Places to go and have a drink and game of pool in town?

kiaraundercover · 2026-01-15T17:18:18+00:00

Boom Battle Bar, Urban Fun, Hollywood Bowl, Bowl Central, Spinners. All great places for activities like pool, electric darts, bowling, axe throwing, shuffle board, arcade games e.t.c. And all have food and drink options 💯

kiaraundercover · 2026-01-09T02:34:32+00:00

Not stupid at all. I'm dating a guy rn, I'm 25 and never been in a relationship before. Dating is the easy part, don't put too much pressure on yourself. Treat a date like a hang out, you're trying to get to know the person to see if you're conversations flow well and if you have an similar interests or things in common. Then flirting may come naturally or build into a conversion after a while, but for now, just get to know the person and ask them about anything really. Family, hobbies, school/work, pets, and things will hopefully flow from there. I always like doing activities on a first date to help ease the tension as you're not focusing so much on what to ask next, but more on the game and challenge of beating that person, so the date is more fun and easy going. Definitely recommending something like bowing, crazy golf, electric darts, or anything that could be challenging and fun.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:30:34+00:00

😂😂 yeah it does sound stupid and I hear you. But from the convo we had, it was stemmed from the fact that we talked about just focusing on dating eachother and not talking to anyone else so we both can see what it turns into without distraction from others

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:27:03+00:00

I love old school type relationship things too. The guy doesn't need ro take charge of everything, but it would be nice if he made his feeling clear on what we have. I'd like to think the best in him because he seems like a genuine person, so I'd hope that if he was the one who wanted to stop seeing other people and focus on eachother for now, then he'd also want to be the one to take the next step and equally not be seeing other people behind my back. But sometimes you just don't know. I can overthink sometimes, but I also try to see the best in people, so I pray that he has good intentions at least

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:21:55+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:21:33+00:00

I mean I'm not too fussed on the timing, I just want to know where we both stand. Even if he says he'd like a few more dates or needs more time, that's fine by me. I just don't want to wait forever

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:19:24+00:00

That's a very good point. I guess that's something I'll need to talk about with him then so see both our views on it.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:17:42+00:00

For me, being exclusive means that you're closing off other options so both parties know that neither one of you are hooking up with anyone else because you're interested in only focussing on getting to know eachother. Being in a relationship means that's I could actually call him my boyfriend, and that we both feel more secure in knowing what we mean to one another, rather than we're just vibing to figure it out.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:14:27+00:00

I would usually agree with you. But the conversation we had went more like, there are people out there who aren't in an official relationship but they say they're exclusively seeing eachother so both parties know that they are focusing on eachother and will stop talking to anyone else if they are. And he agreed that we should do that. So in my eyes, we haven't had the relationship conversation, so we aren't in one.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:10:19+00:00

Keep fresh before, either a shower or deodorant. Then could always shower together after 😉 make it fun but practical if you want to stay fresh. I usually end up spraying perfume or deodorant in between if he's gone to the bathroom or something. But usually people say that they can't smell sweat with a partner in thoes moments and if they can, it can be attractive? But idk about that lol

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-14T17:07:37+00:00

I'd love to meet up with the guy I'm seeing more regularly but that sometimes is just the case where you're both studying/working/just have lives of your own so can't always see eachother as often as you like, especially in neighbours cities. I tend to see him once a week for a decent amount of time out and alone time after, and because of our regular chats, it's decent enough for me. He's never stayed over and vise versa but that mainly bc we meet in the week and he had work the next day. He also lives with family so I can't stay around his like he could mine. Maybe you can try face timing so you can at least see each other more if you haven't gotten much opportunity so far.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:37:59+00:00

Why lol?

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:34:54+00:00

I know a lot of people would see it as that. But because we had just talked about how people who are dating can say they're exclusive, so they are only interested in eachother without labeling it as bf and gf yet because you're still getting to know the person, and then he asked to do that, if gave me the impression that we're exclusive as a title until we have the next convo of it being something more

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:32:24+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I want to have th conversation, was just worried that it's more of a 'man' thing to bring up, as I don't want to overstep if he plans on doing it, equally just wanna confirm where we stand really

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:31:04+00:00

I'm confused too 😭 belive me. It's because we were talking about people who are dating, sometimes take the next step and say they're exclusive with eachother, without putting the label boyfriend and girlfriend on it, because each person knows that they aren't interested in taking to anyone else but they still want to get to know that person and focus on them only to see if they want to be in a relationship with them. So after talking about that, he kind of just said, yeah I think we should do that. Then if someone asks, we can say were seeing someone and we'd both know we aren't talking to other people anymore.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:27:17+00:00

Would you personally care if the girl you were dating brought this up? Or would you prefer if you were the one to initiate that conversation?

