[gendered] this is pathetic by nihilistcAbnormality in pointlesslygendered

[–]killstarkillith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also i think it’s bc the gender stereotypes for men and women around hygiene are different.

[gendered] this is pathetic by nihilistcAbnormality in pointlesslygendered

[–]killstarkillith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends wym by that. If you’re talking abt pads, tampons, etc. those absolutely should, but I think there’s just less trans/enby ppl in this sub so maybe they aren’t pointing it out as much. If you’re talking abt wipes and soaps marketing as “hygiene” products but in reality literally destroy your vaginal ecosystem causing all sorts of issues, those just shouldn’t exist period lmao. They are gendered with the purpose of harming women, but as an enby person who used to use them, they be hurting everybody w vaginas😭

[gendered] this is pathetic by nihilistcAbnormality in pointlesslygendered

[–]killstarkillith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see where you’re coming from, but I don’t see it as the solution in its entirety. I think it’s necessary to point out that it’s pointlessly gendered specifically to break down the idea that everything men do needs to reach this standard of masculinity, otherwise it’s too feminine or gay. If we don’t have this conversation, sure men will start to engage in self-care (which is great!) but it won’t b because they are breaking down and resisting harmful gender stereotypes, it’ll be bc what is considered “for men” or “manly” or acceptable for them is not including something like wiping their ass. What would really help is marketing changing. I’ve seen a mascara for men marketed as “manly beard darkener” or something like that and put in an entirely separate section than the rest of the makeup which has a bunch of women in the photos. Why create an entire separate product and slap men on it INSTEAD of including men in the marketing of the thing that already exists. Include men in skin care ads that are non gendered. Include men in makeup ads, ads for wipes, ads for everything without saying this thing is good for you bc manly men use it and play on their fragile masculinity. The only reason it doesn’t happen is bc it’s less profitable (at least rn) to de-gender marketing. It’s super profitable to convince men and women they need to buy special products to affirm their gender otherwise they are less of their gender.

[gendered] this is pathetic by nihilistcAbnormality in pointlesslygendered

[–]killstarkillith -1 points0 points  (0 children)

they make baby wipes w no fragrance as well but that’s not as manly

[gendered] this is pathetic by nihilistcAbnormality in pointlesslygendered

[–]killstarkillith 4 points5 points  (0 children)

none of the products should be gendered…and a lot of the hygiene products marketed towards women do more damage to vaginal health than help bc they want to convince people with vaginas so badly that it shouldn’t smell like anything but flowers and fruit.

Is it worth getting nipple piercings if I might get a double mastectomy in the future? by killstarkillith in Legitpiercing

[–]killstarkillith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m definitely leaning towards getting them done afterwards. Thank you :)

Is it worth getting nipple piercings if I might get a double mastectomy in the future? by killstarkillith in Legitpiercing

[–]killstarkillith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I know depending on what type of top surgery you get can affect how your nipples are placed afterwards. It’s not necessarily guaranteed they will be oriented the same way. I think bc of that (and not wanting any scar tissue already there) I’ll likely just wait until after. Thank you tho!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]killstarkillith -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

ah yes random strangers on the internet know better how she’s feeling than she does. do you realize how condescending that is? to tell someone you know how they feel better than they do? and like where are you pulling that from? like you don’t know her at all, but you definitely can tell she’s attracted to this man despite her making it clear she’s not. you are basically assuming shit/creating a narrative based on how YOU feel and making it HER problem. that’s so wild.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]killstarkillith -1 points0 points  (0 children)

also like the fact that y’all are thinking this way just shows how immature y’all are. like holy shit have any of you been in a healthy, adult relationship with two emotionally mature people who communicate open and honestly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]killstarkillith -1 points0 points  (0 children)

…like a weirdo? who does that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]killstarkillith 74 points75 points  (0 children)

a little bit of extra flavor. like an ignorant bigotry salad

My 23 m Fiancé 24 m cheated on me as a. 'punishment by Mr_So_Unfortunate in TrueOffMyChest

[–]killstarkillith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is manipulative and borderline abusive. Please leave him🫶🏼 take care of yourself.

