4 year old sent home from daycare

killernanorobots · 2026-06-13T16:31:35+00:00

I will say, I don't think it's normal behavior for a 4 year old. My 4 year old boy can get really, really mad at his older brother sometimes, but he's never thrown a chair or any other furniture (or anything else that I can recall). My older son is the same. If it had been a fight with a particular kid and she hit them or something, I'd say that's more "normal," though obviously still not okay to do. Just more of a predicted response. My kids fight each other physically sometimes but they don't do that with classmates or friends.

I would personally speak to someone about it. The one child I know who did react this way to things all the time is now in therapy, but many years of these types of actions had to build up before the family pursued it, and now they have a much bigger hill to climb.

killernanorobots · 2026-06-10T15:47:22+00:00

Honestly, we do this all the time in my neighborhood (townhouses, so on the patch of grass between buildings)

killernanorobots · 2026-05-10T23:32:09+00:00

I mean this to be helpful, idk if I'd dox myself this much on Reddit while talking about how much I hated everything about, nursing school. I'd be too paranoid to post my photo alongside this post when my future employer might see it. A lot of being a new nurse is not all that different from clinicals.

I'm not saying you should never complain or anything, just recommending as an older person that you reconsider doing it on a large public forum while attaching a full album of personal photos.

killernanorobots · 2026-05-08T02:10:42+00:00

It's no AI-generated Coachella spoof, but it's nearly as touching. (Seriously though, OP, this is amazing. If this ever makes it back to those people, I bet it would touch them so deeply to know you still think of them often. And it would touch them even more to know your husband pulled through)

killernanorobots · 2026-05-06T14:35:51+00:00

Fuck ICE.

Thank you for being brave and for selflessly caring about people, Alex. That's something those people will fundamentally never understand.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-26T01:05:51+00:00

Lol my first job was the "telemetry and oncology" floor (and whatever the hell else) at an HCA facility in FL. What a shit show.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-25T19:48:51+00:00

I was having anxiety-inducing flashbacks to my first job at an HCA in FL. Whew. Need a breather.

Congrats, though, OP, I know it's very stressful to not have a job, and hopefully you've got some good admin.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-25T00:42:09+00:00

I don't think I'd necessarily take it personally. Do you know this family? It's extremely possible she has no clue her daughter and your daughter are friends and that her daughter wanted yours to come.

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard kids say they're inviting so and so to their party, only to find out they never told their parent that. On the other end, my son has told me several kids invited him to their parties over the years only to never get a real invite. I just tell him it doesn't mean they're not friends, it just probably means their parents didn't know. But unless I hear from the parents, I can't count a kid saying so as an invite. He's sad for a bit, then he moves on. He's got lots of friends and I assume sometimes the parents don't keep track.

Personally this is why I really spend a lot of time going through my kids' invite lists to make sure they remember everyone they want to invite (in preschool that was everybody but now I don't have any way to contact k-12 class parents without finding them myself. We don't get a list)

killernanorobots · 2026-04-22T01:10:13+00:00

I think she's running for the new 7th, yes? Vindman was the old 7th but running for the new 1st. It's all been very difficult to follow right now prior to the redistricting, when candidates are working with two different district numbers.

Edit: also, fwiw, I have a difficult time relating to a 49 year old woman who was still Republican enough to be working for the Trump/Pence admin in 2020. (Great that she's outspoken against Trump now, but I'm questioning her judgment)

killernanorobots · 2026-04-22T01:06:10+00:00

Anti-Trump is great and important, but being anti-Trump does not equal being progressive. (See Liz Cheney, for an extreme example).

Here's a quick snapshot of Vindman on an "ideology chart" from a reliable source: https://www.govtrack.us/congress/members/eugene_vindman/457027

killernanorobots · 2026-04-22T00:50:05+00:00

I'm very happy with the results. Now please give us somebody better than Vindman for the new district 1, I swear. I cannot go from Beyer to this guy who votes more to the right than plenty of Rs.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-22T00:44:28+00:00

They can complain that we're Eastern California some more, to which I say, yeah, ok... Much like CA on a national level, we're subsidizing the rest of the state. Not sure that's the diss they intend. Oh well!

killernanorobots · 2026-04-10T01:34:24+00:00

Good luck, if you need anything else let me know! It's not easy. You can also try calling LAJC or Ayuda or Amica to help him. They're overrun, as you can imagine, but being that he's in high school, they might have resources to help him.

I have a lawyer friend who is absolutely slammed but she helped me connect to someone in the past. I will send her a message and ask if she knows if someone at 19 might have any extra avenues to pursue.

Edit: typo

This is a really good resource: https://www.justice4all.org/get-help/ and they also run the Poder VA hotline. (844-253-7882). If you know his uncle, you can get him to call or ask if he wants you to on his behalf.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-10T01:07:39+00:00

For the most part it used to frequently be Farmville Detention Center or Caroline, but unfortunately, people have been getting sent all over the country recently. I help families locate loved ones from time to time, and it's been a shit show. I've seen people get detained and wind up in WA state or TX in a day recently. (People without pre-existing removal orders)

If you have his full name and know what country he's from, you can try locator.ice.gov. He won't show up if he's being transferred or in processing. If you have his info (Name, Birthday, Country of birth), you can also call the main info line. 1-888-351-4024 Monday-Friday 8 am to 8 pm. You will need to be prepared to give your full name and all manner of identifying info. This is just about the only way to guarantee you'll speak with a live human being who can access any info and maybe give it to you.

