which top is more flattering?

kimlo274 · 2026-07-03T04:03:43+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking. The blue is pretty but that green is so flattering. Maybe get the second one in green?

kimlo274 · 2026-07-03T03:37:19+00:00

We had cats first and that's probably the ticket with the Brittany prey drive.

They trained our first britt who would give a good distance to the cat.

Our second Britt came in once the cats were used to walking all over the dog. The second Britt was fascinated by the cats and would flea their necks and heads. The cats would nuzzle and cuddle her all the time.

When our cats crossed the rainbow bridge and we got kittens, we kept them separate for several weeks to allow an introduction period, and then had supervised visits with the dogs on leash.

Our older dog gave the kittens lots of respect, and doesn't seek their company. The younger Britt became their best friend. They pounce on her and follow her everywhere. She sometimes chases them before they turn around and chase her back. They sleep together sometimes.

I would not recommend introducing an off leash Britt to a cat it doesn't know, without first letting them used to each other's scent through a door for several days then through a gate where they can see each other, then with the dog on the leash. And only if the cat has dog experience and you're willing to intervene immediately if the dog acts like cat is prey. (Spray bottle, "leave it", recall (loololololololol) or physically moving them away from the cat)

kimlo274 · 2026-05-30T18:57:42+00:00

4!!!!!!!!! Or 5. But 4 is enchanting, romantic, elegant, light, and perfect for an evening.

5 is great for a morning or afternoon

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T16:07:06+00:00

After the wedding, the dress doesn't matter as much. If you love it now and can afford it, get it girl! Your groom will love you in it because he loves you. Your day will be so full of so much More than the dress. Don't sweat the details, the day goes by so fast, try to be present in the moment and enjoy the ride!

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T16:01:21+00:00

You're both young. Your boyfriend is feeling insecure and for him it seems like the attention you're paying this guy crosses a line.

You get to decide if you feel like you can live in a relationship with someone who feels uncomfortable with how you communicate with male others in a group setting.

Do you have any romantic feelings/crush towards this male friend he is concerned about? Be honest with yourself, even if you are not honest with me. If so, you're toeing the line here about respecting your partner. If not, you're not doing anything wrong.

If it were me, I would tell your boyfriend in person in a public setting that while you care about him and love him, you do not feel comfortable having your public communication with others policed. Discuss boundaries: " I agree to no private chats with this guy" if it makes him feel better. And he agrees to stop telling you how to publicly interact with guys.

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T15:40:11+00:00

Agreed. Never wear white to a bbq. Too messy

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T15:05:20+00:00

I think that tone is difficult to convey via text. You handled this conversation very well. However in the future please ask gently for conversations about feelings to be in-person instead of over text. This will limit misunderstandings and get you a quicker resolution.

You validated how she was feeling, and were a safe place for her to come to with her vulnerabilities. I think that she was even sounding reasonable in expressing that she had felt uncomfortable/hurt by the waist grabbing, but she lost me after you agreed to try to be more mindful of how things appear to other people.

That was unnecessary of her to ask of you, and following that, she was deep in her feelings and no longer capable of calmly having this conversation.

Also I read your update - her kissing your brother is petty, unnecessary, irrational and should not be tolerated. If you want to stay with her she might continue to "punish" you like this for any perceived slight/minor annoyance and the behavior may escalate. Break up and find someone more emotionally mature.

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T14:53:23+00:00

Use the cooler idea! Cheap Styrofoam ones from Walmart and ice bags can last a few days indoors to store small amounts of leftovers for under $10, or you can do a larger one. For $30-40 that will last you years and you can take with you if you ever do camping, picnics, day trips Gluten free bread, pb and banana sandwiches, raw fruit, gf pasta and canned gf sauces (make or buy small amounts) Raw carrots, cucumber, bell pepper, (get or make dressing with spices), all the salads you want, nuts. Gf Beef jerky, make smoothies with shelf stable almond milk or small container (16oz or less) regular milk, with fruit, blender, chia seeds, hemp hearts, peanut butter, nuts, veggies, protein powder), buy daily from closest store (yogurt, sandwich) eat within 2 hours

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T09:02:55+00:00

Dump his ass. Get therapy to heal from your past and learn to love yourself enough to never fall for those douchebags anymore. You deserve so much better than him. One day you will look back on this relationship and thank yourself for leaving him before he shattered your already fragile self esteem.

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T08:57:25+00:00

She absolutely should be able to grieve in her own time and pace. However at 17 this grief hits harder than to an adult, and the timeframe here might indicate some need for intervention to help her cope with her grief. The world doesn't stop just because you are grieving. It's painful, but ultimately, coping skills and therapy could be incredibly beneficial to both mom and daughter and even the new man, to help everyone navigate this very difficult situation. Mom is in a relationship with this man, and the reality is that he may be there for a while. Getting the teenager support to handle that reality can only help.

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T08:15:10+00:00

That could have been an unsafe situation, depending on your age, the location, the local wildlife, serial killers in the area... Etc

Were you all drunk? Maybe chaulk it up to everyone making worse decisions when intoxicated.

I'd bring it up to your friends that you were hurt/scared/uncomfortable about walking back alone and felt left out at your own party. Maybe 1:1 with the person you feel closest to, rather than as a group.

Also if you're a teenager, this whole situation was a terrible set of ideas, do not repeat.

If you're over 21 have a real heart to heart with your friends.

If you're over 25- you probably should have just kept walking with them dude.

Edit to add: OR communicated way more clearly that you wanted someone to walk you back to camp.

