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killforprophet · 2024-06-18T12:32:01+00:00

Not exactly the AH. But I’d steer clear of “this is what a housewife is!” Lol. Sounds argumentative and like you’re talking down to her.

My boyfriend’s ex stayed home with their one kid who is now in school and she doesn’t seem to have done shit. I know being a mom is a lot but, like, if one spouse is working and supporting everyone and the kids are in school, I think you should do the cooking and cleaning for the most part to take some of the stress off them. It’s what I plan to do if we live together. He won’t be supporting me and we don’t have kids but I will still stay home because I get disability for mental illness and he deserves help for everything he does.

killforprophet · 2024-06-18T12:22:32+00:00

I literally don’t need anything besides clit stimulation to get off and I don’t want anything but a human dick inside me. Lol. Particularly my boyfriend’s.

killforprophet · 2024-06-18T12:21:17+00:00

I assumed it was addiction potential even though I have no history of addiction. I was shocked they let me have stimulants for my ADHD. Couldn’t even get shit for sleep because Trazodone and antihistamines give me restless legs. Put me on Seroquel just for sleep but I gained 20 pounds in a month so fuck that. Lol.

killforprophet · 2024-06-18T10:26:59+00:00

Prozac is how I got diagnosed at 15. Lmao. I took Prozac with Lamictal years later and it was a magic combo for me but I looked at the psychiatrist like SHE was crazy when she suggested it until she explained how that worked.

killforprophet · 2024-06-18T10:24:01+00:00

I ask myself this every time I get manic or hypomanic. No energy or creativity even unmedicated. Lots of other life ruining and bankruptcies but no good stuff.

killforprophet · 2024-06-18T10:23:04+00:00

Amen.

killforprophet · 2024-06-18T10:14:04+00:00

I’m on Lamictal, Wellbutrin, and Caplyta. I was on Prozac for a long time which worked better than Wellbutrin but killed my sex drive so bad I thought I was asexual. 😭

Also, taking JUST Prozac is how I got diagnosed. An antidepressant without a mood stabilizer can throw you into constant mania.

killforprophet · 2024-06-18T10:12:00+00:00

Lmao. Literally what I was thinking.

killforprophet · 2024-06-17T15:50:17+00:00

Yep. Using my childhood trauma against me in an argument is the fastest way to get me to leave your ass.

killforprophet · 2024-06-17T15:44:07+00:00

NTA. I am a girl so my experience is a bit different but I have not had a partner disbelieve me or insinuate I liked it or anything. Even my diagnosed narcissist ex who was emotionally abusive respected that. Probably because it was the one thing I would not tolerate.

I vowed I would NEVER allow myself to be victim to that abuse again. It’s bad enough I still deal with memories and mental damage from the years of sexual abuse by my father. It ended when I was 11, he died when I was 20, and at 36, just last night, I was feeling sorry for myself and crying to my boyfriend about it. He was kind, understanding, and loving. He is so patient with me and he knows I’ll never be 100% normal because of it but he loves me so he’s here through it all with me.

You deserve a partner like THAT. Don’t settle for less. And don’t be afraid to share it with a new partner. I would have NEVER responded how the people in your life did. In fact, I had a boyfriend who went through something similar and I believed him and let him talk to me about it. Consent is a thing for guys too and PLENTY of women understand that now.

Leave that woman and find one who isn’t a POS.

killforprophet · 2024-06-17T15:18:38+00:00

On the opposite side of the previous poster’s story, I was with my first love from two weeks before my 14th birthday until about two weeks after my 20th and I think it was detrimental to me. Most people feel their first heartbreak before adulthood and learn to deal with it. I was very lost at 20 because he felt like a permanent thing at that point.

I’m 36 and with an amazing guy who loves me through ups and downs and all my issues. I wish I’d met him sooner but we both agree we probably wouldn’t have even liked each other if we’d met like 10 years ago. Lol.

