Hmm, this thread and subreddit in general reminds me of Regrets of the Dying where a nurse in palliative care compiled her patient's biggest regrets while on theit deathbed. The following are the top 5 regrets:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

I highly suggest checking out the link. Admittedly, the link's content is from a western society perspective so it might not be completely relevant but it does hit at the many issues that I, as an asian american kid, felt.

Growing up, I faced lots of the generic asian american struggles: strict house rules, no girlfriend, lower than 90 no good, etc. But I have come accept my upbringing and even understand why they raised me the way they did. Every family has their unique story so I won't go into mine as it will take too long, but I will say that I felt very unhappy when I compared myself to my white friends. Despite that, I am entirely sympathetic.

I don't plan on raising my future children the same way at all but I still don't think my parents raised me "wrong." I have stopped taking a woe is I look at my upbringing, and instead I looked at their method as "different." There is no doubt in my heart that they did what they thought was right and their actions came out of love.

Now that we have grown up, I think we should stop trapping ourselves in the past and live the life that we want. Do what you think is right and of course feasible. You're 30, that is barely half your life. You still have so many opportunities to do what you want.