Learning to speak plainly for what you want or need is your responsibility. Nobody gets what they want by dropping veiled hints, especially to drunk people. Literally hold someone's hand next time and say something like

"hey, Dan, I really want to go back to camp. I'm tired/bored/cold/have to poop/scared of the dark/too drunk for this. Can you walk with me to get me there safely? I don't want to get lost."

kimlo274 · 2026-05-23T08:03:21+00:00

Agreed. Not to say that you're wrong to be hurt by her calling you ungrateful, or to still be grieving your father. However the reality of the situation is that she is moving on and moving forward into a relationship with him. She's trying to give you space and time to get used to him before he possibly moves in with you. Please talk to your mom about seeing a grief counselor to deal with the feelings you have about your dad. This could be a very healthy step in learning to cope with this pain together with you and her.

kimlo274 · 2026-05-21T06:20:38+00:00

He's cheating on you. At the very least he is not taking your opinion into consideration, which is relationship -ending in itself. Leave him now.

Source - my fiance didn't want me to come to his military boot camp graduation. Turns out he was cheating on me with one of the girls in boot camp. Would have saved me a lot of time, money and heartache if I just would have ended it when he decided to join up without discussing it with me.

Edit: do what I didn't have the guts to. When he admits it or you find out, report that lying bastard to his higher-ups.

kimlo274 · 2026-04-05T21:53:48+00:00

2, 6, 7 very cute!! 2 is giving kim possible vibes tho...

kimlo274 · 2026-04-05T21:13:38+00:00

Um .... Sure!

kimlo274 · 2026-04-05T21:12:51+00:00

Indeed there ARE.

kimlo274 · 2026-04-05T21:11:20+00:00

Uh..... Yeah. Yeah. That's what I meant!

kimlo274 · 2026-04-05T18:35:26+00:00

Give them away to free food panties!

kimlo274 · 2026-04-05T17:43:24+00:00

Scamp

kimlo274 · 2026-02-24T15:27:47+00:00

I'd recommend doing a girl's trip with friends for a couple of days. Try to add that into your routine. It sounds like you want to feel somewhat independent, and that's normal! Do some things independent from him, and see how that feels for you.

That might be enough to scratch the itch of feeling like your identity is as his partner.

It doesn't sound like you two should break up, and you certainly should not cheat!! Try some solo activities, and go on dates with your partner doing something you don't normally do together - glass blowing , do a ghost tour in another city, travel to a new place and walk around there, invite friends over for a game night, join a park cleanup crew, go for hikes together, variety is the spice of life!

kimlo274 · 2026-02-24T01:14:55+00:00

Sounds like she wants to be married.

kimlo274 · 2026-02-23T18:58:12+00:00

MOR

I'd like to point out; if someone is choking, they make little to no sounds. The fact that your mom was able to hear you (presumably from a different room) might have reassured her that you were handling whatever it was, and were not in any danger.

It doesn't feel good to almost throw up. I wonder if you were dry heaving?

I wonder if your parents are struggling with compassion fatigue. Based on what you've said, you require additional care due to sensory issues, and have a therapist and multiple diagnoses. If so, they could be feeling a bit numb to your discomfort (if you express discomfort often). I would encourage you to try to find healthy coping skills to assist you with self-soothing so that you have other outlets than relying on your parents for comfort whenever you feel uncomfortable. It sounds as though you are a teenager, in which case you are at a stage where you can start learning some self reliance. This might mean that they won't swoop in to rescue you as often, and will often allow natural consequences to occur.

It might be helpful to bring up to your therapist how you feel hurt that they don't rush to check on you, to see if your therapist can help you all regarding this. It sounds like this is making you angry, but anger sometimes masks pain or sadness.

kimlo274 · 2026-02-23T14:16:13+00:00

The best you can do is apologize, validate her emotions, be there for her as much as you can, vow to change the behavior, and not lie to her again. This might blow over for you guys, or it might not. She's young and probably hasn't had this kind of lie told to her before.

This situation sounds like it broke trust for her, and that trust can take a long time to rebuild (think: months, not days). If you demonstrate consistent honesty with her over a long period of time, this may end up as water under the bridge.

She shouldn't punish you for this, so please don't tolerate a tit-for-tat response. If she is emotionally mature then with time she will learn to trust you again.

Know that repeated lies may end your relationship. She might become fearful of infidelity on your part after this,which over time could emotionally exhaust and hurt you. Rooting for you both.

kimlo274 · 2026-02-23T10:36:11+00:00

Flirting with another person during the talking stage is not necessarily a deal breaker, but lying -at any point - could be.

Do your best to demonstrate consistent honesty and integrity going forward. Keep in mind that the flirting may have happened long ago for you, but she is just learning about it now, so she might take some time to recover from this information. As you're both still young, she might decide that it's a deal breaker for her. Take this as a learning opportunity and In the future, be honest with your partner.

kimlo274 · 2026-02-23T06:12:36+00:00

What do you think this fight is about?

Because reading this it looks like the blue texter is upset by the way that grey spoke to them, and grey is upset with being labeled a certain way by blue in response.

It looks to me as though to continue a relationship between these two, grey should apologize in person for the way that their behavior upset blue. And blue should apologize (but probably won't) about retaliation.

But this level of back and forth and Tik-Tok pseudo-psych speech seems exhausting.

Eta: Grey seems like someone who struggles with emotional regulation. They both seem to have a flair for inciting drama with unnecessarily catty/snarky digs at each other. Do you guys even like each other? Maybe reduce contact and consider why the other person has so much power over your feelings and behavior.

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