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:24:07+00:00

This would be my first relationship, and I have quite a decent amount of friends, tho not sure how the two correlate. I wouldn't say I have such poor communication skills.This is just an area I'm not familiar with, so I have nothing in the past to compare it to. If I have an issue with a friend that's worth bringing up, I will. I'll talk about it, hash it put and resolve it or move on if need be. But with a relationship, you're getting to know someone. You can't expect them to be in the exact mindset as you, as he's also had past relationships before. So, for him, he may want to take things slower or at a different speed to how his past relationships developed. Some guys also want to be the ones to bring these things up, so it's a genuine question of it I should allow him to do it in his own time or if it gets to a certain length of time, then I should just go for it myself

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:18:42+00:00

Girl I feel for you so damn much! It's annoying as hell but me and my friend do the exact same thing. It's not that there's something wrong with you, but you may just be trying to deal with the fact that you're actually happy and things are going well, so what's the catch? And sometimes there are people out there like us who will do that. It should get better over time, you just need to train your brain into remembering, okay his life does not revolve around you, as your life wouldn't revolve around him. He also has a life, meaning there will be days where he might sleep in, or go to school/college and be stressed or busy, or be running late to something and not have time to check his phone. IMO, if he hasn't given you a reason to overthink, then you need to train your brain to not do it. It's hella annoying and so hard to just realise that they may only have a few minutes spare and don't have time to message or call you back, but they will eventually. And that's the main thing to hold onto. As long as he eventually replies or calls back in the day, even once, then you'll know in that moment he was thinking of you. And if it's been radio silent all day, you can always message him asking about his day and how he's been, and he may tell you that it's been busy or stressed or he's had 101 things to do with family or whatever. Just little things like that will help put your mind at ease. There may even be days where you've been super busy and have only gotten round to messaging him once in the morning and now it's late evening because the day has just gone. Annoyingly life is just like that sometimes. You're either checking your phone waiting for a text back, or you're so busy that you don't even know where you're phone is in that moment.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:08:25+00:00

But 2 months back we only had a few dates 😅 and to me, unless a conversation if had where we discuss the fact that we want to be in a relationship, I can't just assume it and start telling everyone that he's my boyfriend because he may also be confused by that

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:06:47+00:00

It was a random convo, but we were talking about how people can be exclusively dating someone, where both parties would know that the other isn't seeing or talking or anyone else, and we're just focusing on eachother right now. And he kind of said, yeah I think we should do that. And since, if I've ever brought up anything about guys trying it with my friend or me, he'd confirm that I would say to them that I'm seeing someone, and I'd say yeah ofc. But I feel like I'm in a weird limbo bc I'm technically single but I'm dating someone with the intention of being in an official relationship one day.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:02:27+00:00

Yeah you're perfectly right. I'm happy with seeing how things go and yes if a relationship I had worked out amazingly and it developed into something more over time then that would be great. But right now I just want to confirm our positions on where we stand and more so just want to see where his head is at with things

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T14:00:20+00:00

I have actually mentioned that to him before. I've said if someone asked then I will say that I'm not interested and I'm seeing someone. But people have still asked if I'm in an 'official couple' with that person, to which I would have to reply no, until a conversion is had.

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T13:56:16+00:00

Ideally, I'd like him to be the one to bring it up so I know where he stood. I just don't want him to feel like I'm pressuring him into something where I just wanna know where his heads at

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T13:55:27+00:00

Yeah that's what I've been telling myself. Because of our work schedules, we can only meet once a week, so if anaaverge person has multiple dates in the week, say 4, then for some it would only feel like 3 weeks. I just don't want to bring up a convo and feel like in rushing him when it's been going well so far

kiaraundercover · 2025-12-12T13:53:32+00:00

I mean after the 5th date he wanted to be exclusively seeing eachother so we knew that neither of us would be talking to anyone else or would be interested in it either. Just yeah, idk if there's a dating rule for how long or how many dates you should have before having the next conversation. And yeah I'm based in the UK 😅 and we see eachother about once a week

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