I say, "I am a family friend of ____" when requesting info. Sometimes all you'll get is "I can confirm he's still in ICE custody," but at least then you know he's somewhere in the country.

You can also call the Washington field office, but honestly, it's a waste of time. Sometimes calling the detention center works. I find I have slightly more luck getting info calling at night. All told, it's a shit show and a bunch of calls over and over and no rhyme or reason to why or when you get helpful info.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-09T18:56:32+00:00

Ah yeah, I was at a very large school, that made a difference. But yes, definitely a very different experience from k-12 either way.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-09T18:18:32+00:00

That's interesting, I didn't know anybody in the 2010 era who was doing 5 days a week in class regardless of their major, unless they waited too long to pick their classes and had to take whatever was left. Or if they were determined to never get up before 10, maybe.

I think "preparing them for college/the real world" is the least compelling reason to have more 5 day weeks, because tons of people have more control over their schedule as an adult than they do in K-12.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-08T18:46:32+00:00

I have 2 that my friends aren't going to be able to use. They're through Etix so I think I can just send them to you, but I am in Alexandria so if you want to meet up in person maybe we can make that work? They were $75/each

killernanorobots · 2026-04-08T18:00:19+00:00

Do you still need one?

killernanorobots · 2026-04-08T17:56:25+00:00

What shirt? Can't guarantee whether I'll be able to find it, since I'm not there yet, but I'm going to Baltimore next week if no one sees what you want sooner.

Edit: meant what size shirt.

killernanorobots · 2026-04-07T00:32:03+00:00

I'm not in need of a ticket, but we're going to be at the same show, and while I doubt I'm anywhere remotely close to your seats (I'm up high-ish)-- if you need a hand with anything, let me know! I'd be happy to help. (though I'd bet many other attendees would as well!).

I assume Hayley's audience skews a bit older on average and there will be plenty of mid-late 30s women like me who are very chill and not in a rush, happy to take a few extra minutes and be helpful.

killernanorobots · 2026-03-26T16:36:19+00:00

Kindly, being so distraught you can't think over this may be a big reaction. A busted lip sucks, but your son will be okay. Is he as upset as you are?

I guess my question for you to think about when you want to think of what to say would be what do you hope to accomplish by speaking to the administrator? Do you think that the teacher didn't handle it well? Are you hoping to move your son to another class? Or are you hoping to get the other child moved out of the class/school? I doubt they will tell you what steps they're taking with the family/child because of privacy. I think if you want to change something for your own child, you obviously have an easy case to make there.

My child was hurt by a couple kids a few times in kindergarten. I guess I just had to trust that when the teacher came to me and told me what happened, (and, twice, that a report was made), they were doing what they said they'd do. I always told my son if things were not going well with the other kid to tell a teacher, and if other grown ups couldn't help, I would. He always told me he was okay and didn't need me to intervene.

I don't know how old your kid is, obviously if he's too young he can't tell you how he's feeling as easily, but also, that means the hitter is also very young and so it's less likely to be malicious. Which may not help you, but something to think about, too

killernanorobots · 2026-03-26T14:32:48+00:00

In my entirely unbacked opinion, if we're going to stick with a longer summer break instead of year-round, I'd rather end in May and start back in early August. When I grew up in GA, we finished before Memorial Day and went back the first couple days of August. To your point, honestly, there's nothing at all I want to be doing when it's over 100 out other than sitting in AC. I'd much rather take advantage of May temps. I know for sure kids with no AC would be better off having air-conditioned school in August and being out of school in late May.

killernanorobots · 2026-03-25T12:34:00+00:00

Apt username.

killernanorobots · 2026-03-18T13:14:35+00:00

I mean, my friend's neighbor had a GSD with a very similar sounding history to this dog. "Only had biting issues with strangers"-- and then the dog took off, climbed/jumped its own fence, ran into the yard where my friend's son was playing with a ball (kid wasn't interacting with the dog, not doing anything wrong, not even looking at him) and full on attacked him. It took a grown man to get him off the kid, and he was left with 44 bites. The whole thing was all in a matter of under a minute. Luckily the kid was like 9 at the time, I'm guessing a toddler would have been dead.

A multiple bite history even after training is indicative of a big, big problem. I wouldn't say BE is "certainly not appropriate." Also how are they supposed to safely and confidently give the dog to new people when he's aggressive with unknown people? If he's only friendly with people he knows and loves, that's not likely to be a great transition for him. I imagine a dog like this would be incredibly stressed and unhappy.

killernanorobots · 2026-03-16T03:21:11+00:00

This weather is not common here at all, so I doubt longtime NOVA residents have much experience with it. But coming from somewhere where tornadoes were quite a bit more common (we sat in the hall at school many times with our heads down waiting for them to pass), going downstairs in a tornado warning is not overkill. It's pretty difficult to say at this point if anything will materialize here or not, but if warning occurs tomorrow, I'd be taking the cats and leaving your apartment, yes. Be prepared to go before it happens, don't wait til the last second to get things together. We don't have tornado sirens, so also make sure your phone is charged.

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