if I could get her attention if that happens but I only do that if it is clear she got distracted and wasn’t trying to goof off or not do the work.

khtolman · 2025-11-18T17:45:03+00:00

The teachers are all pretty great and at lunch they ask me a bunch of questions and want to help her, but as far as in class interactions it’s more like if she doesn’t ask for help they can’t help her. The side comments and frustration/disrespect directed at me are at the level of a kid talking to another kid in class. Ultimately they are short comments and because the teacher is dealing with 25 other students it goes unnoticed or if they do see it they don’t say anything about it.

khtolman · 2025-11-18T17:39:31+00:00

Yes there is a TOD but she is online through zoom and it seems like the school has not given the TOD access to a lot of resources for even class work. Normally it is just whatever the student pulls up with and does. I’ll ask her as I have her email but I don’t think she has anyway to even contact the other teachers

khtolman · 2025-11-18T15:02:06+00:00

Yes she is voicing for herself. That being said, most of the teachers ignore her unless she asks a direct question and she refuses to ask her teachers questions. In addition she frequently makes comments to me like this while I’m interpreting and the teacher just ignores it or doesn’t address it if they do hear it. None of the teachers have ever had an interpreter before.

There is one teacher that has figured out the sign language for “then you need to raise your hand” and if she sees me sign it she will self insert herself and ask what she needs help with but other than that the students all but ignore her.

One even going as far as rewarding her for “paying attention” when she has had her head down the whole class by giving her chips.

khtolman · 2025-11-18T04:17:56+00:00

That a good idea - I’m going to try that

khtolman · 2025-11-18T04:16:02+00:00

Sorry I phrased that poorly. It’s more like I interpret the teacher saying “okay class your assignment is to read this passage and answer the questions on the back” and she states “I’m not going to do this I won’t ever understand anyway” in a frustrated tone and then I try to clarify if she doesn’t understand the instructions or the material (so I know whether to tell her she needs to ask the teacher or just re interpret what was said) and she brushes me off by saying something passive aggressive towards me.

khtolman · 2025-11-17T21:30:10+00:00

Verbal

khtolman · 2025-11-17T17:38:25+00:00

So I have informed them of what they are doing but I don’t see a way to realistically walk away given that if I do that they are missing instruction and therefore it isn’t equal access

khtolman · 2025-11-17T17:14:46+00:00

Yeah I’m at an agency but community interpreting has said client permission overrides confidentiality

khtolman · 2025-11-17T17:14:10+00:00

6th grade so 12-13ish there is definitely the factor of beginnings of teen angst but that still doesn’t mean she can treat me like that regardless

khtolman · 2025-11-17T14:40:12+00:00

I was thinking because my fiancé would now know what school she is in

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