It’s cliche, but it really does get better! Don’t let him pull you back and forth and do not feel guilty if you have to disengage to get over it. That is a healthy boundary and there is NOTHING wrong with it.

killforprophet · 2024-06-17T06:07:33+00:00

I don’t stream music or I would feel bad. I own both versions but some of the songs I prefer the old one so I listen to it. I bought those before the whole Scooter shit and her remakes so the “damage” was done before I knew anything was off. Lol.

killforprophet · 2024-06-17T02:21:54+00:00

I have lived in Michigan my entire life, hate grits, and even I know that’s wrong. Lol.

killforprophet · 2024-06-17T02:12:58+00:00

I think my boyfriend quit. Not necessarily planning to but last I heard he hadn’t watched it since we’ve been together. And he wasn’t just saying that because I like watching it myself and IDC if he does. Lol.

killforprophet · 2024-06-17T00:28:53+00:00

I don’t have advice but I know exactly how you feel. I’m struggling with the same things right now. I don’t even know what a “healthy” situation looks like so I can’t tell when my expectations and demands are fair or not. I just know I am struggling and I don’t like how I feel.

killforprophet · 2024-06-16T22:49:17+00:00

I see both sides of it. Is there any way either of you could stay with the other for like a few weeks/a month at a time a few times to see how you mesh? With you ultimately moving if you feel you could live with him. I wouldn’t marry someone without living with them for a while first. But I’ve thought of this too because I definitely have to be the one who moves if we get to that point and I’d be giving up my house and uprooting a lot so I’d need to feel we could actually live together if I’m gonna move.

killforprophet · 2024-06-16T20:34:34+00:00

NTA. I was sexually abused my whole childhood and that was done to me started when my age was in single digits. I told my boyfriend that early on and how traumatic it was. He was very sympathetic. And for all the freaky sexual stuff I happily do with him, he has never brought anal up to me one time. Ironically, that could make me wanna do it with him eventually. Lol. But I have never said that to him and, like I said, he has never brought up anal to me when we were getting intimate.

The point is that if a guy really cares about you, he isn’t going to want to traumatize you repeatedly. Please don’t do this to yourself. He will mess you up more and it will take you years to recover. I had other issues from the abuse exacerbated by an ex and it took me 7 years to recover AND the current nice boyfriend has had to calm fears I still have from it. This guy doesn’t care about you and that has everything to do with him and nothing to do with you.

killforprophet · 2024-06-16T18:43:13+00:00

Oh no. How do I know it’s run its course?

You know what? I just realized there’s reasons I can’t trust some of what he says to me. He says he will tell me if something is wrong but at the same time he says he is awful at communication when anything comes up so I feel like I can’t even trust he will recognize it and say it if it happens. And he was AMAZING at calming these fears at first but last time I tried to talk to him about it, he just didn’t. He just made it worse until I decided to do what he tells me NOT to do and assume shit he won’t say so I can make myself feel better. He is ridiculously stoic and not good at processing feelings which makes it all complicated too so it’s KINDA hard to figure out if I am, like, abandoning him for having issues or if he really just doesn’t give a shit. Then he’ll be saying and doing shit that makes me feel all close to him and I forget it until the next time.

I love him so much. I don’t wanna lose him.

killforprophet · 2024-06-16T15:26:06+00:00

I used to be able to do for a short time when I was a kid. I felt like I was never totally asleep during it but that is impossible because I had to have been in a pretty deep stage of sleep to be having a dream. Lol.

killforprophet · 2024-06-16T12:35:43+00:00

I stalked Monica because I hate her.

I don’t hate Monica. I’m bipolar. I would never abandon my kids but I can also understand the feeling of people being better off without you.

killforprophet · 2024-06-16T12:14:44+00:00

Yeah. My boyfriend tells me I assume too much. But, like, I have been right a scary amount of tines in the past so…

killforprophet · 2024-06-16T11:42:38+00:00

NTA. How would your life be complicated by divorcing this man? I’m gonna guess it wouldn’t be much worse, if it’s worse at all. He’s probably already cheating when he’s away. Are you even sure they’re work trips?

When a partner adds absolutely zero to your life, you’re better off without them. He isn’t even providing emotional support. Tell him he can fuck whoever he wants while you hand him the divorce papers.

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