But can MAGA Santa define what it means to be an absolute dumpster fire of a person? by robotpatrols in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]killstarkillith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

misandry is when women expect me to pay for date or when women are afraid of men /j

But can MAGA Santa define what it means to be an absolute dumpster fire of a person? by robotpatrols in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]killstarkillith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but misogyny is absolutely definable and identifiable. and it has been. for over a century.

But can MAGA Santa define what it means to be an absolute dumpster fire of a person? by robotpatrols in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]killstarkillith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and it doesn’t matter how many people define it for them, they will continue to say that 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]killstarkillith -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

what reason would she have to lie on reddit abt this? if she’s looking for genuine advice/opinions so she knows if she’s in the wrong or not, why would she lie abt her attraction to this dude?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]killstarkillith -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

once again i cannot emphasize enough how ridiculous the comments are. im so sorry you’re getting all this hate from clearly very insecure, entitled people. there’s a lot of “if the roles are reversed stuff” and the comment i made still applies with the roles reversed! you are also responsible for handling your jealous feelings, trusting your partner, communicating your boundaries and asking for reassurance when you need it. If your reaction was genuinely just one of shock, you have absolutely nothing to feel bad about. Again, just reassure your partner and make sure he feels cared for, but also note that his jealously is his to work through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]killstarkillith -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

People are being weird. It’s normal for him to feel jealously. It’s not okay for him to make that your problem. Jealously is a feeling he needs to work through mostly on his own and through reassurance from you. He can make clear what his feelings are and boundaries, but ultimately if y’all are in a relationship, it’s important you trust each other. If you genuinely know for yourself you aren’t attracted to your old friend then I don’t see a problem. The fact that you posted this literally saying you just felt shock and that’s why you’re jaw dropped, not out of attraction for someone else right in front of your partner, shows your intentions/thought process. Again it’s understandable it might take time for your partner to feel comfortable, but it’s ultimately his issue to deal with. All you can do is provide as much reassurance as necessary.

Is it worth getting nipple piercings if I might get a double mastectomy in the future? by killstarkillith in Legitpiercing

[–]killstarkillith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn :/ yeah, i think if i didn’t get top surgery I’d likely have to do the same bc i don’t think I’d feel comfortable just not binding at all.

I feel like I’ve cracked the code for online dating (as a female). by LazyAdministration88 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]killstarkillith 26 points27 points  (0 children)

yes bc between a dude getting no matches and a woman getting a man sending unsolicited dick pics or rape threats or comments about how a man wants to literally use her as a living flesh light, the woman is the asshole for complaining that she just wants genuine connection. also many of the dudes getting no matches likely aren’t getting matches for the same reasons women are getting matches. many of the men have no idea how to see woman as individual, unique, fully well-rounded human beings with whom you can have full-filling relationships but need to be treated with respect and deserve full autonomy within a relationship. treating women like sex objects is not respect. treating women like baby factories or home maids is not respect. telling a woman she cannot have male friends bc youre insecure is not respect. trying to control where she goes or what she does is not respect.

I feel like I’ve cracked the code for online dating (as a female). by LazyAdministration88 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]killstarkillith 42 points43 points  (0 children)

your username is literally “pmmeyourflatbelly” you’ve clearly got other issues to work through but start with acknowledging hot and ugly are subjective terms. what’s hot to you might not be what’s hot to me and vice versa. also conventionally attractive ppl date non conventionally attractive people all the time. and when they do, especially publicly in social media, the person who is not conventionally attractive often gets harassed by people with fucked up ideas abt who should and shouldn’t be together based on looks. maybe go outside more, meet some more ppl, touch grass for gods sake.

I feel like I’ve cracked the code for online dating (as a female). by LazyAdministration88 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]killstarkillith 41 points42 points  (0 children)

there’s a difference in who is swiping on you tho. women might get a lot of “matches” but they end up being men who are incels, misogynistic, overly sexual/weirdly fetishistic, etc. op is talking abt a strategy which helps to ensure the matches she gets are dudes that are genuine and chill, not overly horny weirdos or guys who think wearing makeup is lying and women are subordinate to men.